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My father 63 years old, live with my mather 62 years old. They knew each other since they were 18 so it's really a long time they are together. Now they time pass for everyone and my mother is no longer a beautyful woman. My dad left work 3 years ago so, since they live together they obviously speed time together. Maybe too much time.
My dad love to talk about politics and actual facts, but when speaking he need someone that basically tells him he is right, he goes mad rather quickly with me since (as the people who discussed with me know, I'm not really the diplomatic kind of guy) noor I don't agree with most of his politic ideas. But he tend to over react to my words causing a verbal clash. I don't feel like to tells him he is right only because I need to keep him calm. If I hear something I don't agree with, I let you know I don't agree, but he's no longer quiet and seems to be harder for him accepting different opinions. He wasn't like that 5 years ago.
My mother is another quite stubborn person on her own, (she has great qualities as a mother) but she is not on the same cultural level of my dad. She tend to avoid complicated discussions and when she do she tend to answer in a way that piss my father off. Yes, I recon she also has some defects, as a partner, I guess.
But that's only the thin of the iceberg.
Recently my dad is going out with another woman, she is 20 years younger and I think he is sort of falling in love. I don't judge him for that, nor I consider fidelity too important at the age of 60. Yes I'm sorry for my mother but that's it. She doesn't seem to suffer, she looks ok and most of time in a good mod. To be honest I don't really care about what my fahter do since I'll probably do the same when I'll be an old fart.![LOL :lol: :lol:](/wp-content/themes/gtp16/images/smilies/lol.svg?v=3)
That's not the problem, the problem is I'm not sure how much this woman plans to continue, since when I go to my parents home I often see my dad facebook texting like a teenager in a bad mood.
Today I saw my dad rumbling and swearing about a random facebook conversation with local people about speed limits on the road. (Seriously dad WTF. Go 🤬 fishing instead and relax the 🤬 out of you). I thought, obviously didn't tell him but still.
So he wanted my and my mother listening about these facebook rumblings and he was swearing about how stupid other people are. In some way he was right since the argument was lame. But the point is it seems he can't accept it was just a facebook conversation and later he was keep swearing and mumbling on his own in a really bad mood.
I think that's a sign his overall mental health is decreasing day after day and he is no longer able to mask it. He need to be healed. The lack of constructive discussion with my mother, this new woman that will probably run away in a couple of weeks, the ageing he probably doesn't want to accept...
all this stuff is cousing troubles in his head.
Need to find a solution and suggestions.
And eventually a way to find a good psychologist that actually helps him instead of robbing him.
Sorry for the huge wall of text.
My dad love to talk about politics and actual facts, but when speaking he need someone that basically tells him he is right, he goes mad rather quickly with me since (as the people who discussed with me know, I'm not really the diplomatic kind of guy) noor I don't agree with most of his politic ideas. But he tend to over react to my words causing a verbal clash. I don't feel like to tells him he is right only because I need to keep him calm. If I hear something I don't agree with, I let you know I don't agree, but he's no longer quiet and seems to be harder for him accepting different opinions. He wasn't like that 5 years ago.
My mother is another quite stubborn person on her own, (she has great qualities as a mother) but she is not on the same cultural level of my dad. She tend to avoid complicated discussions and when she do she tend to answer in a way that piss my father off. Yes, I recon she also has some defects, as a partner, I guess.
But that's only the thin of the iceberg.
Recently my dad is going out with another woman, she is 20 years younger and I think he is sort of falling in love. I don't judge him for that, nor I consider fidelity too important at the age of 60. Yes I'm sorry for my mother but that's it. She doesn't seem to suffer, she looks ok and most of time in a good mod. To be honest I don't really care about what my fahter do since I'll probably do the same when I'll be an old fart.
That's not the problem, the problem is I'm not sure how much this woman plans to continue, since when I go to my parents home I often see my dad facebook texting like a teenager in a bad mood.
Today I saw my dad rumbling and swearing about a random facebook conversation with local people about speed limits on the road. (Seriously dad WTF. Go 🤬 fishing instead and relax the 🤬 out of you). I thought, obviously didn't tell him but still.
So he wanted my and my mother listening about these facebook rumblings and he was swearing about how stupid other people are. In some way he was right since the argument was lame. But the point is it seems he can't accept it was just a facebook conversation and later he was keep swearing and mumbling on his own in a really bad mood.
I think that's a sign his overall mental health is decreasing day after day and he is no longer able to mask it. He need to be healed. The lack of constructive discussion with my mother, this new woman that will probably run away in a couple of weeks, the ageing he probably doesn't want to accept...
all this stuff is cousing troubles in his head.
Need to find a solution and suggestions.
And eventually a way to find a good psychologist that actually helps him instead of robbing him.
Sorry for the huge wall of text.