In the game there is no way to do what you want to do. The only way to increase RPM is with the NA tune and the engine balancing - however the effect on redline is minimal, while the increase in power is very marked with the NA tune. There is no way to increase redline in the game without increasing power.
In real life, however, you would weight-match and balance your moving parts, change your cam-shaft profile and valve springs to increase the potential rpm. It's not just the rpm itself that destroys and engine - rather it is usually the vibration or lack of oil supply at high rpm that blows an engine. At high rpm, if your valve springs are not strong enough, your valves can 'bounce', which causes a lot of problems. If there is a difference in moving masses between the crankshaft, con-rods and pistons, then you set up nasty vibrations in your engine. If your oil system cannot handle the demands of your engine at 10,000 rpm, then you will blow your engine apart. It is a lot of different things that need to be balanced out to allow your engine to run at higher rpm.
However, higher RPM doesn't always mean more power. Your camshafts are optimised to run best through a certain rev range. After that, it loses efficiency and your power falls away. So to make power at high RPM, you need to change your cams and valve system. Trouble is if you do that, you lose bottom end torque/power - the car becomes less driveable down low.
Lower bottom end torque/power means you need closer gearing to keep the engine in its powerband. It also means that because your powerband narrows, you'll be rowing your gearshift like a bilge-pump to keep it there. It's a very delicate balance, especially in smaller engines. Winding out your engine rpm without increasing the performance up high is pretty pointless. Most smaller performance engines have phenomenally high redlines to make enough power to disguise the fact that they have stuff-all bottom end performance.
With the mods mentioned above, we have a 350cui chevy V8 that will run out to 8,500 rpm. Try that in a stocker and you'll be eating valve-spring soup.