How do I tell someone?

[Tom]

I need advice GTP. Basically, there's this person that I know, I've known him for a while and we used to be really great friends and all a few years back. But an incident occurred back in 2010 resulting in my and his family not being on good terms anymore. My mother then decided it was a bad idea for me to have any contact with them, I disagreed and carried on chatting with him and so on and so forth. I've been told by my mother countless times that I'm not allowed to go out with him or have any human contact, which as I said, I did not follow. I've now found myself 2 years later, deciding that I don't want any contact with him and it would be better if we just avoided each other.

My problem is that we have had arguments for years and always fallen out and made up, I just feel this is how it will end up once again. I'm sure some GTP'ers have been in the same position, he's just generally a bad influence. He has no education and will probably be stuck in a dead-end job (if he's lucky). So, how do I tell him to get lost?

 

[HumanDestroyah]

Just slowly increase the amount of time inbetween encounters with the guy. Then disappear altogether. If you need it done overnight, hit on his mom.

Edit: It's good that you see he's a bad influence. Getting away from that as soon as you can is the smartest move to make 👍

 

[Lizard]

For a certain price they can dissapear for you by "accident"


Nah im not in that buisness but seriously I would just go the blunt route and say.

 

[Mr. S]

For a certain price they can dissapear for you by "accident"

Well, that'd be possible, most certainly - yet, he's not living in Liverpool, so it's not that easy, I guess.

 

[Famine]

Next time you see him, get him to hold two 20p pieces over his eyes and then wrap his head entirely with Sellotape - pop a golfball in his mouth if you're feeling cheeky - including his hands. Don't forget to leave nose holes. If you run out of tape before you run out of head, start a new roll.

Then walk away and never call him again or respond to his messages.

 

[Liquid]

I agree with the "reduce interaction/time between interactions" method.

Claims that you're busy, have work to do and so on will be invaluable excuses.

 

[Dennisch]

Kiss him, and tell him that your mom is wrong. You should be together.

 

[Slash]

Just talk less and less, eventually you'll forget. Keep yourself occupied with other things you like doing. Somrtimes I lose contact with people I do want to keep contact with so I imagine it wouldn't be too hard doing it to someone I don't like.

 

[Joey D]

So, how do I tell him to get lost?

Tell him to get lost, it's the best way to handle that situation. No need to concoct a major plan, being up front is always going to make it easier on you.

 

[jcm]

Kiss him, and tell him that your mom is wrong. You should be together.

That would probably work.

However if you're not that type of person, and you don't to be explaining this to counselors in 10 years, just say that you're 'busy' a lot. It works

 

[Lucas]

Tell him you are gay. It always works.





Unless they are gay too.

 

[Tom]

Thanks everyone for the, erm, good advice!

 

[Slick Rick]

Well I had a 'friend' like this, realised it wasnt a good friendship so cut them off completely like rejected their calls ignored texts or just replied busy and if they came over just said I was busy or going out etc.. It works.

 

[Liquid]

Deleting him from Facebook would be an obvious start. And a clear declaration of your intentions.

 

[Seismica]

Don't reply to texts, or simply give one word answers to kill the conversation. If he pops up on facebook chat or whatever other chat program you use, don't reply and pretend you're actually afk.

If he asks to meet up give an excuse; if you keep saying no to people they will stop asking you eventually.

Cutting someone off is fairly easy, unless you have other connections with him. Like for example, are you both part of the same circle of friends? It's best not to cut people off in that situation as it creates tension in the group and you could end up losing some of your good friends for the sake of that one guy. If it is the case, the best thing is just to endure, but try and talk to him a bit less in general and you will slowly drift apart.

Blocking on facebook is a bit harsh and not very subtle. If you're going to through subtlety out of the window you may aswell just tell him straight in person.

 

[Matej]

Deleting him from Facebook would be an obvious start. And a clear declaration of your intentions.

Uh, that might be inopportune approach to perform, I know that some people might respond aggressive to this depending how sensitive they are.

Cold behavior seems to be best and safest alternative I would say.

 

[Joey D]

Wait, people get pissed over people taking them off their Facebook friends list? That is kind of the epitome of first world problems.

 

[Rit]

Well as Steve Martin would say.You walk up to him and say "I break with thee,I break with thee,I break with thee!" and then throw dog poop on his shoes..👍

 

[Hollow]

Well I had a 'friend' like this, realised it wasnt a good friendship so cut them off completely like rejected their calls ignored texts or just replied busy and if they came over just said I was busy or going out etc.. It works.

This.

If you do this he would stop trying to get in touch with you knowing it's going to go nowhere.

 

[adamp93]

Show him this thread and say "this is about you!"
He should get the idea

 

[masterrawad]

Hey, my mother hates a lot of people and forbade me to speak with or speak of certain people. I had a certain friend who ticked off my father a while back (something about a camera?) My dad doesn't like it when I hang out with him. I see him a few times, but only in moderation: once every two days for a few minutes. I think that your mother should not forbid you to contact this person because he (hopefully) wasn't at fault.was he?

 

[bevo]

It's pretty simple, just stop hanging out with him. Find excuses to not do anything with him. Just make yourself unavailable. I've had to do that with alot of people I use to consider really good friends. When I changed my life for the better, most of them didn't, so I just stopped doing the things they did, and surrounded myself with people that are good influences.

 

[Schwartz]

Link him to this thread.

 

[SRV2LOW4ME]

Just have sex with his sister. Thats how I've always lost friends in the past.

 

[masterrawad]

Just have sex with his sister. Thats how I've always lost friends in the past.

And what if he doesn't have a sister? do his mother?

 

[Matej]

Wait, people get pissed over people taking them off their Facebook friends list?

Not pissed but insulted/offended. Possibility exists, you never know what kind of person you might meet.
We even had one girl in class which couldn't tolerate if someone raised voice over her even slightly. She also liked to enforce her own justice on class discussions. Not to mention that she always talks to daddy when someone tries to maintain normal conversation and says something offensive (her opinion of course) in her face...