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The Most Important Rule on How to Meet Girls
JANKY ON JUNE - 21 - 2011
It’s not what you’d expect. It’s not a rule you’ll find in any pick up material, any “how-to” guides, any “guru” sites, or any online dating advice columns. No, it’s a rule ignored by nearly every single relationship “pro” out there (which, ironically, makes me question the validity of a ton of the available material).
Want to know the most important rule on meeting women that you’ll ever learn?
THERE ARE NO RULES THAT ARE 100%
I could simply say, “There are no rules”, yet merely guidelines that are generally useful. Bear in mind, that these guidelines are NEVER empirical.
Are you shaking your head and saying “Wow… what a ****ing moron” yet?
Hear me out. “Pick up” literature (or whatever you prefer to call it) is often a very useful tool that will inspire men who would be otherwise uncomfortable, into going out and attempting to meet strange women.
Often times guides can give invaluable insight, or even share points of view that you may never have considered, had you lacked any prior experience in the dating world.
I strongly recommend every man who is unfamiliar and inexperienced socially to read a guide or two on how to flirt with a girl. The advice you’ll pick up is surely filled with a gem or six that will undoubtedly better your overall social dynamic and life in general.
What I’m getting at with the “There are no rules” theory, is that human interaction is so variable that it cannot simply be defined by a few corny acronyms and stereotypical dichotomies. It’s never that black and white. It’s not always “Yes” and “No”.
In the four plus years I’ve been working with people on dating advice forums, and in my entire lifespan of social interaction, I can honestly tell you I’ve heard some of the most ridiculous drivel ever spouted from those with such a myopic view of the dating world. These people will vehemently fight; claiming these narrow, cynical views as empirical, scientific fact.
It’s not science. There are applicable theories, but it is more of an ever-changing art. A mastery of cues, reading, speaking, attracting, and knowing just wtf you really want. The best part is the more that you just go have fun with it and stop over-analyzing, the better you’ll do overall.
I’ve heard such ridiculous theories from PUA beginners as;
“You can never be friends with a girl. If you’re friend-zoned it’s OVER forever”
“You have to exude alpha at all times and tell a girl what she’s doing”
“I cant get laid because I’m Indian/Asian” (sadly, I’ve really heard this more than five times!)
“The only guys that pull are rich/tall/aesthetic/have abs/etc”
“If she looks at the clock, never holds eye contact for more than 3 seconds, wears purple shoes, taps her wrist with her fingers, and flips her hair to the LEFT shoulder, she’s not into you at all!”
Ok, so maybe I’m embellishing a bit on the last piece (sadly, again, not so much). But you see the point I’m trying to illustrate?
This is so ridiculous.
You guys bound yourselves by these idiotic viewpoints that bare minimal significance in the real world. You can be friends with a girl and hook up later. I’ve done it plenty of times. Granted, if you’re the little sissy shoulder-to-cry-on-about-her-bf guy that she uses like a doormat, then no… you’re probably stuck. But if you’re the normal, regular, sex-loving, masculine you, there’s still a possibility. A friend-zone is NEVER a death sentence if you know how to work it.
More importantly, it’s a network into meeting her girlfriends, but we can cover that in another article.
You don’t have to be alpha 24/7. If you do, you’re pathetically TRYING to be alpha. Sure, you should be a man, stand your ground, not take **** from uppity, undeserving women, and never be afraid to admit you’re a sexual being… but you don’t need to bark orders at women. They won’t respond to that.
No one likes having orders barked at them, or insecure dweebs telling them “Hey you’re coming to my place tonight. be there at 7 and wear that slutty dress I like”
As for the race thing, come on. Do any of you really believe that you are destined to fail with women due to the color of your skin? Seriously?
If you honestly believe that, I’d love to hang out with you, because I guarantee I can show you guys of the same race as you that have no problems at all.
You honestly do not have to be a pro bodybuilder, a CEO, or 6’8 to pull girls. I can show you fat guys that have done well, broke guys who have, ghetto guys, short manlets, etc. This is purely subjective.
The “rules” you guys encounter in “how to talk to girls” material are merely guidelines, and should be treated as such. There is no ONE single truth that is applicable to EVERY single scenario and EVERY single woman.
Anything and everything you read is variable, and subjective. Apply it to your life, and your style. Make it work for you. Own it in your own unique way. Do not become a dip**** robot ranting on the internet about how these are scientifically proven facts because pick up literature told you so.
Go live your life, adapt to it, and make it work for you in your own way. Let go of the asinine constraints that set you up for mental failure, and go figure out what does (or doesn’t) work for you.
The Most Important Rule on How to Meet Girls
JANKY ON JUNE - 21 - 2011
It’s not what you’d expect. It’s not a rule you’ll find in any pick up material, any “how-to” guides, any “guru” sites, or any online dating advice columns. No, it’s a rule ignored by nearly every single relationship “pro” out there (which, ironically, makes me question the validity of a ton of the available material).
Want to know the most important rule on meeting women that you’ll ever learn?
THERE ARE NO RULES THAT ARE 100%
I could simply say, “There are no rules”, yet merely guidelines that are generally useful. Bear in mind, that these guidelines are NEVER empirical.
Are you shaking your head and saying “Wow… what a ****ing moron” yet?
Hear me out. “Pick up” literature (or whatever you prefer to call it) is often a very useful tool that will inspire men who would be otherwise uncomfortable, into going out and attempting to meet strange women.
Often times guides can give invaluable insight, or even share points of view that you may never have considered, had you lacked any prior experience in the dating world.
I strongly recommend every man who is unfamiliar and inexperienced socially to read a guide or two on how to flirt with a girl. The advice you’ll pick up is surely filled with a gem or six that will undoubtedly better your overall social dynamic and life in general.
What I’m getting at with the “There are no rules” theory, is that human interaction is so variable that it cannot simply be defined by a few corny acronyms and stereotypical dichotomies. It’s never that black and white. It’s not always “Yes” and “No”.
In the four plus years I’ve been working with people on dating advice forums, and in my entire lifespan of social interaction, I can honestly tell you I’ve heard some of the most ridiculous drivel ever spouted from those with such a myopic view of the dating world. These people will vehemently fight; claiming these narrow, cynical views as empirical, scientific fact.
It’s not science. There are applicable theories, but it is more of an ever-changing art. A mastery of cues, reading, speaking, attracting, and knowing just wtf you really want. The best part is the more that you just go have fun with it and stop over-analyzing, the better you’ll do overall.
I’ve heard such ridiculous theories from PUA beginners as;
“You can never be friends with a girl. If you’re friend-zoned it’s OVER forever”
“You have to exude alpha at all times and tell a girl what she’s doing”
“I cant get laid because I’m Indian/Asian” (sadly, I’ve really heard this more than five times!)
“The only guys that pull are rich/tall/aesthetic/have abs/etc”
“If she looks at the clock, never holds eye contact for more than 3 seconds, wears purple shoes, taps her wrist with her fingers, and flips her hair to the LEFT shoulder, she’s not into you at all!”
Ok, so maybe I’m embellishing a bit on the last piece (sadly, again, not so much). But you see the point I’m trying to illustrate?
This is so ridiculous.
You guys bound yourselves by these idiotic viewpoints that bare minimal significance in the real world. You can be friends with a girl and hook up later. I’ve done it plenty of times. Granted, if you’re the little sissy shoulder-to-cry-on-about-her-bf guy that she uses like a doormat, then no… you’re probably stuck. But if you’re the normal, regular, sex-loving, masculine you, there’s still a possibility. A friend-zone is NEVER a death sentence if you know how to work it.
More importantly, it’s a network into meeting her girlfriends, but we can cover that in another article.
You don’t have to be alpha 24/7. If you do, you’re pathetically TRYING to be alpha. Sure, you should be a man, stand your ground, not take **** from uppity, undeserving women, and never be afraid to admit you’re a sexual being… but you don’t need to bark orders at women. They won’t respond to that.
No one likes having orders barked at them, or insecure dweebs telling them “Hey you’re coming to my place tonight. be there at 7 and wear that slutty dress I like”
As for the race thing, come on. Do any of you really believe that you are destined to fail with women due to the color of your skin? Seriously?
If you honestly believe that, I’d love to hang out with you, because I guarantee I can show you guys of the same race as you that have no problems at all.
You honestly do not have to be a pro bodybuilder, a CEO, or 6’8 to pull girls. I can show you fat guys that have done well, broke guys who have, ghetto guys, short manlets, etc. This is purely subjective.
The “rules” you guys encounter in “how to talk to girls” material are merely guidelines, and should be treated as such. There is no ONE single truth that is applicable to EVERY single scenario and EVERY single woman.
Anything and everything you read is variable, and subjective. Apply it to your life, and your style. Make it work for you. Own it in your own unique way. Do not become a dip**** robot ranting on the internet about how these are scientifically proven facts because pick up literature told you so.
Go live your life, adapt to it, and make it work for you in your own way. Let go of the asinine constraints that set you up for mental failure, and go figure out what does (or doesn’t) work for you.
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