No Car= No Date?

[gt4viper]

Hey all my GTP mentors, I am in need of some girl advice,(your favorite subject I'm sure).

I'm nineteen, moderate looks, moderate muscle, moderate cash.
For reasons I won't bore you with here , I only have a learners permit, and my dad let's me drive his SR5 tundra. we work, live, and generally do everything together. Being 19, I have an interest in girls, not so much to get laid (I plan on being a virgin till I get married) but to have a partner to share life's adventures with.

In short, can I realistically have a girlfriend without a ride? I mean how do you take a girl out without wheels? Their is no public transportation here, and I really doubt I'm going to get taken seriously with my dad chauffeuring us around. I'm rather OK with waiting till I can get my own car and insurance, but my family says I'm just girl shy and making excuses (I'm not girl shy, rather I'm pretty good at making conversation).

Help Please?
Advice greatly appreciated, especially from you GTP lady's out there!

 

[Schwartz]

Why is this in the GT5 drag racing section?

 

[gt4viper]

yeah, duh! I just moved it, sorry!

 

[viperbeatsvette]

Hey all my GTP mentors, I am in need of some girl advice,(your favorite subject I'm sure).

I'm nineteen, moderate looks, moderate muscle, moderate cash.
For reasons I won't bore you with here , I only have a learners permit, and my dad let's me drive his SR5 tundra. we work, live, and generally do everything together. Being 19, I have an interest in girls, not so much to get laid (I plan on being a virgin till I get married) but to have a partner to share life's adventures with.

In short, can I realistically have a girlfriend without a ride? I mean how do you take a girl out without wheels? Their is no public transportation here, and I really doubt I'm going to get taken seriously with my dad chauffeuring us around. I'm rather OK with waiting till I can get my own car and insurance, but my family says I'm just girl shy and making excuses (I'm not girl shy, rather I'm pretty good at making conversation).

Help Please?
Advice greatly appreciated, especially from you GTP lady's out there!

ill say what i can to help a viper loving brother. im sure having a ride isnt a big thing when finding a missus. Its all on compatibility if there is to be nothing sexual. find someone you share values with who likes you for you and nothing else. if they dont appreciate then shove them away.

its shallow to like a person because they own a car. dont look for those girls mate. just be confident, funny, but also dont smother them and tell them you love them straight away. keep it cool but keep them at arms length 👍

 

[Schwartz]

Still wrong forum.https://www.gtplanet.net/forum/forumdisplay.php?f=4

To answer your question, get a girlfriend with a car. It shouldn't be too hard since you're 19.

 

[niky]

Moved again. This problem doesn't seem as weighty as some of the other discussions in the Opinions forum. But then... that's just an opinion.

A car is a massive resource drain and investment... even the cheapest car is. Only makes sense if you've got a job that requires a goodly commute.

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Personally, if she won't date you because of a simple lack of wheels, then she's probably not someone serious and mature enough for you to want to spend the rest of your life with... yet.

If the girl enjoys your company sans car, she'll enjoy your company with a car... and perhaps through whatever else comes after.

 

[Milldrum]

Why is this in the Drag section?

That's what I read. Sorry, it must be my mind wishing and stuff.

"I knew a girl. I didn't have a car. She left me for a dude with a car. Blah blah blah." Do not let this become you. What do you do when your not working? Wouldn't it be nice to meet a girl with the same interests?

I have a friend that wanted to meet a girl to be with for the rest of his life. He went to night clubs etc. Met all kinds of girls. Then on Sunday, he took his mother to church. I asked why he didn't go to more church functions and he looked at me as if a light had just turned on. (No I don't go to church.) My thinking was 'Go where people share your interests and values.'

Then she will want you to be a part of her life with or without a car.

 

[lukecfc]

I'm not sure what it's like to be 19, but I am in my last year at high school (everyones turning 18 this year), and a lot of guys don't have cars but still have girlfriends. My best mate doesn't have a car, and he catches the bus with his girlfriend all the time, their relationship is fine.

Honestly though, it is a pain not having a car, but it's nothing to destroy a relationship over. It really is about how much she's into you. The novelty of the car would wear off after the first few dates, and if she's not that into you, she would leave anyway. Not having a car is no reason not to try though.

 

[Azuremen]

High school relationships are a bit different though, simply because of the nature of everyone going to the same place daily.

Really, you can see a girl even without a car, or even if you have to get driven around by the folks. It is nice to have, for sure, but not needed. And can lead to some fun stories as well. Honestly, car is more useful if you plan on being less pure of heart (the virgin bit) as it lets you circumvent having to live with parents etc.

Your parents are probably onto something about you being girl shy. Why do I say this? Because you came to the Internets to get advice on girls It isn't a bad thing really, and can be overcome, mostly by just putting yourself out there a bit.

 

[Luminis]

Don't mind me saying this, but not wanting to get laid until you're married might be a bigger obstacle in finding a girlfriend than the lack of a car. Girls have their own needs these days, you know.

If you can find a girl that accepts that and doesn't cheat on you to get her kicks, she'll be okay with you not having a car, easily. Best of luck to you!

 

[gt4viper]

Thanks guys for the help, I don't usually resort to the web for advice but I wanted some unbiased second opinions. I suppose I just had this idea in my head: turn 16, buy car, find girl. It's kind of a stereotypical image of how it's supposed to work, at least in my mind. But cars are a huge drain of cash, the truck itself is one thing, but insurance for a nineteen year old male? bring a defibrillator! Even though I could afford it, I can't justify it, hence...

So I guess now the next step is to dig down real deep and find some b**ls, and ask that cute brunette out for coffee or lunch or something.

 

[Steele_obsidion]

While having a car does help. its not necessary to get with the ladies. when your 16 having a car automatically makes you hot stuff, but when you turn 18+ you get the ladies who are looking for more than just a sweet ride. they want emotional connections. My step cousin drives her boyfriend everywhere for he has no car!

in the end a car may help but its not necessary!

 

[Pezzarinho17]

There are girls out there that will see you have your own car and go "Oh cool, someone with a bit of money I can show off to my friends!" but by the sounds of it that is not who you want to be sharing life adventures with as you have some sense!

Every guy then plans on turning up outside a girls house in a car and them going "Ooh, is that a 350Z? I prefer the looks of the 370Z but for the money this one is just as good. Any engine mods to push it past 300 brake?" but you'll be lucky 999/1000 times for them to actually go "I like red. When are we going to the cinema then?"

Based on all probabilities, don't base choice of getting car on getting girls or vice versa. Having your own place will be a more wise investment on that front but again, that should be based on your own choice.

 

[Blitz24]

You can definitely get a girlfriend without having a car. I'd just be careful if a girl asks you if you have a car and her lead in is sort of like "well, I need to go places for certain things." Sadly it is possible for a girl to be conniving in order to get what they want and she can hide her feelings if she sees you as having money. For these girls, just walk away because they are not worth the time.

 

[Pupik]

As long as she's not 20 miles away, your lack of personal transportation isn't a big deal. Any friend is usually impressed that you can walk to her place, or get there by any means necessary (as long as you're on time). Although if they're that materialistic, don't bother...still, in those teenage years, you're going to run into a lot of that, not because everyone's automatically stupid and/or vacuous, but because they don't know any better, and align their feelings with others because that's the easy and comfortable thing to do.

Even twenty years ago, I was kind of surprised that not everyone was interested in getting their permit on their respective birthdays, let alone their license right on time. I even waited 6 months until after my birthday (although I had a permit), because I had lots of things going on in my life. I may have fancied myself a racing driver in my dreams, but the reality was I couldn't afford the upkeep/insurance/feeding of a car for a while.