Opinions: Dating taboo & non-taboo

ITCC_Andrew

ITCC_Andrew

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Hey guys,


I'm just curious about what people think is "taboo" or culturally unacceptable, in regards to dating.


I'm not a stranger to dating, in general, but, specifically, I'm curious about what people think of dating someone who recently moved to a new country (because France, that's why.)


Moderators, I don't mind if you think that this fits better with "Current Events...," & I don't know which forum is the best part.


Anyways, post your thoughts. What do people respect? When is dating inappropriate? Should society say that it's bad for 14 year olds to be dating? Should society say that two people can or can't be together? Should a North Korean & a South Korean be able to date? The questions & answers will vary. Don't disrespect. Dispute. Discuss.
 
What I've observed: White guys don't date black girls, but white girls date black guys. I don't know if it's "taboo" or if it's just natural attraction.
 
^^ I'm a typical German... & I feel no attraction to African-Canadians, or otherwise "black" people. While I know that they're great people, I couldn't date one. But, indeed, I've seen some *NICE* girls, (whom I've been interested in) who won't date the German/Irish type, like me.
 
I've dated them all except family and the same sex.

Japanese, African-Americans, Mexicans, Canadians, French, Dutch, Germans, Danish, Swedish, Koreans, Chinese, etc. And all the combinations. Made no difference to me.

If I'm attracted to somebody, and found them interesting, nice, etc. I dated them. I never set limits on affection and love. Why others do, I just can't understand.
 
Schwartz
What I've observed: White guys don't date black girls, but white girls date black guys. I don't know if it's "taboo" or if it's just natural attraction.
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Plenty of white guys date black girls round here, and the other way round. I don't think there should be any taboos in dating. As long as you're not breaking the law, there's no problem.
 
Sonny, you don't get past first base on the first date. Not if she's a woman you actually intend to have a meaningful relationship with.
 
Statutory rape in UK is when an adult (18) has a sex with a minor(15).

Niky, that's just your value system. Not everyone elses. I know plenty of people who have had or having lasting relationships with people they got past 'first base' with on the first night.
I made it past first base with my missus when we weren't even on our first date. We have been together for 12 years and are very happy.
 
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niky
Sonny, you don't get past first base on the first date. Not if she's a woman you actually intend to have a meaningful relationship with.
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I did intend to have a meaningful relationship. :lol: Technically, we had been dating off-and-on for three years beforehand, but, it was our first night together after a break-up & re-unification (Wiedervereinigung is the closest word I can think of.)

Even that only lasted 21 days. :lol: niky might have a point.
 
Solid Lifters
I've dated them all except family and the same sex.

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If I'm attracted to somebody, and found them interesting, nice, etc. I dated them. I never set limits on affection and love. Why others do, I just can't understand.
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Even twelve and dead?
 
Skuh
Statutory rape in UK is when an adult (18) has a sex with a minor(15).

Niky, that's just your value system. Not everyone elses. I know plenty of people who have had or having lasting relationships with people they got past 'first base' with on the first night.
I made it past first base with my missus when we weren't even on our first date. We have been together for 12 years and are very happy.
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Oh, not saying it's impossible. Just that a waiting is usually a good idea.

I have no objection to adults doing whatever they want, in whichever position they want to do it and with however many other consenting and non-deceased adults they want to do it with.
 
One rule I have learned the hard way, don't mess with your friend's ex girlfriends. For some of you this may be common sense, but to me I just don't see the big deal as long as their was a long break (like 2 years+) between the relationship. In my group of friends after high school, there were 3-4 girls that dated everyone in the group within a two year time span. They would date for 1-2 months, break up, then go out with the next guy. No one really cared because we were all having a good time. I learned that everyone is not like that.

My bad experience was a few years ago when I started talking to my friends ex, and I went to see her out at her school. We went on a few dates, and I stayed over a handful of times. Well, she ended up telling my friend. I wasn't hiding it from him, I just didn't mention it. I guess the important factor here is that after 2 years of being broken up, he was still not over her. I did not know that, or I would have stayed away. We have a pick up football game every Thanksgiving morning with about 20 of our friends. He shows up at the game fuming with rage, with the intent to kill me. Fortunately he did not get close enough, everyone held him back and made him leave. I guess my advice would be, if you think it's OK to date a friend's ex, always ask first. We are still good friends today, and hangout almost every weekend.

Regarding taboo dating, I really have very few rules I follow. I don't like girls that smoke, being one.

Age doesn't matter, my last girlfriend was 21 (I'm 27), when I was 21 I dated a 28 year old, and when I was 17 I dated a 19 year old. Of course, none of those were serious. My one serious relationship was with a girl my same age a few years ago, but she ended up cheating with a coworker at Starbucks, so go figure.

Race doesn't matter, I dated a black girl earlier this year who actually prefers white guys. Turns out, she was just a gold digger though. :lol: If I got to choose, I would probably prefer a latino/hispanic chica. The dark skin and accent do me in.
 
Half your age plus seven.

As long as it doesn't fall within statutory rape ranges.

'Nuff said
 
niky
Oh, not saying it's impossible. Just that a waiting is usually a good idea.

I have no objection to adults doing whatever they want, in whichever position they want to do it and with however many other consenting and non-deceased adults they want to do it with.
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:lol:


And, not specifically talking to niky, but, in general, how about my situation?


What should a person remember to do/not do, when interested in dating a person whose family recently moved to a new country?


In my case, it's a petite French girl who just moved with her family, to Canada, last year. What sort of problems could occur?
 
As far as I'm aware, the only remaining taboo in the UK is black and sub-continent Asians being together. I know it causes a lot of issues with both people being shunned by their respective communities. But what I will say is, go with what you are comfortable with. As long as it is legal, just let things go naturally - but from personal experience, don't give it all up on the first date. The relationship doesn't seem to last (there are exceptions, but on the whole it doesn't seem to work).
 
I was told by numerous people dating a Jewish girl was somehow taboo because I wasn't. While it seems to annoy people in her neighborhood to some degree, her family loves me so whatever.
 
Dating people who are family but not related to you is generally considered taboo (though in some cases it's very hard to see why). Adopted or simply genetically unrelated siblings, children, parents, grandchildren, aunts, uncles, etc. But it is done on occasion.

Also farm animals.
 
^ I can understand a bit of a reputation-loss (loss of respect) for dating someone who's technically a part of the family.


My uncle's dating the mother of a model, and my mom always asks me if I'd date her. :ill: No blood relation, but, it'd be weird. And, she's blonde. :yuck: not my type at all.
 
Solid Lifters
I've dated them all except family and the same sex.

Japanese, African-Americans, Mexicans, Canadians, French, Dutch, Germans, Danish, Swedish, Koreans, Chinese, etc. And all the combinations. Made no difference to me.
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Same with me.

Well....

Maybe not dated...

Just...

Y'know...

:sly:
 

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