Sell a gift.

[Corsa]

Opinions appreciated.

Would you consider it rude or insensitive to sell a high dollar gift you do not need, or would rarely use?

My situation is I received a gift from a wealthy family member that lives 10 hours away, I never see them.

The value of the gift while it should not matter obviously has bearing here, as I could use the cash elsewhere such as a new GPU or maybe even a DD wheel.
The value is around $1000.

If you spent decent money, then they sold for something they would like better, would you be upset?

 

[ryzno]

Situations like this is why I give everyone cash.
I'm not good at guessing what someone I rarely see wants or what stores they like, to get them a gift card.
I've never had anyone complain finding a $50 in their card for whatever occasion.

 

[mustafur]

It's Rude if they will see it.

I'm not a fan of giving people gifts from what you think they will like, it rarely works out perfectly much better to gift them money so they can get exactly what they want, unless of course they have hinted it numerous occasions that X is what they want or something.

 

[Danoff]

If it's something of sentimental value then yes. I was gifted an antique rifle that was very sentimental to the gifter and I think I would have very much hurt his feelings to turn around and sell it immediately. But, for the most part I'd honestly I'd rather someone have the value in cash if they value it more than what I gifted them. If you feel otherwise then you should question why you're gifting in the first place.

 

[coryclifford]

So when grandma asks if you ever wear that watch her dead husband wore for 64 years asks… yeah I sold it…

Selling gifts is pretty rude.

Giving cash is pretty much how gifts should be, unless sentimental.

 

[baldgye]

My situation is I received a gift from a wealthy family member that lives 10 hours away, I never see them.

I would say no, it wouldn't be rude.

Personally I'd think it pretty rude and a crass display of wealth, for someone far wealthier than me to give me expensive gifts I'd never realistically afford, especially if I never see them or have any real interaction with them. It's almost like; "chya remember me? Still loaded! boom here is something I just picked up, yeah those are real diamonds, ok ciao ciao!" *finger guns*

Sell that ****

 

[Corsa]

I would say no, it wouldn't be rude.

Personally I'd think it pretty rude and a crass display of wealth, for someone far wealthier than me to give me expensive gifts I'd never realistically afford, especially if I never see them or have any real interaction with them. It's almost like; "chya remember me? Still loaded! boom here is something I just picked up, yeah those are real diamonds, ok ciao ciao!" *finger guns*

Sell that ****

This is the same frequency I was on with all this.
Why did you send me a fully loaded Traeger Timberline pellet grill?
Still in the box if I put this thing together it will take up half my back porch and get used twice a month.
My $30 Walmart charcoal grill cooks burgers quite well hell I wasn't even aware grills went up into thousands of dollars.

 

[Johnnypenso]

I would say no, it wouldn't be rude.

Personally I'd think it pretty rude and a crass display of wealth, for someone far wealthier than me to give me expensive gifts I'd never realistically afford, especially if I never see them or have any real interaction with them. It's almost like; "chya remember me? Still loaded! boom here is something I just picked up, yeah those are real diamonds, ok ciao ciao!" *finger guns*

Sell that ****

I can't tell if this is sarcasm or not.

 

[Exorcet]

In general I'd say no, but this really depends on the person gifting. If I give you something and relinquish my ownership, then you can do whatever you want with it. Other people might think differently.

Personally I'd think it pretty rude and a crass display of wealth, for someone far wealthier than me to give me expensive gifts I'd never realistically afford, especially if I never see them or have any real interaction with them.

I don't think I'd jump to that conclusion. The value of the gift doesn't necessarily make the intentions of the donor nefarious. I'd be more concerned over whether I have a use for the gift or not, regardless of the value.

 

[Rallywagon]

This is the same frequency I was on with all this.
Why did you send me a fully loaded Traeger Timberline pellet grill?
Still in the box if I put this thing together it will take up half my back porch and get used twice a month.
My $30 Walmart charcoal grill cooks burgers quite well hell I wasn't even aware grills went up into thousands of dollars.

My gawd! The 1300 or 850? Can we trade grills perhaps? Wish I could offer you an amount that would be worth it.
That being said... I agree with what most are saying. They didnt get you that gift out of real consideration, otherwise they would have vest more time into figuring out your interests and getting you something you might actually use. A grill is the ol generic man gift. Sell that bad lad and make yourself a motion rig.

 

[Corsa]

My gawd! The 1300 or 850? Can we trade grills perhaps? Wish I could offer you an amount that would be worth it.
That being said... I agree with what most are saying. They didnt get you that gift out of real consideration, otherwise they would have vest more time into figuring out your interests and getting you something you might actually use. A grill is the ol generic man gift. Sell that bad lad and make yourself a motion rig.

I was wrong with the model.

It is the Renegade Pro, I just finished putting it together it is a stout piece of gear very heavy duty.

Going to give it a try to see what all the pellet fuss is about...

 

[Liquid]

It always depends; some things yes, other things no.

It's not a binary argument.

 

[Johnnypenso]

I'd take a longer term view myself. If I was a young guy starting out with a wealthy relative buying me gifts, even gifts I wouldn't normally buy for myself, I'd encourage it by accepting the gift and using it and thanking them profusely while raving about the gift. Make them feel good about it while dropping hints for your next birthday or Christmas or whatever that you could really use a new racing wheel or whatever you really want.

 

[Rallywagon]

I'd take a longer term view myself. If I was a young guy starting out with a wealthy relative buying me gifts, even gifts I wouldn't normally buy for myself, I'd encourage it by accepting the gift and using it and thanking them profusely while raving about the gift. Make them feel good about it while dropping hints for your next birthday or Christmas or whatever that you could really use a new racing wheel or whatever you really want.

I mean, if they are just throwing it out there... but, you gotta be in contact with them and hope they care enough to notice your likes and wants...

 

[TexRex]

Going to give it a try to see what all the pellet fuss is about...

I know this isn't the focus of the thread, but I'd wager you'll be happy with it. I had some pime to wood pellets arrive Tuesday and I'll be doing some proper jerk chicken in the very near future.

More to the topic at hand, I'd have to agree with @Liquid and add that there are myriad variables to consider when deciding whether it's acceptable to re-gift or monetize a gift you received.

 

[Johnnypenso]

I mean, if they are just throwing it out there... but, you gotta be in contact with them and hope they care enough to notice your likes and wants...

They may or they may not notice but I'd still play the long game. Selling one gift and risking alienating them forever vs. nice gifts rolling in from your wealthy relatives forever? I'll take the latter any day regardless of what they are.

 

[Sanji Himura]

Situations like this is why I give everyone cash.
I'm not good at guessing what someone I rarely see wants or what stores they like, to get them a gift card.
I've never had anyone complain finding a $50 in their card for whatever occasion.

This is why I always request cash at birthdays and Christmases. Cash is indeed king, and no one is offended at the end.

However, I do have to agree with @Johnnypenso at the end. Play the long game in regards to the gift.

 

[Rallywagon]

Hmmm. Idk, maybe... Corsa, perhaps now is a good time to learn how to do a good slow smoke and bbq. Got a really good grill for it.

 

[Robin]

I would sway to Yes, especially as it's a family member. Also it depends if this is an expensive commercial item or some heirloom or antique. Personally I wouldn't sell it because it's kind of a kick in the teeth to a person who thought enough of you to give such a valueable gift.

 

[PocketZeven]

It really depends on the gift, the emotional value and your own situation. If the distant family really put love and effort into it, then it would be a dickmove to sell it for cash. If you hardly have any relationship with them and the gift has no emotional value for them or you, then just sell it.

If you are in a dire financial situation then you didnt have to ask this question here.

In my opinion you only need to ask yourself if the people who sent you the gift would mind you selling it for cash.

This is the same frequency I was on with all this.
Why did you send me a fully loaded Traeger Timberline pellet grill?
Still in the box if I put this thing together it will take up half my back porch and get used twice a month.
My $30 Walmart charcoal grill cooks burgers quite well hell I wasn't even aware grills went up into thousands of dollars.

So yes. Just sell it. I would almost think it is something they are Re-gifting and wouldnt mind you selling it.

 

[Pupik]

It's very simple; if you give a gift to someone, you should be somewhat detached from what happens next with it. If you give money, you shouldn't care if they gamble with it, donate it, or use it as wallpaper. There should be zero expectation that someone has to enjoy something the same way you do.

That's the entire point of giving a gift, to give some joy. Whatever they do make it even more enjoyable, is the purpose.

(So as long as they don't mow down you or any family members in the process; and you don't give something like disease, pestilence, or a loud talking toy to their children.)

 

[Johnnypenso]

It's very simple; if you give a gift to someone, you should be somewhat detached from what happens next with it. If you give money, you shouldn't care if they gamble with it, donate it, or use it as wallpaper. There should be zero expectation that someone has to enjoy something the same way you do.

That's the entire point of giving a gift, to give some joy. Whatever they do make it even more enjoyable, is the purpose.

(So as long as they don't mow down you or any family members in the process; and you don't give something like disease, pestilence, or a loud talking toy to their children.)

Good thing you added that caveat at the end..... I have a birthday party to go to tomorrow and I was a little on the fence about the gift but you've helped me narrow it down

 

[Pupik]

Good thing you added that caveat at the end..... I have a birthday party to go to tomorrow and I was a little on the fence about the gift but you've helped me narrow it down

Some toys come with a variable volume switch or mute...some don't, though it's hard to tell with the way they're packed.

(If they're young enough, they won't realize you can attenuate the speaker with masking / duct / painter's / electrical tape and a few cotton balls.)

 

[TVR27]

I don't like the idea of selling gifts and normally try to gift them to other people if they are not to expensive.