Ah you see this is the mindset that's got me into a lot of trouble. I had a big argument with mum about the war in Ukraine and called her a communist for not denouncing Russia, when in reality she wasn't on either side and just wanted it all to stop. My psychologist said that it was wrong for me to get stuck into her like that.
A communist? For not denouncing Russia? Hilarious that an Australian is still using "communist" as a generic slur, but it also shows that you have no idea what a communist is.
Either way, your mum didn't cause the war. Your psychologist is right, when there's a difference of opinion with someone who you have a close relationship with you get to choose whether to let it go for the sake of peace or whether to sabotage your relationship for the sake of that opinion. Sometimes that might be valid, like if your husband was pro-life. Sometimes that might be silly, like if your mum didn't have strong feelings about a war happening on the other side of the world.
But random people on the internet are not your mum. Elon Musk is not your mum. We are not your mum. You don't have to worry about spoiling your relationship with Elon-senpai if you're too mean to him. You don't have a close relationship with any of these people that you have to worry about. You can just say what you think, and that's okay. Other people can say what they think, and that's okay too.
I fear that you haven't understood what your psychologist was trying to teach you about relationships. If there are people close to you that might be offended if you spoke out against Musk, that's maybe a good reason to consider holding your tongue. But I'm not close to those people, and the same is probably true of almost everyone else on this forum. Why would we base our actions on how you choose to behave because of your specific relationships with the people around you?
Failing to choose a side doesn't automatically mean that you're siding with the enemy and approving their behaviour, or Elon Musk in this case. Going around telling people that they approve of Musk's behaviour because they don't condone it is dangerous.
Yes and no. If you're just not choosing a side because you're ignorant or it doesn't affect you, sure. If you're trying to bury your head in the sand and avoid taking a stance in, say, a thread specifically about a certain person, it raises questions about why you're even here.
If you had no opinion or didn't want to choose a side, you wouldn't have come into the thread. And you certainly wouldn't be posting trying to convince other people to also not choose a side. You just accept that other people can have their opinions but you choose not to engage.
But you did come in, and you're advocating for not giving Musk too hard a time. The obvious motivation for that isn't apathy, the obvious motivation is that you want to defend Musk but you don't want to have to deal with the backlash that comes from being a Musk-suckler.
I think you mean "going around telling people that they approve of Musk's behaviour because they don't denounce it is dangerous", so I'm going to assume that. That's not what's happening here. I'm not saying you approve of Musk because you don't denounce him. I'm saying you approve of him because your actions do not fit the profile of someone who isn't interested, but instead fit the profile of a Musk supporter who doesn't want to deal with the obvious ramifications of stating that directly.
If you don't want to look like a Musk supporter, don't do the things that Musk supporters do.
Mum does not support Russia. She does not support communism. I tried to suggest that she did and she got really angry about it.
I wonder why.
No, it does.
In a thread about Musk, if we're talking about some of his actions and your response is "I don't think people should make a big deal out of that, it's a waste of time", that is saying that you don't see much of a problem with it. If that's not what you mean, then say something different.
Well, this explains a lot.
Is it possible to criticise someone that you generally agree with? Or praise someone who you generally disagree with? I think
@eran0004 gave pretty good examples of when someone might do exactly that, but you seem to think that's impossible.
This isn't the Church. You don't have to agree with everything someone does or be expelled from society.
Your psychologist has a lot of work ahead of them.