One quick question:
Is the ration between ride height and spring rate straight? If I lower ride height by 3mm will I need to tighten spring rates by 3mm?
Absolutely not.
Ride height is a simple linear equation, spring rates are much more complex. As you'll notice by looking at the units specifically, ride height = mm/1 and spring rates kg/mm. Notice that mm is in the denominator for spring rates. Raising the spring rate increases the amount of force needed to compress the spring 1 mm.
Raising the spring rate when lowering the car is essential, as this prevents 'bottoming out', but it is certainly not a linear relationship.