I might be about to lose my CD's... Should it be happening?

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She might just be insanely worried that you will land in the same shoes she has worn since she was your age and this is her way of trying to protect you from those very dangerous pitfalls that can happen.
 
Doth1s
She might just be insanely worried that you will land in the same shoes she has worn since she was your age and this is her way of trying to protect you from those very dangerous pitfalls that can happen.
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Exactly, what I mean. I'm glad someone shares my opinion :)👍
 
Just tell her that you want to earn her trust so that you can listen to your music and that you'd like to know what she'd like you to do to earn it. She'll come up with some hoops and you just need to jump through them.

Also she may simply be setting you up as a precedent to tackle the younger sibling's music.
 
In looking at your signature, maybe she's worried you are spending too much time listening to music and not enough time learning....

By the way, your signature should read, "Oh and a quick opinion... FEEDER IS THE GREATEST BAND EVER!!!!!! " Just sayin... :)

On a little more serious note, I agree with Danoff on this one. He is giving you some very sound advise and it would be wise of you to read his post, once, twice, even a third time.
 
My step brother is seventeen guys, he is the OLDER sibling! :)

But yeah I will try to talk things out with mum, but if she is starting on this whole "Everything Adam does is wrong" stuff that she has done before I will move back to my grandmothers. I spent my first 10 or so years there. Last time she started doing that my grades bombed so it may be for the best, we'll see how things go.
 
Danoff
Your teenage years are when you learn that your parents are human beings capable of making poor decisions. On some issues you'll be wrong, and they'll be right, and sometimes they'll be wrong and you'll be right.

Irrational parents can be tough. I know, I had one. It doesn't even necessarily have anything to do with you, your mom could be set off by an article in the news about teenagers and music. Who knows? You can ask her, but she may not even fully realize what set her off.

In the end, the only way you can convince your parents to give you more autonomy is to demonstrate that you're a responsible person. That means pulling your grades up (Cs are not really ok), doing what you're told, being respectful, and keeping your nose clean. Chances are you know how your mom would like you to act. Show her that that's who you are and you'll get some freedom. It'll take time though, don't expect her to turn on a dime. Trust is something you'll have to earn over a long time period.

You can be up front about it though - tell her you're sorry that she doesn't trust you with your music right now and that you want to earn that trust.
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Agreed. I'm usually picky about what I listen to myself. My former employer didn't like the "hippie movement"(The British Invasion for a frame of reference) and any music associated with that, or what came afterwords, but outside of work, you would catch me listening to the Rolling Stones, The Beatles, The Hollies and so on. When I tried to talk to him about the music that was played from job to job, he would normally dismiss me without a word.

The point is that you should be respectful of those in authority.
 
It sounds like you and your mom need to team up on your lousy step brother.
 
prisonermonkeys
I think "Mom, anonymous strangers on the internet say you shouldn't take my music away" isn't going to be the argument that wins for you.
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No but I needed some advice and knew that people here would help me think about how to tackle it. I'm not going to say to her "Moglet from GTP said that Feeder are one of the least threatening bands he's ever seen" or anything like that. I'm glad I talked on here because it's helped me a lot.
 
Just give her all your CDs and see how she reacts, of course do as Danoff suggested and back them all up on a USB drive or something. :)

This slightly reminds me of the time I brought Snoop Doggs Doggystyle cd to school in the seventh grade, my teacher was not happy.
 
This is going to be frustrating, but while you're living in her house, you need to jump through hoops a little bit.

If she thinks that's best, humour her for a while. Maybe you could make a pre-emptive strike and move your CD collection to an attic or basement somewhere, where you'll know where to find it. If she asks, you can tell her you've 'put them away for a while', getting across the fact that you're doing what she wants and they're not to be thrown away in one fell swoop.
 
Preempting her by hiding them in the attic might just tick her off. I think instead you should deliver them to her and explain that you want to earn them back from her. Give her that leverage and there's no way she'll throw them away. Parents love having leverage for cooperation over their teenagers.
 
People still have CD's? What is this? 2005?

Worse case scenario, buy a radio. It might not have all the music you want, but you can still get some music on it.
 
I'm going to put them in my grandmothers loft. If I save them to any USB or onto my laptop she'll just take the laptop away so I'm not doing that... I'll have to try and do things without music for a while but that'll be really tough; It stabilises me. I'll just say I sold them and I'll either keep them there until I am living independently or maybe I will move back to my grandmother as I said earlier...

The music is the tip of the iceberg I'm afraid. She is making me feel generally lousy at the moment and I am not sure living with her is going to help me out; school already tell me I've been looking depressed over these last few weeks so we'll just see where it goes I suppose.

And Joey; I have CD's because I love physical copies of stuff (never download films or games either) and also it gives you something for the band to sign if you go to a gig ;)
 
adam46
I'm going to put them in my grandmothers loft. If I save them to any USB or onto my laptop she'll just take the laptop away so I'm not doing that... I'll have to try and do things without music for a while but that'll be really tough; It stabilises me. I'll just say I sold them and I'll either keep them there until I am living independently or maybe I will move back to my grandmother as I said earlier...

The music is the tip of the iceberg I'm afraid. She is making me feel generally lousy at the moment and I am not sure living with her is going to help me out; school already tell me I've been looking depressed over these last few weeks so we'll just see where it goes I suppose.

And Joey; I have CD's because I love physical copies of stuff (never download films or games either) and also it gives you something for the band to sign if you go to a gig ;)
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Yes because going behind her back and lying about it is definitely going to help her trust you. Have you read nothing I've posted?
 
Danoff
Preempting her by hiding them in the attic might just tick her off.
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I would respectfully disagree.

If you make it very clear that you've done it to follow what she wants (ie, explicitly telling her), I think it shows a more pro-active attempt to follow the rules she's set. If Adam is following her instructions without her having to take them away herself, he's proving he can be trusted to do as told.
 
@Danny

The last thing you want to do is piss her off even more. Which I think hiding them might do. I don't think your theory would work in this situation. It might, but I think chances are against it.
 
Yeah actually Danoff and Slashfan are probably correct... I know her, I doubt I'll get them back. I know she is seriously hard up so I reckon she'll put them up on eBay, but I'll hand them in tomorrow... So Feeder albums all night then I guess!

Danoff; I am just annoyed that she doesn't trust me, there has been no friction or anything lately to cause the sudden rash loss of trust. And for her to full on say I am going to be some criminal or similar when I have never stolen anything from anyone or anywhere in my life is insulting in my eyes. It's not as if I go around cursing, insulting and assaulting people either. I offer my help to her wherever possible and have never gone against her orders, so none of this makes sense to me.

I just feel a little heartbroken. Moving into a family environment with a younger parental figure seemed so promising for me, getting to move somewhere where other kids are about in the process. But she never lets me out anyway, it just feels like she is ashamed </3
 
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adam46
Yeah actually Danoff and Slashfan are probably correct... I know her, I doubt I'll get them back. I know she is seriously hard up so I reckon she'll put them up on eBay, but I'll hand them in tomorrow... So Feeder albums all night then I guess!
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There are some things you shouldn't make public, even if it is just releasing steam. Way to show your age.
 
adam46
I know she is seriously hard up so I reckon she'll put them up on eBay
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Ah stealing from your kids. My parents did that, welcome to the club (in order to get in to the club, she actually does have to ebay off your CDs that you paid for by working). If she does do that, you'll have my deepest sympathies as you will have in fact proven that you have a terrible mother.
 
Doth1s
There are some things you shouldn't make public, even if it is just releasing steam. Way to show your age.
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Yeah, and his post was perfectly fine. There is way more questionable material up on these boards than his post :rolleyes:

Anyways I just don't think she will see it the way Danny is describing. I come from a strict house but not that bad.
 
Danoff
Ah stealing from your kids. My parents did that, welcome to the club (in order to get in to the club, she actually does have to ebay off your CDs that you paid for by working). If she does do that, you'll have my deepest sympathies as you will have in fact proven that you have a terrible mother.
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Fair enough. Considering the similar taste to her and her peer group they may even end up in familiar hands... Who knows... Just see what happens next I suppose.
 
adam46
Fair enough. Considering the similar taste to her and her peer group they may even end up in familiar hands... Who knows... Just see what happens next I suppose.
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I don't think she can legally just take them and sell them...it is your property.

That said my mother still owes me over $200. That I will likely never see.
 
Slashfan
I don't think she can legally just take them and sell them...it is your property.

That said my mother still owes me over $200. That I will likely never see.
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I gave her £30 to pay a gardener sometime in November which I doubt I'll ever see, and I don't really want to ask for it again.

EDIT: Sorry I know I'm now just venting it all out, I'll try and stop there.
 
Why not give them to a friend to hold onto? That way you can truthfully say that you got rid of them, and you can still get them back later.
 
buickgnx88
Why not give them to a friend to hold onto? That way you can truthfully say that you got rid of them, and you can still get them back later.
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Still think the jump drive was the best option.
 
Jump drive would be good, cept if his mom is admin on the computer, then she could just take it away and he couldn't listen anyways.
 

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