Religion v Child safety

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They didn't give the kid a need to eat either. He developed that on his own. Still necessary to feed him.


(For the record, I don't think the state can force parents to pay for cancer treatment until it become significantly more simple, less painful, and much less costly. I don't classify cancer treatment as "basic medical care". A blood transfusion on the otherhand....)
 
You said it was similar to punching him in the face. I don't follow. Care to offer more into the big picture or were you just focused on only offering a couple lines of catch-all into the discussion?
 
Do you see a distinction between hitting a kid in the face and refusing to feed him? Both are causing harm, and the parent is responsible for safeguarding against that harm.

Please distinguish medical care from food. I don't see a difference. Food is a kind of medicine that keeps your cells alive.
 
Save my kid...... Save my religion.........kid........religion....... Hmmm that's a real hard choice :rolleyes

And if I'm not mistaken they can be tried for manslaughter if they refuse medical treatment and the kid dies???
 
If it was either my kid to live a great healthy life or me go into internal damnnation... I would chose the kid to live... I am not atheist or anything but i guess i am neutral in the subject because i am truly confused on what to believe and part of it is things like this... I am 20 years old and i had decided a few years back i wanted to change my life style... So what i know i believe in now that i am sure of is morals and basically the meaning of karma (don't really believe there is a force behind in it i just like living that way) but anyway we should respect others beliefs... And how they live their life but at the same time it is sad... But i mean even with laws of freedom of speech and laws for others beliefs they both seem to counter act each other... That's why i just try to live my life they way i want and i don't judge you for yours unless what you do crosses me in a bad way... Like i said morals...
 
It's pretty straightforward.

As a parent, you have a duty to your child to care for them until they can fend for themselves.

If you refuse to fulfill that duty in a manner that would mean the death or severe disability of that child. In other words, refuse to feed them.... refuse them emergency medical care that could save (or prolong) their lives, then, ergo, you don't care if they live or die.

If you don't care whether the child lives or dies... then you lose the right to care for that child. Pretty simple... isn't it?

Considering the child may die eventually (depressingly... I don't know anyone (locally) with leukemia who survived past high school...), there's no guarantee the child will survive in the long run... but it should be the patient's decision on when to give up.

NOT the parents'.

NOT the State's.

And until the patient is old enough to understand all the implications and make an informed choice, we keep her alive for the meantime.

You're entitled to your religious beliefs as to how they apply to your own health... but not to others. Once the child is an adult Jehovah's Witness, then she can arbitrarily choose the time of her own death herself...
 
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So, Niky, you're saying that the state should have all say in treatments that a child will and will not get? Or is it just that a child will receive any treatment a state appointed doctor decrees? The parent should have no rights to refuse treatment?
 
Food. Think about food. You don't need a license to feed your kids, and you can often refuse specific foods.
 
Food. Think about food. You don't need a license to feed your kids, and you can often refuse specific foods.

That's an obscenely stupid comparison. I really shouldn't be responding to it at all. Sustenance is a basic requirement for living. Every human being that has or ever will live will require some sort of nutrient intake.

Not every human being that has or ever lived will need to accept the 'basic' medal care that is a blood transfusion.
 
That's an obscenely stupid comparison. I really shouldn't be responding to it at all. Sustenance is a basic requirement for living. Every human being that has or ever will live will require some sort of nutrient intake.

Not every human being that has or ever lived will need to accept the 'basic' medal care that is a blood transfusion.

But every human being that has lived or ever will live will need medical care of some sort.

It is exactly the same thing - also I answered all of your questions.
 
Actually I agree with Danoff, which is weird. For once you sound more libertarian than conservative (to me) or maybe since Dapper isn't here that just helps.
 
So by that logic, all healthcare to children should be free, or is it just free when the parents give up custody? Or is it just free when it's incredibly life threatening and cheap? Or do parents have the right to refuse all portions of the treatment, just not the cheap bits?

Stop looking at just the situation and look at the precedent that it sets. Again, I'm glad that this isn't happening in the US as it would be one hell of a storm. Parents either have the right to consent to medical treatment for their children, or they don't. If there are certain circumstances where they don't, the path to clearly drafting a law making it absolute would be ugly, costly, stupid, and in the end, not foolproof.

That's what I'm trying to get out of you. Respond to the real question, not the situation. The situation is meaningless. The real question is what does this mean about all future cases where a doctor wants to do a procedure that the family doesn't want to do? Do they only do it when the child is guaranteed to live? 90%? 80% chance to live? 99% chance to die but increase life expectancy by a few months?

Big picture here, people. Medical care is not food. Sustenance falls out of the sky, can be had in trash cans, and skitters along on the ground. And, for what it's worth, plenty of people complain about the government giving out food stamps to people that don't 'deserve' them anyway. What does medical care actually encompass? Does oral health factor into that? People can very realistically die of tooth infections. You don't see the government forcing parents to take their kids to the dentist.
 
So by that logic, all healthcare to children should be free

Is food free?

or is it just free when the parents give up custody?

They give up custody when they refuse to pay for food.

Or is it just free when it's incredibly life threatening and cheap?

Is food free when the child is malnourished?

Or do parents have the right to refuse all portions of the treatment, just not the cheap bits?

Do parents have a right to starve a child?

That's what I'm trying to get out of you. Respond to the real question, not the situation. The situation is meaningless. The real question is what does this mean about all future cases where a doctor wants to do a procedure that the family doesn't want to do?

The same thing it means when a doctor tells you you need to buy food for your child even though you don't want to.

Big picture here, people. Medical care is not food.

Nonsense. In this conversation there is no discernible difference.

Sustenance falls out of the sky, can be had in trash cans, and skitters along on the ground.

I have no idea what difference any of that makes other than that you seem to think that the minimum price of food is low compared to healthcare. Price means nothing. All that matters is this one simple concept:

Parents are responsible for the care and well being of their children.

Neglect your child in any way (food, medicine, education, clothing, shelter) for any reason (cost, time, religion, drugs) and we take your child away and potentially lock you up for the harm you have caused them.

And, for what it's worth, plenty of people complain about the government giving out food stamps to people that don't 'deserve' them anyway. What does medical care actually encompass? Does oral health factor into that? People can very realistically die of tooth infections. You don't see the government forcing parents to take their kids to the dentist.

If a kid died of a tooth infection I think you might find parents being prosecuted criminally.
 
Stop looking at just the situation and look at the precedent that it sets. Again, I'm glad that this isn't happening in the US as it would be one hell of a storm.

It has though.
(He has gotten better since that ordeal)

I also don't get what precedent you are talking about, having to put your kid before your religion? Taking care of the child and making sure they don't die?
 
The precedent of a court taking away a parents right to consent to treat or not treat their child for whatever they want. And, in the case of the US, forcing parents to undertake an enormous financial burden that could destroy them for the rest of their lives. It's quite a different story when the government is going to be footing the bill anyway.

The precedent is very simple. If the doctor decides you're not making the right decision, he can use a case like that as legal precedent to have whatever treatment he deems necessary to save or prolong a life. Then he and insurance companies either make money off of it, or the government loses a lot of money off of it. Chances are, the persons in question aren't going to have boatloads of cash laying around without insurance to cover medical bills.

So, do you want your rights as a parent taken away.

If yes, do you want to foot the bill as a taxpayer, or do you want to foot the bill through your insurance when it goes up due to doctors being able to legally treat underage people without their parents consent?

Respond to tooth infection.
 
If your kid slit their wrist and are bleeding to death do you just leave it be and let the kid die or do you go to the hospital and get it treated if you do not you may have just as well slit the kids wrist yourself.

And if the bill is large normally hospitals can arrange a payment plan.
 
Oh boy. A payment plan on at least a hundred thousand dollars of debt. That sure does sound exciting. Of course, if you have insurance, then the wheel of profit gets to turn. The doctors make a lot of money. The drug companies make a lot of money. The doctor's insurance provider makes a lot of money. The families insurance...well...doesn't make money off of THEM. They have to make up that cash from all their other covered people who don't need any care. Thankfully, that still amounts to millions of dollars, so that's ok. And, chances are, the hospital doesn't make much money unless it's a privately owned hospital.
 
The parent's suddenly own freedom over the child, the parents responsibility is to take care and be responsible for that human being. Parent's do not hold the right to hinder another human beings wellness. That simple, you can twist what ever way you like, if the parents (once again since brick wall is your stance) want to deny treatment to anyone it will be to themselves, they can not hinder -legally- the rights of another human even if it's their own child.
 
And, in the case of the US, forcing parents to undertake an enormous financial burden that could destroy them for the rest of their lives.

Most children's hospitals will treat any child regardless of their families ability to pay. Hell, some don't require them to pay at all and survive purely on donations.

The precedent is very simple. If the doctor decides you're not making the right decision, he can use a case like that as legal precedent to have whatever treatment he deems necessary to save or prolong a life.

In neither case has a doctor given more than a testimony(and in the MN one there were several, can't speak for the Aussie one as I have limited knowledge on specifics)...

the persons in question aren't going to have boatloads of cash laying around without insurance to cover medical bills.

Most children's hospitals will treat any child regardless of their families ability to pay. Hell, some don't require them to pay at all and survive purely on donations..

So, do you want your rights as a parent taken away.

Nope, just that if your child is about to die you do the not-letting-them-die option if it's readily available as in both cases brought up in this thread.

How about we meet in the middle, they can chose the treatment, but if the child dies when there is a well known treatment they get 1st degree murder charges?

If yes, do you want to foot the bill as a taxpayer, or do you want to foot the bill through your insurance when it goes up due to doctors being able to legally treat underage people without their parents consent?

What?

You are pulling crap from your nether regions now...

Nobody said anything like that.

Respond to tooth infection.

Hurts like hell...

Danoff already responded to that.

I think Dapper may be back.:nervous:
 
Yeah I thought that as well, but this is the opposite spectrum. This is something that "Dapper" would've fought for. Unless dapper is back and just trolling as a conservative.
 
If a kid died of a tooth infection I think you might find parents being prosecuted criminally.

Definitely not. They had no way of paying for it, and dentists are not obligated to treat people for free.

And yes, the charity is great when it's available, but if it's not? You guys are all talking about this specific situation. I'm trying to ask about discussions for the larger implications. I guess nobody wants to talk about that. They'd rather talk about food and justify how these specific acts were right. I'm not arguing any of that. I'm trying to go somewhere else, and unsurprisingly, that's something nobody wants to talk about.
 
Yeah I thought that as well, but this is the opposite spectrum. This is something that "Dapper" would've fought for. Unless dapper is back and just trolling as a conservative.

I'm not trolling for anything. Nowhere here will you see my personal opinion. I'm asking questions, and they're mostly just being avoided. They're not fun questions to answer. We'd all like to think that everyone with a child that's injured would want the best for them or always make the perfect decision. Or, if they don't, that the government will step in and make that decision for them. Is that really something you want boatloads of your tax money being spent on? Government oversight on parents who don't grant consent to treatment?

e - Also, to your previous statement about the rights of children - children don't actually have many legal rights at all. Parents very often deny treatment for various reasons to children. It's not uncommon, and there's nothing wrong with that. Consider the case of the young woman with the flesh eating bacteria. Without all her amputations, she would've very likely died. She had no legal say in any of the treatments given to her. If the parents had decided that they didn't want to start hacking off her daughters limbs, they would not be prosecuted. It's their right to say "we don't want that for our child." That's the point of having consent. You can either give it or not give it. What is the point in even having a consent law if it can be flat out overruled?

Stop thinking that I'm trolling you, I'm really not. I'm asking questions that do require a bit of thinking. Go look at the Trayvon thread, and you'll see that I'm not trolling there. I'm trying to engage in a discussion about the bigger picture and not a specific incident.
 
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Definitely not. They had no way of paying for it, and dentists are not obligated to treat people for free.

So, first degree murder?

And yes, the charity is great when it's available, but if it's not?

Find it, St. Jude's will pay for transportation.

You guys are all talking about this specific situation. I'm trying to ask about discussions for the larger implications.

These specific situations are a part of the bigger picture though.

I guess nobody wants to talk about that.

We are, you seem to be just blowing off any point someone makes though.

They'd rather talk about food and justify how these specific acts were right. I'm not arguing any of that. I'm trying to go somewhere else, and unsurprisingly, that's something nobody wants to talk about.

Again these things are a part of the overall picture, if you want to talk about that smaller things will be talked about.

I'm not trolling for anything. Nowhere here will you see my personal opinion.

You may not have posted it directly, but it's pretty clear.

I'm asking questions, and they're mostly just being avoided.

No, they aren't.

They're not fun questions to answer. We'd all like to think that everyone with a child that's injured would want the best for them or always make the perfect decision.

We(at least I) wouldn't like to think that, I would expect that they make the letting the child live option.

Or, if they don't, that the government will step in and make that decision for them. Is that really something you want boatloads of your tax money being spent on?

Honestly, yes.

Of all the things the government spends money on, I won't argue them supplying sick kids with health care.

Government oversight on parents who don't grant consent to treatment?

Making crap up really hurts your argument, I suggest you stop and save what little point you have left.
 
Unless you are the return of the user known as Dapper, then you let my comment go right over your head. Furthermore, I'm not saying you're trolling (unless you'd like to come out and tell us something), where do I say ShobThaBob is trolling? No where, and I don't see anyone avoiding you. Rather I see someone picking certain things out of text, discarding the rest from their mind and then spinning it to stay above water.

I'm sure you'll inform me that I've got you pegged wrong.
 
So, first degree murder?

For what? It's over and done with. Kid died, parents sad, people bemoan healthcare situation.

Find it, St. Jude's will pay for transportation.
I live in Houston, I am aware of the facilities available for children with cancer. The rest of the population might not be. The cost is a small part of the wheel.
We are, you seem to be just blowing off any point someone makes though.

That treating cancer is like going to the grocery store to buy a bag of beans to feed your family? Yeah. I'll continue with blowing that one off.

Again these things are a part of the overall picture, if you want to talk about that smaller things will be talked about.
What happened isn't interesting. We don't actually know the full details, and speculation about that is boring. Speculation on what happens next, however, can be interesting.

You may not have posted it directly, but it's pretty clear.
I assure you, it isn't.

We(at least I) wouldn't like to think that, I would expect that they make the letting the child live option.

And if the parent decides the odds aren't good? What about when the parent decides to stop? What if the parent wants to go with less chemo? That's what I'm talking about. Plenty of parents have been well documented stopping cancer treatment so that their dying kids have better quality of life for their final months/years instead of double that time and making it hell.

Honestly, yes.

Of all the things the government spends money on, I won't argue them supplying sick kids with health care.

That's a big part of the question a lot of people don't want to answer. The problem is the road towards having healthcare adequate enough to know when treatment is necessary.

Making crap up really hurts your argument, I suggest you stop and save what little point you have left.

Again, no argument. It was a halfhearted joke at what really happens. We have courts and judges whose job it is to decide when a patient is no longer mentally fit to consent, adding on parents to that seems like an easy step.

Also - http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2007/02/27/AR2007022702116.html

Cancer is an easy thing to point a finger at. Basic medical care, the kind that might not seem pressing at the time, can still be just as much of an issue. This woman was not able to provide care that her son needed. Of course she wasn't charged for anything. She made what she thought was the right call at the time. Fix an aching tooth or put food on the table for the family?
 
The precedent of a court taking away a parents right to consent to treat or not treat their child for whatever they want.

They don't have that right. I don't know why you think they do. Parents don't have the right to feed their child as much or as little as they want either. They're responsible for basic care.

And, in the case of the US, forcing parents to undertake an enormous financial burden that could destroy them for the rest of their lives.

Nobody is talking about this. Nobody is claiming that parents should be required to fork over a million dollars for cancer treatment. This article is about a $200 blood transfusion that is required to save the child's life, and it's not being refused on the basis of money, it's being refused on the basis of religion.

The precedent is very simple. If the doctor decides you're not making the right decision, he can use a case like that as legal precedent to have whatever treatment he deems necessary to save or prolong a life.

Again, and I hate to keep harping on this but you need to start thinking of it, consider the food scenario. If you're underfeeding your child a doctor won't have the final decision over removing the child from your custody or putting you in jail. I know people who have had trouble feeding their child (not for financial reasons) so I know a little about how it gets perceived among doctors.

Doctors will make recommendations. If parents are taking the appropriate steps, there will be no problem. If the parents are allowing the child to starve to death a doctor will probably call in a case worker to interview and evaluate the situation and find out whether reasonable steps are being taken. If, after much evaluation, documentation, interviews, rulings, and probably appeals, the situation still isn't rectified the child will be taken away. If the child dies, prosecution may be considered.

This is no different from the scenario medically. If you're refusing treatment for your child, your situation will be evaluated - not by one doctor or case worker, but several doctors, case workers, and probably multiple judges. In the end, you can lose custody if you're refusing to provide the basic care that every child is entitled to.

If you don't think it's complicated with food, it's not complicated for medicine - because it works exactly the same way.

So, do you want your rights as a parent taken away.

Parents do not have the right to abuse their children.

If yes, do you want to foot the bill as a taxpayer, or do you want to foot the bill through your insurance when it goes up due to doctors being able to legally treat underage people without their parents consent?

Parents are required to foot the bill for taking care of the child they decided to have.

Oh boy. A payment plan on at least a hundred thousand dollars of debt. That sure does sound exciting. Of course, if you have insurance, then the wheel of profit gets to turn. The doctors make a lot of money. The drug companies make a lot of money. The doctor's insurance provider makes a lot of money. The families insurance...well...doesn't make money off of THEM. They have to make up that cash from all their other covered people who don't need any care. Thankfully, that still amounts to millions of dollars, so that's ok. And, chances are, the hospital doesn't make much money unless it's a privately owned hospital.

You're describing medical insurance - which definitely works in the case of childhood cancer. It's rare, so it gets funded by people who don't want to take the risk of having to fund it themselves or watch their child die.

Definitely not. They had no way of paying for it, and dentists are not obligated to treat people for free.

Absolutely they should. If parents allow their child to starve to death because "they had no way of paying for it" and grocery stores aren't required to feed people for free - would you still say they should not be prosecuted?

I do not understand your position that parents should not be required to pay anything for their child at any point. If you can't afford to have a child DON'T HAVE A CHILD. Had one by accident that you can't afford? Find someone who can afford it and is willing to take care of them.

It really is that simple. You can't have a kid and refuse to care for them. Oh and the government doesn't have to help you.

And yes, the charity is great when it's available, but if it's not? You guys are all talking about this specific situation. I'm trying to ask about discussions for the larger implications. I guess nobody wants to talk about that. They'd rather talk about food and justify how these specific acts were right. I'm not arguing any of that. I'm trying to go somewhere else, and unsurprisingly, that's something nobody wants to talk about.

I'm talking about the larger situation. I don't know why you think otherwise. None of what I have said is so narrow that it applies only to this situation.

I'm asking questions, and they're mostly just being avoided.

I've answered every single one.

Is that really something you want boatloads of your tax money being spent on? Government oversight on parents who don't grant consent to treatment?

Yes. Child abuse is a problem that falls directly within the government's charter - the protection of human rights.

children don't actually have many legal rights at all.

Try running one over, see what happens.

Parents very often deny treatment for various reasons to children. It's not uncommon, and there's nothing wrong with that.

There's nothing wrong with it unless it is critical basic care. In which case it's child abuse.

Consider the case of the young woman with the flesh eating bacteria. Without all her amputations, she would've very likely died. She had no legal say in any of the treatments given to her. If the parents had decided that they didn't want to start hacking off her daughters limbs, they would not be prosecuted. It's their right to say "we don't want that for our child." That's the point of having consent. You can either give it or not give it. What is the point in even having a consent law if it can be flat out overruled?

...and they shouldn't be prosecuted. It's up to the parents to decide what the child's life is worth beyond a minimum threshold.

That treating cancer is like going to the grocery store to buy a bag of beans to feed your family? Yeah. I'll continue with blowing that one off.

No, setting a broken arm is like going to the grocery store and buying a bag of beans to feed your family. Treating cancer is like buying your kid a grocery store.

And if the parent decides the odds aren't good? What about when the parent decides to stop? What if the parent wants to go with less chemo? That's what I'm talking about. Plenty of parents have been well documented stopping cancer treatment so that their dying kids have better quality of life for their final months/years instead of double that time and making it hell.

There's nothing wrong with that decision, and it is the parents responsibility (note I don't say right) to make that decision. I'm talking about the bigger picture than cancer treatment here. I'm trying to have a larger discussion than just this one particular case.

Consider, for a moment, a child who does not get a polio vaccination (because parents were unwilling to pay the $40 for it). The child eventually develops polio and eventually develops paralysis. The parents continue to refuse to treat the child - eventually the child's respiratory system fails and the child dies.

Consider, for a moment, a child who develops one of the bazillions of infections that children can get. The parents refuse to pay the $50 for antibiotics (prescription and pills), and the infection spreads killing the child.

Consider, for a moment, the child who breaks their arm playing on the jungle gym. The parents refuse to pay the $2000 required to set the arm properly. The break does not heal and eventually the arm needs to be amputated (my wife very nearly had her arm amputated because she fell of the monkey bars if you think this is far fetched - though it wasn't because her parents refused care).

Consider, for a moment, the child who dies of malnutrition after years of being underfed because the parents didn't want to pay the $2000 for the food necessary to keep them healthy.

Consider, for a moment, the child who grows to age 18 without learning how to read, write, add, or multiply, and has a functional vocabulary of a 6 year old. This adult is now unable to function in society due to lack of education and has missed an important window in childhood development where such education is much more readily accepted by the brain. This because the parents refused to pay the $5000 (or time) necessary to educate their child with these skills.

Some of these result in death, others result in permanent physical or mental damage. All of them are criminal examples of child neglect, and should result in incarceration of the parents and (where possible) removal of custody of the child.


Cancer is an easy thing to point a finger at. Basic medical care, the kind that might not seem pressing at the time, can still be just as much of an issue. This woman was not able to provide care that her son needed. Of course she wasn't charged for anything. She made what she thought was the right call at the time. Fix an aching tooth or put food on the table for the family?

If a parent is having to make that call, they should give the kids up for adoption. "Fix an aching tooth" could just as easily be replaced with "get an education" or "pay rent". All of these are things required of parents. If they cannot provide them, they should find people who can.

If it were up to me, the parents in the link you provided would lose custody of all of their children and would be incarcerated for child abuse.

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Just in case I didn't make it extremely clear:

Poverty is not an excuse to abuse your child. The child should only be entrusted to people capable of caring for it.
 
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For what? It's over and done with. Kid died, parents sad, people bemoan healthcare situation.

It's from my previous response that you ignored(irony).

How about we meet in the middle, they can chose the treatment, but if the child dies when there is a well known treatment they get 1st degree murder charges?

Will you respond to it now?

I live in Houston, I am aware of the facilities available for children with cancer. The rest of the population might not be. The cost is a small part of the wheel.

I'm well aware they may not know, it's their job as a parent to make themselves informed.

I'm guessing my mom knew next to nothing about cleft pallets when I was born, she now knows by heart the best clinics to go to and what charities you can donate to.

In the age of the internet, there is no excuse(at least good ones) for not being at least somewhat informed on your child's illness. Even if you don't have it at home there are always libraries and about a thousand other places that have internet. Not to mention you could always call a specialist and ask them questions.

That treating cancer is like going to the grocery store to buy a bag of beans to feed your family? Yeah. I'll continue with blowing that one off.

You have only partially responded to posts, yet continuously accuse us of doing the same.

Nobody said it was like going to the grocery store, other than you saying we did. Frankly, cancer keeps coming up because it's really one of the few instances where the government should step in if the parents aren't seeking treatment.

What happened isn't interesting. We don't actually know the full details, and speculation about that is boring.

I'm sure the details are out there, I just don't have all the time in the world to sift through all the "copy & paste" articles that are more or less the same as the OP.

Speculation on what happens next, however, can be interesting.

Nobody has speculated anything.

I assure you, it isn't.

Seems about as clear as the sky outside my house, which is 100% clear.

Your argument on the other hand...

And if the parent decides the odds aren't good? What about when the parent decides to stop?

Have they tried?

What if the parent wants to go with less chemo? That's what I'm talking about. Plenty of parents have been well documented stopping cancer treatment so that their dying kids have better quality of life for their final months/years instead of double that time and making it hell.

Trying it and than giving up after a good effort is completely different than just not seeking treatment at all.

That's a big part of the question a lot of people don't want to answer. The problem is the road towards having healthcare adequate enough to know when treatment is necessary.

It's actually easy.

If your child is sick, go to a doctor, don't just blow it off because your bible says so.

We have a great fortune of things like cancer being successfully overcome in most cases if caught early enough.

Again, no argument. It was a halfhearted joke at what really happens. We have courts and judges whose job it is to decide when a patient is no longer mentally fit to consent, adding on parents to that seems like an easy step.

I was responding more to the, "you making up crap nobody ever said thing".

Even if that does happen, nobody here other than you has brought it up, which means nobody said they were for it.

This woman was not able to provide care that her son needed.

She was able to, she was just too lazy.

One of the mods here drives roughly 234 miles to get his son a checkup for his cystic fibrosis a few times a year. I routinely hear stories of parents flying their ill child from half way around the world to come to he Mayo clinic for treatments, most of the time it's some poor child with a charity picking up the tab.

I think this lady could have found a dentist if she was really determined to.

Of course she wasn't charged for anything.

She should have been...

She made what she thought was the right call at the time. Fix an aching tooth or put food on the table for the family?

She could have done both if she tried hard enough.

Most parents would stop at nothing to provide the best life possible for their child, I have known people that would literally be starving just so their kids could eat. Judging by the picture in that article, she wasn't exactly starving.

Now the fun part where you complain we aren't answering your questions while only answering a very small percentage of mine and Danoff's posts.:rolleyes:
 
They don't have that right. I don't know why you think they do. Parents don't have the right to feed their child as much or as little as they want either. They're responsible for basic care.

The right to consent for another is very much a right in the US. It's not a privilege. A court is the only body able to take that right away.

Nobody is talking about this. Nobody is claiming that parents should be required to fork over a million dollars for cancer treatment. This article is about a $200 blood transfusion that is required to save the child's life, and it's not being refused on the basis of money, it's being refused on the basis of religion.

I am, because that's how precedent works. I'm not talking about one situation, I'm talking about what it could lead to.


This is no different from the scenario medically. If you're refusing treatment for your child, your situation will be evaluated - not by one doctor or case worker, but several doctors, case workers, and probably multiple judges. In the end, you can lose custody if you're refusing to provide the basic care that every child is entitled to.

No, it wouldn't. When it does, it makes national headlines. Parents very often make the wrong choice with regards to medical care for their kids.

Parents do not have the right to abuse their children.

I highly suggest you look up the definition of child abuse for your state. The parents have done nothing prosecutable.

Parents are required to foot the bill for taking care of the child they decided to have.

Rut ro.


I do not understand your position that parents should not be required to pay anything for their child at any point. If you can't afford to have a child DON'T HAVE A CHILD. Had one by accident that you can't afford? Find someone who can afford it and is willing to take care of them.

I've never said that at all. I'm really confused.

It really is that simple. You can't have a kid and refuse to care for them. Oh and the government doesn't have to help you.

Ah, so you're in the keep it alive and give it the best life possible but the government won't pay for it camp. Brilliant. I see.

I'm talking about the larger situation. I don't know why you think otherwise. None of what I have said is so narrow that it applies only to this situation.

Think legally. Refusing treatment is not something that is prosecutable. End of story.

Yes. Child abuse is a problem that falls directly within the government's charter - the protection of human rights.

But you just said up there that the government shouldn't be paying for it. Now I'm confused.

Try running one over, see what happens.

That doesn't make any sense at all and has nothing to do with rights as outlined by law.

There's nothing wrong with it unless it is critical basic care. In which case it's child abuse.

And what's your definition of basic medical treatment? The government is pretty well set on it being triage type care. When it comes to cancer, once you turn 18, you're on your own and if you don't have insurance the hospitals aren't going to care at all.

...and they shouldn't be prosecuted. It's up to the parents to decide what the child's life is worth beyond a minimum threshold.
There we go. That's what I'm talking about. What is that minimum threshold. Funny that you talk about setting a broken arm so much, as that's actually a far more advanced science and medical procedure than amputation. We've been successfully amputating people in horrible conditions for many hundreds of years. Fixing broken bones properly is comparatively new and advanced. That minimum threshold you just mentioned is where that real question is.

There's nothing wrong with that decision, and it is the parents responsibility (note I don't say right) to make that decision. I'm talking about the bigger picture than cancer treatment here. I'm trying to have a larger discussion than just this one particular case.

It actually is a right granted by law. Sorry.

Consider, for a moment, a child who does not get a polio vaccination (because parents were unwilling to pay the $40 for it). The child eventually develops polio and eventually develops paralysis. The parents continue to refuse to treat the child - eventually the child's respiratory system fails and the child dies.

If a child in the US gets polio we have a much bigger problem. The parents would not be prosecuted.

Consider, for a moment, a child who develops one of the bazillions of infections that children can get. The parents refuse to pay the $50 for antibiotics (prescription and pills), and the infection spreads killing the child.

Happens more often then most would like to know. Parents do not have a legal obligation to take their kid to the hospital unless there is clear and present extreme danger. If there are basic symptoms like a fever, a small rash, and diarrhea, chances are the parents would not be prosecuted. If the child was constantly convulsing, it's possible they would.

Consider, for a moment, the child who breaks their arm playing on the jungle gym. The parents refuse to pay the $2000 required to set the arm properly. The break does not heal and eventually the arm needs to be amputated (my wife very nearly had her arm amputated because she fell of the monkey bars if you think this is far fetched - though it wasn't because her parents refused care).

Not far fetched at all. Again, very common as well. If it's an obvious break with a limb hanging at an awkward angle it's entirely likely that a parent could be prosecuted for not taking them to a hospital. But that brings up the triage bit again. A possible pattern?

Consider, for a moment, the child who grows to age 18 without learning how to read, write, add, or multiply, and has a functional vocabulary of a 6 year old. This adult is now unable to function in society due to lack of education and has missed an important window in childhood development where such education is much more readily accepted by the brain. This because the parents refused to pay the $5000 (or time) necessary to educate their child with these skills.

Education is free and not sending your kid to school is obviously legal grounds for loads of prosecution.

Some of these result in death, others result in permanent physical or mental damage. All of them are criminal examples of child neglect, and should result in incarceration of the parents and (where possible) removal of custody of the child.

It depends on the severity of the medical issues, which I pointed out. Only the broken bone one would lead to a case of CPS being brought in.

If a parent is having to make that call, they should give the kids up for adoption. "Fix an aching tooth" could just as easily be replaced with "get an education" or "pay rent". All of these are things required of parents. If they cannot provide them, they should find people who can.

That's so beyond irrelevant I can't believe what would make you say that. There is no law requiring you to take your kids to dentist. There is a law saying you have to feed them, and food is available from the state for free. There is a law saying you have to take them to school, and schooling is provided from the state for free. Dentists, not so much. In none of the articles about the case was there any talk of prosecution. Why? Because the woman didn't do anything illegal.

If it were up to me, the parents in the link you provided would lose custody of all of their children and would be incarcerated for child abuse.

But that's not the law.


Poverty is not an excuse to abuse your child. The child should only be entrusted to people capable of caring for it.

So parents who can't afford to take their kids to the dentist should be legally required to give up their kids to the state? Dentists don't work for free. It's not like they can just go to the emergency room and get immediate care. Who is going to take care of all the poor peoples kids then?
 
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