However I don’t think Religions of any sort make them violent. They can as you say encourage violence, they can also encourage great acts of kindness or compassion too.
Personally I’d be happy without religion in the world, but as I’ve gotten older I’ve realised if someone is religious I’m not one to argue they shouldn’t be. I listen and then I offer an alternative viewpoint. If that person then enters a civilised discussion and will return the time I’ve afforded them, then all is well and I can be happy. However one thing I have found over the years is I’m more likely going to run into those who just want to say their part and get in a huff when they realise I don’t agree with them. So if religion and politics for that matter crop up, I either excuse myself from the conversation of sit back and have some popcorn.
Depending on what you're considering religion, it can do a lot of things, but it also tends to be more often than not based in the illogical and propagate misinformation. This isn't something that makes decisions for people or completely controls their morality, but it can very much influence them. It's also unnecessary baggage as whatever good religion might do can be found through other means like reason.
Still, people can do good in spite of religion and they should be left to decide for themselves if they want to follow a given set of beliefs.
What I do hate about religions is all the get out of free jail cards they use to duck and dodge their own religious rules. I also dislike the hypocrites who, drink, do drugs, deal drugs, have pre-marital sexual relations mainly when they’re young and the as they get older preach to everyone how wicked everyone else is. This ranges from individuals right up to the whole religion.
I don't see the problem with this. It could be a sign of dishonesty or hypocrisy, but it could just as much signal that they are thinking people that don't accept the first thing they hear.
My own path out or religion was very far from dropping everything at once. It started by turning away from the most obvious problems first. I also had fact check, because being indoctrinated heavily influenced my world view. There was a time when I thought it was a fact that some kind of god existed, it was a fact that this god came to Earth as a human, a fact that the world was flooded by this god, and a fact that people would have their eternal fate set by this god among other things. This absolutely impacted my decision making. Which is as it should be, it's same as knowing the fact that falling from a great height will kill you will influence what you do when standing on a cliff. You may want to live or you may want to die, in both cases knowing what will happen if you go over the cliff is going to change what you do near the edge. Layers and layers of false facts like the ones I had a lot of exposure to from religion can really slow down the escape process.
Say that you believe the following four things; there is a god, he says only truths, he says there is a heaven and hell, he says homosexuality will send you to hell. If you hear this from a young age first of all, you're not equipped to question it. Evolutionary pressure has essentially built in the appeal to authority fallacy into children (parents may disagree). As you grow you may develop an increasingly likelihood of questioning portions of your belief, but something probably has to trigger it. You're never going to meet a god that doesn't exist so it's easy for that to go unquestioned. You can test what is stated to be the word of god, but even if you prove those false, that could simply be a case of misinformation on the part of whoever told you that something was god's word. Heaven and hell are like god in that you're never going to experience them so they can potentially go unchallenged for a long time. Homosexual people may or may not be encountered, so there may be a lot of chance involved in questioning what they are like and if what they do is wrong.
So out of the four points I listed (god, truth, heaven/hell, morality of homosexuality) two seem unlikely to be challenged very often while one is readily testable, though can be interpreted in different ways, and one is testable but heavily depend on circumstance to be challenged. This looks like a good formula selective belief. It may also created the layering effect I mentioned earlier, as if one attempts to move away from falsehoods they are unlikely to challenge what they perceive as facts with a higher degree of certainty (in this case that god, heaven, and hell exist) when they are grappling with less solid facts (god speaks only truth, homosexuality is wrong).
Two that spring to mind are sexual abuses by Catholic Priest with the Church hushing things up where they can, Muslim grooming gangs and a very odd get out or workaround is the Eruv in Manhattan.
To me the first two are more about disregard for other people than hypocrisy. Even if we say for the sake of argument that following every tenant of a religion would prevent these things, does that make complete religious adherence a good thing? Wouldn't Christian police and fire fighters have to refuse to work on Sundays? Would NASA be spending billions losing spaceships because Copernicus would have had to recant on the heliocentric model?
If your religion says you have to do something and you don’t agree, then in my eyes you don’t really follow that religion you’re a hypocrite. If there is a god out there, then doing some of the teachings you agree with and ignoring those you don’t, then I’m pretty sure he/she/it isn’t not going to be happy and you’re not getting your happy ever after.
This is a simplification. If a follower of a religion believes that something is true and then ignores it, I think you have a point. However, they may choose not to follow a certain rule because they don't believe it. That is not only OK, but I think it's noble. You might technically be correct in saying that they don't follow the official or mainstream version of their religion, but rather than making them a hypocrite, it could just make them a member of their own sect.