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I think sex is fine when you're in a committed relationship, but I don't agree with random hook ups. The random hook ups people snag from clubs, bars, parties, etc have a higher chance of contracting an STD then sex in a committed relationship (I mean you should know your partner right?) and I think that is cause for a health concern. Plus if you are the sort to randomly hook up with strangers you meet then you are one who probably does it frequently, which increases the chances even more for spreading STD's. And while a condom is all well and good, many people perform other sexual acts without a condom since the pregnancy risk isn't there.
The other issue is the mental problems associated with random hook ups which can cause people to do some rather outlandish things which cause harm to others or themselves.
I, personally, have very little respect for males or female who just go off with random people and hook up. If you don't even have enough respect for your own body to know who's putting what into it or vice versa, then how can you have respect for anything else? The first thing you should respect is yourself. I also find women who are willing to climb into bed with anyone very unattractive.
As far as being in a relationship, I could care less what you do in whatever way you want, this goes for both hetro and homosexuals. And I don't even think you have to be in love for it either, you should just be comfortable enough with one another so you have a lower risk of mental problems and you know your partners past so that you are both protected from STD's.
The other issue is the mental problems associated with random hook ups which can cause people to do some rather outlandish things which cause harm to others or themselves.
I, personally, have very little respect for males or female who just go off with random people and hook up. If you don't even have enough respect for your own body to know who's putting what into it or vice versa, then how can you have respect for anything else? The first thing you should respect is yourself. I also find women who are willing to climb into bed with anyone very unattractive.
As far as being in a relationship, I could care less what you do in whatever way you want, this goes for both hetro and homosexuals. And I don't even think you have to be in love for it either, you should just be comfortable enough with one another so you have a lower risk of mental problems and you know your partners past so that you are both protected from STD's.
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I don't believe most of those turn into any sort of healthy, long term relationship. A relationship based on sex seems like one that wouldn't last very long and would have more problems to deal with. I'm not saying it's not possible, because anything is possible with relationship, but I think a vast majority of the time it doesn't work.
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An other documentary I saw, on "Sex Friends".
These are people that do not get the sex they find needed in normal life and get in contact with someone else also only looking for sex. They do not meet unless for sex.
The reasons people do this are very different, some have partners that are seriously ill, some do not make time for a full relationship and limit it to this, ...
Be clear they are not casual contacts, they are long term sex relationships (in the documentary I believe the longest was over 2 years).
Fully complies to "2 consenting adults" in a private place.
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Sex is part of a loving relationship
Not necessarily means that people need to be married. But I dislike the idea of picking up drunk girls in the various bars of Paris for the sole purpose of dragging them into my bedroom, to be honest. Neither would I favour being "friends with benefits" with girls I know.
Not necessarily means that people need to be married. But I dislike the idea of picking up drunk girls in the various bars of Paris for the sole purpose of dragging them into my bedroom, to be honest. Neither would I favour being "friends with benefits" with girls I know.
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Iran, Pakistan, Saudi Arabia.
outlaw sex, even between consenting adults, if not ....
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I have to support Mr.S., even if I would have trouble with that vision when I was around 20.
Respect is essential and with drunk people how do you know there is real consent?
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I'm going to side with the gist of Famine's point. Sex is nobody's business besides the people involved. Consenting adults, etc.
Now for myself; I voted for sex being natural and good. I personally don't subscribe to the idea of multiple partners. Even when in times when I wasn't currently in a long-term relationship, I generally have always stuck with one partner at a time. I don't like one-night-stands and I don't like to sleep around. That being said, you can go back to my first point. I do not think down upon people who aren't as monogamous as myself (one of my best friends comes to mind as being on the opposite end of the spectrum, in fact).
The only time I've ever looked down upon someone sleeping around is when they are hypocritical. People who are posting bible verses on facebook and then going on to sleep around in secret. I can't stand that.
Now for myself; I voted for sex being natural and good. I personally don't subscribe to the idea of multiple partners. Even when in times when I wasn't currently in a long-term relationship, I generally have always stuck with one partner at a time. I don't like one-night-stands and I don't like to sleep around. That being said, you can go back to my first point. I do not think down upon people who aren't as monogamous as myself (one of my best friends comes to mind as being on the opposite end of the spectrum, in fact).
The only time I've ever looked down upon someone sleeping around is when they are hypocritical. People who are posting bible verses on facebook and then going on to sleep around in secret. I can't stand that.
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I'd agree with all of this. I've only had one girlfriend and one sex partner (same person), and I think I'd like to remain to one sex partner and a committed relationship. To me, I knew my girlfriend so well and had such a good connection with her, and sex has just made that better. I don't think I'd get the same thing from a one night stand or random hookup.
That being said, to each his own and whatever other people do in the bedroom is their own business, I don't care if other people want to sleep around, that's their decision and I don't judge just because I have different attitudes about sex. The only thing that bothers me is hypocrites, and people who brag about it for attention. For example, I was hanging out with my friends at school (girls/guys), and the guys (and one girl) were talking about MW2. After a while one of the girls was tired of the spotlight being off her, and said "well, when you losers are playing video games, I'm out having sex, so there". That was just such a dumb thing to say
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its an interesting thing to see the diversity of beliefs about sex. My mom is a gynecologist so i was brought up without the stork or any of that. Ive been brought up very open minded about sex but had not been able to have it until a friend wanted a FWB with me. So my personal experience is quite limited. Hers, not so much. but we do see eye to eye about single life versus commited relationship. Which I think is where the debate should really be.
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Well, the last three options are hardly mutually exclusive, sex is part of a loving relationship, sex is natural, and it should be about maximum pleasure for you and your partner, so I'd tick all three - any one doesn't exclude the other?... having said that I also believe abstinance does have it's virtues.
I dunno, maybe...
Sex is mostly about pleasure
Sex is mostly about reproduction
Sex is evil
Sex is a spectator sport
...would have been more telling.
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Understand your point: People have been explaining their choice, which helps.
For me:
Abstinence is a virtue ~ Sex is evil, it should be kept to a minimum.
Sex is part of a loving relationship ~ Sex is mostly about reproduction
Sex is natural, sex is good ~ there is too much talk, worries, do within reason
Pleasure to the max! ~ Sex is mostly about pleasure, try anything, anywhere
Sex is the meaning of life! ~ If there is no sex, life would be completely different
On that last theme: If there is no sex, life would be completely different.
Erectile dysfunction is not a reason to end your life for me, mainly because sex is more then what you can not do in that case.
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Well I voted for sec is part of a loving relationship. I voted that because it's what I believe. I don't look down on those who have friends with benefits or those who routinely have one night stands. To be honest I couldn't care less.
For me sex is important and a large part of a relationship, when you start getting deeper into a relationship anyway.
I'm now 20 and I've had my current girlfriend for what's coming up on 4 years now (also the girl I'm asking to marry me after university is done) and she is the only girl I've ever had the urge to sleep with.
I feel like it wouldn't be the same with anybody else and I feel like it wouldn't be anything special if it was somebody I'd picked up at a club. Anyway that's only for how I feel and again I do agree with Famine's point that if it's two consenting adults then it's entirely up to what you think.
For me sex is important and a large part of a relationship, when you start getting deeper into a relationship anyway.
I'm now 20 and I've had my current girlfriend for what's coming up on 4 years now (also the girl I'm asking to marry me after university is done) and she is the only girl I've ever had the urge to sleep with.
I feel like it wouldn't be the same with anybody else and I feel like it wouldn't be anything special if it was somebody I'd picked up at a club. Anyway that's only for how I feel and again I do agree with Famine's point that if it's two consenting adults then it's entirely up to what you think.
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