Stressy parents thread

[axletramp]

Well it wasn't too long for me and I thought that was a very honest and brave post. 👍

Wenders excellent post earlier is pretty much how it is. I have a 13 year old son and a 5 year daughter (looking forward to those teen years ) and I can honestly say that each and everyone of you will act in a certain way or do something with your children that you swore you never would because your parents did it. I'm not criticising, just stating a fact. Obviously the more extreme incidents of violence, verbal abuse and general mentalness are unforgivable and you have every right to feel angry, frustrated and, let's face it, let down.

Strangely though, I found that I grew to disagree far more with how my parents brought my sister and myself up when I was older, especially when I had kids myself. As a teenager I thought my childhood and schooling were fine and it was a pretty stable environment. It's only now looking back that I realise that things weren't perfect and that in fact my parents were wrong about so many things - especially schooling. But I'm sure my kids will think the same - what goes around comes around.

You just try and do your best as parents. I suppose tolerance and balance have a lot to do with it. Unfortunately, some people are better at it than others. I do hope that you guy's having problems don't let them run too deep because those folks, like mine, aren't around forever.

 

[Alex p.]

Sorry to hear that Steel, really. Oh and her death and cancer, think of me what you want, but she didn't deserve any better, at all. That is no offence to you whatsoever to be clear.

Well it wasn't too long for me and I thought that was a very honest and brave post. 👍

And this.

Strangely though, I found that I grew to disagree far more with how my parents brought my sister and myself up when I was older,

Same here. 23 now and I see more and more mistakes by my parents every day, and how ALL of that has been carried over to my older sister. (31)

She treats her children like a psychopath at times and I HATE that and make that clear also and therefore I am hated by the entire family, I hate them all seriously, total hypocrits and psychopaths. Also always pretending they are totally normal and that I "think I am better than them", which I actually am lol. So **** them.

Sometimes I have the feeling the only reason I didn't brake with all of them is my nephew and niece, I LOVE them like crazy! Pretty much almost the only things of value in my life.

 

[Ellis]

I think despite how horrid the things that people have said have happened to them, I think that they are quite interesting to read and I am sure helping the people to get it off peoples chest. And also you get to find out things that you would not normally see on the face of things.

And steele that was such an odd situation, you must have had such a mad upbringing and cannot begin to think about how that must have been.

 

[Pyle_PMG]

Same here. 23 now and I see more and more mistakes by my parents every day, and how ALL of that has been carried over to my older sister. (31)

She treats her children like a psychopath at times and I HATE that and make that clear also and therefore I am hated by the entire family, I hate them all seriously, total hypocrits and psychopaths. Also always pretending they are totally normal and that I "think I am better than them", which I actually am lol. So **** them.

Sometimes I have the feeling the only reason I didn't brake with all of them is my nephew and niece, I LOVE them like crazy! Pretty much almost the only things of value in my life.

My family constantly fights over my Nana's "fortune" and who should get it. And my Nana isn't even dead! Funny thing is, they're fighting over nothing.

My family (except for my parents and siblings) are literally brain-dead delinquents.

This is how life goes:

When you're young you think your parents are super!

As you get older you begin to see they aren't perfect.

You see more and more mistakes.

Then you have kids.

You remember your parents mistakes and don't repeat them.

Thus your parents taught you how to parent your children. And you feel thankful.

 

[Ellis]

What goes around seems to go around ey?

 

[Alex p.]

My family constantly fights over my Nana's "fortune" and who should get it. And my Nana isn't even dead! Funny thing is, they're fighting over nothing.

My family (except for my parents and siblings) are literally brain-dead delinquents.

This is how life goes:

When you're young you think your parents are super!

As you get older you begin to see they aren't perfect.

You see more and more mistakes.

Then you have kids.

You remember your parents mistakes and don't repeat them.

Thus your parents taught you how to parent your children. And you feel thankful.

Never.

 

[nk4e]

My family constantly fights over my Nana's "fortune" and who should get it. And my Nana isn't even dead! Funny thing is, they're fighting over nothing.

My family (except for my parents and siblings) are literally brain-dead delinquents.

This is how life goes:

When you're young you think your parents are super!

As you get older you begin to see they aren't perfect.

You see more and more mistakes.

Then you have kids.

You remember your parents mistakes and don't repeat them.

Thus your parents taught you how to parent your children. And you feel thankful.

Well, you try not to make the same mistakes and repeat them. When you progress where your parents worked hard, your children will progress even further.Because you have told your children how did you live.

 

[E28]

My parents are OK. They can be strict, but are reasonable. Fairly average bed time rules, I can go out with friends if I want, they don't mind about girls. I had a girlfriend about a year ago and they were like 'thats so sweet'

 

[Ellis]

I won't even go out with a girl if I know my parents won't like them

 

[NissanSkylineN1]

I won't even go out with a girl if I know my parents won't like them

At least your parents let you go out with a girl...

 

[Ellis]

Seem's a bit odd that why wont they? I amsure if you did then they wouldn't complain.

 

[Boffin]

At least your parents let you go out with a girl...

Haha girls is one of the few things I just don't discuss with them. At all. Its like a blanket 'no' even if they ask or, god forbid, dad cheekily points out some 'talent' when out and about. I just ignore and move the topic somewhere else.
Pretty sure they started to think I was gay because I showed no interest to anyone when anywhere near them. Mum's reaction when I got my first gf was (in true British fashion) "Oh jolly good".

 

[Ellis]

same with me

 

[NissanSkylineN1]

My parent's are like "Don't be like these white spoiled kids (I live in a wealthy neighborhood) who go dating and partying and do stuff. We want you to be studious and get a 95% average." If they find out that I were to date a girl, they would rage. Perhaps even make me switch schools, and they once threatened to do so when they found out that I was skyping with this chick.

 

[SkateNj]

Wow that sucks^ My parents want to to be studious as well and its pretty annoying. I just dont care anymore and go out when i please. Im tired of dealing with it.

 

[Boffin]

Huh.... that's too bad. My parents encourage it. I s'pose its my age. Alot of people my age pull endless one night stands are start the whole friends with benefits thing and perhaps the parents just want me to enjoy early adulthood like everyone else, like I am missing out on something. My dad asked the other night why I didn't have a 'squeeze' so I shrugged and said they cost money (again with the whole avoid it asap thing). In reality I am not that blunt. Whereas the majority of guys will go after anything that moves, I am amazingly picky in that subject so they rarely come my way.

THe kind of annoying thing about it is any girl they see me having any communication with (usually from uni, I don't know many outside uni), they ALWAYS ask "just friends are we?" lol. This one girl I once had semi relations with wanted to come round to my house to pick up some camera gear and I went Chuck Testa on her ass, mainly because I didn't want the barrage of questions from the parentals. This is not to say I am closed up about the whole relationships thing by any extent, just around my parents.

 

[McLaren]

My family constantly fights over my Nana's "fortune" and who should get it. And my Nana isn't even dead! Funny thing is, they're fighting over nothing.

My family (except for my parents and siblings) are literally brain-dead delinquents.

This is how life goes:

When you're young you think your parents are super!

As you get older you begin to see they aren't perfect.

You see more and more mistakes.

Then you have kids.

You remember your parents mistakes and don't repeat them.

Thus your parents taught you how to parent your children. And you feel thankful.

You are definitely one of the younger members here. What you classify as "mistakes" may be purposely-made choices in how they choose to raise you.

Those mistakes you see as you as get older, mistakes you don't want your children to repeat, should be your own. Your parents have more than likely on more than 1 occasion tried to raise you so you don't make a mistake they made at your age.

 

[Guardian]

It would be SO funny if your parents found this.

 

[Ellis]

the horror....

 

[mattythedog]

It would be SO funny if your parents found this.

the horror....

 

[Pyle_PMG]

You are definitely one of the younger members here. What you classify as "mistakes" may be purposely-made choices in how they choose to raise you.

Those mistakes you see as you as get older, mistakes you don't want your children to repeat, should be your own. Your parents have more than likely on more than 1 occasion tried to raise you so you don't make a mistake they made at your age.

Everyone's opinions of situations differ .

But there are things my parents do that are mistakes that I will not make when parenting to my children (AKA forcing religion on them).

I know my parents raise me to not make the same mistakes, and they do a pretty good job at it.

My father tells me many stories of his childhood and the mistakes he made, thus teaching me to not do those things. The day I made that post I was incredibly tired and felt too lazy to finish a whole ramble about it.

It would be SO funny if your parents found this.

I think you would have to run far to avoid your mother running after you with a rolling pin.

 

[Ellis]

Rolling pin....run......she would do something much more deviant

 

[rb26x]

My mom flips out any time she hears racing, whether it's GT or any road racing, yet she'll put up with NASCAR, which is 40 cars with the exact same exhaust note going in an oval for a few hours. Then whenever I seem depressed or down to my parents, my mom complains more, making me feel worse, and my dad will usually yell at me for being sad. I hate living here, and as soon as I save up enough I will move out, although I'll probably end up following the same route as my sister, barely paying my own phone bill. A college dorm would be nice right now.

 

[Carlos]

although I'll probably end up following the same route as my sister, barely paying my own phone bill.

Use this to motivate yourself. Seriously. It's probably not easy to get a job there, but never, NEVER get yourself in financial trouble. I see people getting loans for everything. Buy now, pay later. Yeah sure, you'll forget about it or 'ahh that's for later'. You want something, save it up. Try to be financially independent. That means, if you can't pay your phone bill, get a prepaid. It's hard to be like that for yourself, but it's better than ending up like your sister...

 

[rb26x]

The thing is that I lack motivation to prove myself to anyone, and I certainly don't care myself. Maybe I'll be better off since I don't come home drunk and I get good grades. I'm planning on going beyond community college like her, I think it's reachable.
Back on topic, I just got told by my dad to discipline myself to work out (we have weights in the basement) because I'm spending too much time on the computer. I'm sore from working out with weights every day in gym, but when I tell him my legs are sore from doing the leg press, I get yelled at saying I shouldn't be sore because that means I'm working out too much. Anyway, I was just playing guitar from about 3:00 to 5:00, but since he wasn't home he doesn't notice. It's not so much stressy parents as much as ones that don't communicate well, and I just get down over it. Right now I feel the worst I have in a year or so.

 

[Boffin]

I always got told that the soreness was a sign that you are successfully working the muscles...

 

[rb26x]

He says its overworking them, and that I should take it easy.

 

[Carlos]

When my dad was like, nothing what I did was good blabla, I said to myself: hey, screw you. It's good to me, I don't do this for you. If you want to play guitar for 2 hours and be on your computer all day, do it. If that is what you like, you shouldn't care about others. You know what's best for you.. Just try to be fresh, get a good sleep. A little workout before starting the day helped me to clear my mind, try it!

 

[Boffin]

When my dad was like, nothing what I did was good blabla, I said to myself: hey, screw you. It's good to me, I don't do this for you. If you want to play guitar for 2 hours and be on your computer all day, do it. If that is what you like, you shouldn't care about others. You know what's best for you.. Just try to be fresh, get a good sleep. A little workout before starting the day helped me to clear my mind, try it!

I do sit ups, weights and push ups before going to bed. Means I sleep like a log haha. Sometimes I wake up sore, but I just take it as me doing some work for my body, so I don't mind it.

 

[rb26x]

I don't have near enough time, I'm supposed to wake up at 6:00, but 98% of the time wake up at 6:20-6:30, shower, do all the morning routine, then leave at what is supposed to be 6:50ish, and ends up 7:00 or later to walk (or ride an embarrassing scooter so I can go faster and not worry about getting a bike stolen) to school, at which point I sleep in school. If my shower goes over 10 minutes, I owe my dad 1$ for every minute.