Stressy parents thread

[Carlos]

Haha I tried that too, but after doing that I couldn't sleep anymore! I ment like, doing a hard workout before you go to work or something. I bought myself a mtb a few months ago. Did a 20km round, freshed up and went to work. I was fresh on freshness in my mind, all clear, motivated like never before...

 

[rb26x]

I'll try that this summer before work...
thanks for the idea.

 

[Carlos]

I don't have near enough time, I'm supposed to wake up at 6:00, but 98% of the time wake up at 6:20-6:30, shower, do all the morning routine, then leave at what is supposed to be 6:50ish, and ends up 7:00 or later to walk (or ride an embarrassing scooter so I can go faster and not worry about getting a bike stolen) to school, at which point I sleep in school. If my shower goes over 10 minutes, I owe my dad 1$ for every minute.

You do have enough time.. Get yourself a good alarm and put it on the other side of the room. Wake up at 6, workout 20 to 30minutes, shower for 10 minutes (my dad did the same thing haha), continue your routine and walk. If you fall asleep in school, your too tired. Get yourself some rest, it'll be easier too motivate yourself too when you sleep better.

I'll try that this summer before work...
thanks for the idea.

Don't do it later, you have to act now.. Do something..

 

[rb26x]

I'll try, but I've been feeling terrible lately, and that leads to me not having the motivation for anything. I'm not sure that I could get myself to do that now, maybe when I start feeling better I could start and just keep it going. Really though, thanks, maybe I could jog to school. It's about 20-30 degrees in the morning, so sweating wouldn't be a problem, and I don't care about what anyone in school thinks of me anyway so I think I'll try that.

 

[Carlos]

I don't want to push you, so I'll tell something about myself first. I've been in depression for like a year, telling myself that I could only do something when I felt better. That however, was the problem. Everybody told me to just do something different than normal. Escape from the routine, becaus the routine is the thing that kills you. I had a little bit of money left, bought myself a mtb.. After mtb'ing for a few weeks I suddenly began to feel different. I was motivated to do things, although I didn't know what these things were. Now I'm trying to put this motivation in a place I could use. I'm not fully 'back' but I do more things, feel way better and do things the way I like them with confidence.

What I try to say, you have to do something with yourself.. I've been there, that's why I reply to you.. It's not an easy thing to do though, you really have to say to yourself; oke, now is the time I want to just be myself and feel good. It takes time, I had many doubts, wanted to see a change too early, luckily I had someone to motivate me a little bit.. I saw you have girlfriend, it's sort off her job to help you..

 

[Ellis]

maybe I could jog to school. It's about 20-30 degrees in the morning, so sweating wouldn't be a problem, and I don't care about what anyone in school thinks of me anyway so I think I'll try that.

It is a lot better than being unfit and de motivated Give that a go 👍

 

[Alex p.]

The thing is that I lack motivation to prove myself to anyone, and I certainly don't care myself. Maybe I'll be better off since I don't come home drunk and I get good grades. I'm planning on going beyond community college like her, I think it's reachable.
Back on topic, I just got told by my dad to discipline myself to work out (we have weights in the basement) because I'm spending too much time on the computer. I'm sore from working out with weights every day in gym, but when I tell him my legs are sore from doing the leg press, I get yelled at saying I shouldn't be sore because that means I'm working out too much. Anyway, I was just playing guitar from about 3:00 to 5:00, but since he wasn't home he doesn't notice. It's not so much stressy parents as much as ones that don't communicate well, and I just get down over it. Right now I feel the worst I have in a year or so.

I have been in a similar situation like you. All I can say is NEVER let yourself get down by ANYONE, it really doesnt matter who they are. If somebody treats you in a bad manner, then they simply do not respect and appreciate your value. Make yourself independent from such people, emotionally, even if it's your parents, it's possible. 👍

Always remind yourself that you deserve better, everyone deserves respect and love. 👍

 

[Ellis]

always remind yourself that you deserve better, everyone deserves respect and love. 👍

+1

 

[rb26x]

Thanks guys, I decided that today I would get up no matter how sore and tired I was, so I did. I did 30 sit-ups, 20 push-ups, and stretched. That woke me up quickly, and my day just felt better. In gym I actually pushed myself. Since it's so cold we stay inside and do weight training, and I actually did something with it today. The only time I wasn't in a good mood was after gym when I got completely drained for the next two periods, but then it was 7th, which means lunch! I still feel bad about losing friends and all, but I generally feel better. Thanks for the suggestion, and yes, my girlfriend puts me before her, and it helps me feel important to someone, so that helps.

 

[Carlos]

Nice to read 👍 I hope you can motivate yourself to keep doing this!

 

[rb26x]

I don't feel like re-typing, but I figured this is related, I posted it in the "What Grinds your Gears?" thread:

My parents. I was having a pretty good day, and then as soon as they get home, I hear whining and complaining towards me, and I feel terrible again tonight. I need to get out, but oh, I'm not aloud out after dark even though I'm 15, almost 16. It doesn't matter though, I don't have a jacket since my mom says I'll outgrow it this year, so I'd have to wear layers, restricting any mobility on a bike, and keeping me from having any fun going outside, being that it's cold, and I hate the cold with a passion.

 

[Lucas]

I'm only allowed to stay up until 10:30 on schoolnights, and I'm 13 And to make it sound even worse, I'm homeschooled!

10.30? Im expected to be asleep by 9.30.

I haven't had a bed time since I was 12. As long as I get up in the mornings my mum doesn't care when I go to bed. I'm really surprised by how strict some parents are in this thread.

Same over here. My parents aren't that strict, but you have to keep in mind that I'm 19 and my brother is 25, so naturally they won't complain about things like staying up very late (which neither of us do, we generally go to bed at around 11pm), or swearing (though there are certain words we shouldn't say in their presence, yet we still do if we can't avoid it).

My mother complains about having things laying around in our (mine and my brother's) bedroom, which is without a doubt my brother's fault, since I love to have my things organized. My father complains that people can see the mess, but that's just because our house has a terrible design (EVERYONE can see what's going on in our room if the doors aren't closed, since it's right next to the dining room). Personally I don't think people should care about what our room looks.
My mother also complains about my brother leaving milk burning on the stove for too long, which often causes the milk to overflow. Again, I rarely do this myself, and she acknowledges it.

Another "complaint" is that we should get out of the house more often, to go dancing with our friends and such. Not gonna happen in my friends keep getting drunk at every place they go to.

The most common of them all, however, is that we are lazy. And it's true, so we try to help as much as we can, whenever they ask, without questioning.

I like tea. What's wrong with tea?

I like tea.

A general love for tea here 👍

Me teasta.

 

[Ellis]

My mum won't let me have anything to eat because apparently my room is supposidy a mess, it's spotess unless the amount of items on the bedside table rule is broken again. I count including the laptop I am typing on. WHYYYYYY I am starving

 

[Tom]

My mum won't let me have anything to eat because apparently my room is supposidy a mess, it's spotess unless the amount of items on the bedside table rule is broken again. I count including the laptop I am typing on. WHYYYYYY I am starving

That's just wrong, why would you deprive your child of food? I know I'm making it sound more serious than it is but still, everyone deserves food...

EDIT: 2,300th Post!

 

[SkateNj]

Yeah if somebody is seriously hungry let them eat.^

 

[Ellis]

I feasted when she popped out so all is good

Update: Today because my room was "untidy" My mum is no longer washing my clothes, ironing them, cooking me any of my food, giving me lifts to work etc etc. My room is infact tidy and i shall be adding a picture I must get a video or something of one of her rants

 

[Tom]

Oh man, did the Stressy Parents Thread die?

 

[Villain]

Ahhh the holidays... Perfect opportunity for my father to driver me crazy. I don't understand why he needs to change the radio station on my truck to his talk radio one when he's just backing out of the driveway and parking the truck across the street (this can't take longer than two minutes).

 

[Zupplu]

Get a lawyer and sue her for unlawful parenting. In all seriouness you should sit down with her and have a talk. If that fails you better move out asap

 

[Ellis]

Well months later.... My mum had a phase where all was good in elaines world. Not peaceful but bearable.

But since I have got a girlfriend I have noticed her slipping into her old habits. She told me she hated me this morning, as you do Again she still won't let me join any football despite offers coming in a fair bit.

Toast is still an issue....

She won't let me touch my own money and heaven forbid if I do

Oh and she roots through my bin. This is a new one but she has done it a few times. I put condoms in there to wind her up

Elaines Antics still exist

 

[Monatsende]

My parents are beyond the 70ies and aren`t stressy anymore. More like: "The kid can do whatever he wants."

 

[Ellis]

Mine are 50 so not quite they will still be as bad at that age only wrinklier