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How do you break someone out of it?@Yard_Sale just made a post about how nobody got his joke, and it's somehow their fault that they didn't. There is a tendency among the red pill crowd (and @Yard_Sale is an example of this based on his affinities for grouping males into alpha/beta hierarchies) to get frustrated when you don't understand their humor. But that's partly because a lot of times that humor is used for ulterior motives, like hiding true beliefs, or as a litmus test for friends.
I have a longtime friend who is a red pill incel. I'm not entirely sure he knows it, but he subscribes to most of the incel mind game. His humor is often based on a dry deadpan, which people are supposed to realize is sarcastic despite no sarcastic tone. The deadpan humor in this case is partly used as a litmus test. If you don't get his sarcasm despite the lack of tone, it's because you don't know him well enough. So if you fail to get his joke, you're guilty of something far worse than simply not getting the joke or not thinking he's funny. You're guilty of not understanding who he is, and thinking that he might have been serious about his sarcastic comment. This of course is something he internalizes, which makes him feel worse about himself, more misunderstood, more disconnected.
This sense of humor is designed to create an in-crowd and an out-crowd. Those who know you and those who don't. And if you find yourself getting more and more isolated, and the in-crowd is shrinking, it only ends up making you feel alone. The whole red pill problem is a lack of self-esteem coupled with social isolation. And a sense of humor designed to test social ties is partly coming from that lack of self-esteem, and it only ends up reinforcing the social isolation and lack of self-esteem.
It's tough to tell a friend "hey your dry deadpan sense of humor that you pride yourself on is actually pat of what is tormenting you".
It seems, in my experience, people still don't acknowledge their faults when it's pointed out.
