Choosing your Destiny: WANT TO -VS- HAVE TO.
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Why do you have to have one? Bet? Duel? Annoying Joneses?
If you want the unimaginable, Roger, prepare for the worst; isn't it better to target something you can visualise better?
Pardon me for saying this - but in my experience - when you have a million, you want two.
I was mentioning about having to go to the Bank, last time I was in on this discussion, and also wanting to go the the Toys R Us which is right by the Bank. Well my banking took a lot longer than expected and by the time I walked out I had almost forgotten my greed.
In my subconscious was the fact that my 'disposable' (Kodak CX7530, which I had used for almost eight years) knock-around work camera had taken a nasty fall and was now out of action and I needed to replace it.
The Swap Shop - a second-hand goods store was a door away from the Bank, and as this subconscious thought surfaced decided I would give it a quick peek - who knew - there could be a decent used camera in there.
Brilliant move - because not only did I get an almost brand-new Nikon Coolpix with all accessories for $25.00, they happened to be stocked up with a small selection of old diecast cars sold to them by some starving collector!! Better than if I had followed my logic and went straight to Toys R Us!
Sometimes what we pray for is the wrong thing. What we want and have can be the same thing - there has to be a little trick to this whole business, don't you think?
I was quite honestly quite thrilled with that serendipitous bit of Destiny. The camera works like a dream, and I picked up three really unusual cars for my collection - much better then forcing myself to pick from a boring wall of familiar mainlines.
Have which turns into Want is the best.
Now - I want to post away at GTP,
but . . .yup. Have to run some errands. The future awaits.
Regards to all . . .
Harry.
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Here's something.
To a point, you don't actually HAVE to do anything.
Take the OP, for instance. "You WANT to stay home. You HAVE to go to work." Well, no you don't. There will be consequences, but you don't HAVE to. It isn't inevitable. It's in your best interests to go to work, but there's nothing preventing you from staying home. And so you say, "Yes there is, my boss." Until your boss is physically dragging you out of your house and you aren't strong enough to resist, he can't actually prevent you from staying home. You don't HAVE to pay your taxes - you might eventually end up in jail, but you don't HAVE to. Etc. Everyone has total control over their destiny, they just have to be smart about it if they want it to be a good one.
Of course, I intend no disrespect to situations like TB's - having to live with something that you really are powerless to change is something you actually HAVE to do.
To a point, you don't actually HAVE to do anything.
Take the OP, for instance. "You WANT to stay home. You HAVE to go to work." Well, no you don't. There will be consequences, but you don't HAVE to. It isn't inevitable. It's in your best interests to go to work, but there's nothing preventing you from staying home. And so you say, "Yes there is, my boss." Until your boss is physically dragging you out of your house and you aren't strong enough to resist, he can't actually prevent you from staying home. You don't HAVE to pay your taxes - you might eventually end up in jail, but you don't HAVE to. Etc. Everyone has total control over their destiny, they just have to be smart about it if they want it to be a good one.
Of course, I intend no disrespect to situations like TB's - having to live with something that you really are powerless to change is something you actually HAVE to do.
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I want to sprout wings and fly.
I have to fly Easyjet...
I have to fly Easyjet...
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I want to drive cars for a living.
I have to be content with doing it only occassionally for Job Number One and every weekend for Job Number Two.
.....
I want the greenies and fundamentalists to shut up about genetic engineering, so I can rid my kids of diabetes.
I have to wait for armageddon for that. Or a black market gene-pill.
I have to be content with doing it only occassionally for Job Number One and every weekend for Job Number Two.
.....
I want the greenies and fundamentalists to shut up about genetic engineering, so I can rid my kids of diabetes.
I have to wait for armageddon for that. Or a black market gene-pill.
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Make the wish come true, Slash. Good luck and all the best!
Today - (actually almost everyday):
I WANT to be Pooh.
I HAVE to be Rabbit.
Urgh.
"Busy Backson"
Today - (actually almost everyday):
I WANT to be Pooh.
I HAVE to be Rabbit.
Urgh.
"Busy Backson"
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Noob - do the homework because you have to get a decent job. And you also want to get a decent job, don't you?
Play Starcraft after the HW. Best of both worlds. It's a case of shifting the 'want' times around, right?
This is what I've been thinking around in the last few days. See - I like to be Winnie the Pooh. Pooh has it real good. Hanging around in an enchanted forest, no less, enjoying the sun, lots of honey, pretending to be a cloud, or tracking Heffalumps with Piglet, going off to check on Eeyore, or Owl, having fun with Tigger and Rabbit, and Kanga . . . he has the best life ever. Not a care in the world. It's all metaphorical, though, for Life.
But Rabbit I have to be, most times - scurrying about 'doing stuff' - that in the end doesn't really mean anything in the greater scheme of things.
It's the little things that count - getting a smile out of Eeyore, or helping Owl get his home back. Or solving the whole mystery of Heffalumps - just like in real life.
Makes me wonder who Christopher Robin really is - in the allegorical sense.
So tomorrow - I have a plan. Pooh I'm going to be - even for a few hours. Rabbit with his 'have tos' will have to take a backseat to Pooh and his 'want tos'.
Play Starcraft after the HW. Best of both worlds. It's a case of shifting the 'want' times around, right?
This is what I've been thinking around in the last few days. See - I like to be Winnie the Pooh. Pooh has it real good. Hanging around in an enchanted forest, no less, enjoying the sun, lots of honey, pretending to be a cloud, or tracking Heffalumps with Piglet, going off to check on Eeyore, or Owl, having fun with Tigger and Rabbit, and Kanga . . . he has the best life ever. Not a care in the world. It's all metaphorical, though, for Life.
But Rabbit I have to be, most times - scurrying about 'doing stuff' - that in the end doesn't really mean anything in the greater scheme of things.
It's the little things that count - getting a smile out of Eeyore, or helping Owl get his home back. Or solving the whole mystery of Heffalumps - just like in real life.
Makes me wonder who Christopher Robin really is - in the allegorical sense.
So tomorrow - I have a plan. Pooh I'm going to be - even for a few hours. Rabbit with his 'have tos' will have to take a backseat to Pooh and his 'want tos'.
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That's what I did, finished my work, played some SC2 after 👍. Unfortunately I've been a little more Rabbit than Pooh lately, or rather, just been Pooh at the wrong times and having to be Rabbit for whole days at a time
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Thank You, guys . . . you're making me red.Thank you also for heartening me with the fact that you understand me and my efforts. It is however a two-way street; whenever I begin a discussion, I also learn so much from it, as different perspectives are shared, including many times from both of you. It is always a learning experience, and as I've heard - we always teach best what we most have to learn.
Me - I'm just a Bear of Little Brain.
Good man! You're getting a handle on this. I do that, too - shift my 'want' times around so that I can have what I want when I want it.
Unfortunately I've been a little more Rabbit than Pooh lately, or rather, just been Pooh at the wrong times and having to be Rabbit for whole days at a time
Yes, I know what you mean. I don't like to be Rabbit. I mean, Rabbit is Important and all that, and he does Important Things - but I'm not sure that Rabbit is as entirely happy - at least most of the time - as Pooh is.
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I WANT to be able to see clearly
I NEED to get $ to be able to get corneal ring surgery
I found out recently I have kertaconus which means my cornea's are shaped like cones and glasses wont work anymore. I cant get stronger glasses. my ONLY options are corneal ring surgery, corneal transplant surgery, ORRRRRRR hard contacts. (The hard contacts SUCK A$$!!!! I can't use them)
I NEED to get $ to be able to get corneal ring surgery
I found out recently I have kertaconus which means my cornea's are shaped like cones and glasses wont work anymore. I cant get stronger glasses. my ONLY options are corneal ring surgery, corneal transplant surgery, ORRRRRRR hard contacts. (The hard contacts SUCK A$$!!!! I can't use them)
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I WANT DRIVECLUB!!
I HAVE to buy a PS4.
Grrrrrr.
I HAVE to buy a PS4.
Grrrrrr.
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I want to be able to express my personal style fully i.e. dying my hair purple like Violet for Tekken (that's still a plan)
I have to be surrounded by judgemental douchebags on a daily basis who take more interest in peoples lives who they barely know than there own.
I have to be surrounded by judgemental douchebags on a daily basis who take more interest in peoples lives who they barely know than there own.
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Callumfromleeds - What you want isn't that much different from what most people want.
We all want to be ourselves.
It's ironic when you think that others don't want us to be ourselves, but what they want us to be.
In the end it's all about control, all about security, and in the end about fear.
Who would feel threatened about you doing your hair the way you'd like it? And why? One can only think that they may be concerned that they'll feel less special about themselves if you look different enough to be more special than them.
Being emotionally uncomfortable about someone's hair is.. . . well I guess there must be a word for it.
I would suggest though, if you really want to go ahead with the 'new hair' plan to introduce it in stages. For instance, just a streak of the purple. Maybe you can also introduce something else with the colour - a leather tieback, an enhanced cut to bring out the streak, etc, etc.
Who knows,everybody else will Want what you Have.
We all want to be ourselves.
It's ironic when you think that others don't want us to be ourselves, but what they want us to be.
In the end it's all about control, all about security, and in the end about fear.
Who would feel threatened about you doing your hair the way you'd like it? And why? One can only think that they may be concerned that they'll feel less special about themselves if you look different enough to be more special than them.
Being emotionally uncomfortable about someone's hair is.. . . well I guess there must be a word for it.
I would suggest though, if you really want to go ahead with the 'new hair' plan to introduce it in stages. For instance, just a streak of the purple. Maybe you can also introduce something else with the colour - a leather tieback, an enhanced cut to bring out the streak, etc, etc.
Who knows,everybody else will Want what you Have.
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I WANT to start Go-Karting
I HAVE to get a job,(and I HAVE to be old enough to get a job)
I HAVE to get a job,(and I HAVE to be old enough to get a job)
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It does make sense, if you think about it this way: you WANT to be asleep and you WANT to be conscious (awake and lucid) at the same time.
What you really want then is to experience the good times you have in your dreams - experience them to the point that they are then so firmly imprinted that dream recall is possible enough for you to be able to experience them again.
What you actually have to do then is to master lucid dreaming. Because what you actually want is to be happy remembering those good times.
Good luck with that.
Sympathy and regards Ibonibo. Try to focus on what you will have after you regain your health - in fact try, as much as possible, to feel that you already have the kind of health you want. This is the first step towards telling your body that you will have what you want from it eventually.
