Confession Booth

[G.T]

Yeah, I'd never, ever smoke, since I really hate the smell of it. And drugs I'll never do because it's wrong. Plus they're both expensive. But drinking is fine for me, but I won't over do it or drink often since that'll become horrible too...

 

[Sureboss]

oh crap.. all this time ive just been walking upto strangers and asking them to the movies!! damn i didnt realize i have to get to know them first!!

Thanks brad!!

Skip the introductions, I just drop my pants and wait for someone to approach me...

 

[ExigeEvan]

Like the Police?

Well, if you enjoy communal showers...

 

[Sureboss]

I enjoy the company tbh.

 

[daan]

Skip the introductions, I just drop my pants and wait for someone to approach me...

Didn't know you were George Michael. You've let yourself go...





Bye all. Nice knowing you

 

[Sureboss]

Oi, I'm a flasher, I'm not a dirty old man who goes into toilets! There is a difference!

 

[Roo]

I drunk for the very first time a few nights ago. Not pissed drunk, but enough to make me tipsy.

I can see why people like it - it makes you feel haaaapppy.

Really? I only got tipsy once, and felt miserable for the rest of the evening. Then I threw up. Never saw the point, and I haven't drunk alcohol since. Never smoked or done drugs - that's money I could be buying games or cars with. If it comes to that, I've never had sex either (although I'm informed "once you pop you can't stop" is particularly appropriate), mostly because I can't be bothered.

 

[nd 4 holden spd]

I confess, I think I have mental trauma of some description. No matter how badly I want to, or whatever, I simply can't bring myself to ask a girl out any more. (No I'm not turning gay). It could also be super low self-esteem. I've been rejected waaay too many times, and I think it's messed with my head. (Especially since not one girl has ever said yes).

 

[Max Powers]

Try doing something to make yourself feel more confident then.

Practice by flirting with girls that you're not even into, so that you don't care what happens either way, either that or just start hitting the gym or something. Even though it's superficial, if you're confident about how you look, things will go much more smoothly with the girls.

 

[Greycap]

No matter how badly I want to, or whatever, I simply can't bring myself to ask a girl out any more.

This one can be solved by thinking just a bit outside the box. You don't have to do the asking, play the game in such a way that the girl asks you. If she likes you enough she'll do that especially if she knows you're shy.

 

[TheCracker]

This one can be solved by thinking just a bit outside the box.

Yeah, don't even start thinking about the sex part yet.

 

[nd 4 holden spd]

Try doing something to make yourself feel more confident then.

Practice by flirting with girls that you're not even into, so that you don't care what happens either way, either that or just start hitting the gym or something. Even though it's superficial, if you're confident about how you look, things will go much more smoothly with the girls.

I'm joining a basketball team, but despite currently being a little chubby and unfit, it's the permanently ugly face the girls cringe at the site of. (Literally, cringe, I see it in their eyes).

This one can be solved by thinking just a bit outside the box. You don't have to do the asking, play the game in such a way that the girl asks you. If she likes you enough she'll do that especially if she knows you're shy.

A girl is going to make the effort for an ogre? A hot girl? Hot girls always expect you to ask them out, but even so, I can't possibly think of a way to get her to ask me out.

Yeah, don't even start thinking about the sex part yet.

I'm a Christian, I don't believe in sex before marriage anyway.

 

[Touring Mars]

Mate, if Lyle Lovett can marry Julia Roberts, then there is hope for anyone...

I don't buy the whole "I'm too ugly to have a gf/bf" bit, because I have seen too much evidence to the contrary to believe it... how many times have you seen a cute girl with an ugly bloke? It's so common, it's scarcely believable. It is quite reassuring, though - that the most successful/fulfilling relationships have very little emphasis on how good looking you or your partner are....

But if you think you are not good looking enough for a hot girl, you have to ask yourself why you are also buying into this fallacy by insisting on chatting up "a hot girl" in the first place...? Wouldn't you rather try to find someone you actually like/get on with/can relate to/can speak to/enjoy their company/can see yourself living with for the rest of your life... rather than merely being able to say "she's hot"?

Perhaps this is as much a reason for your continued failure to find a suitable partner than your perception of your own looks??

 

[nd 4 holden spd]

Mate, if Lyle Lovett can marry Julia Roberts, then there is hope for anyone...

I don't buy the whole "I'm too ugly to have a gf/bf" bit, because I have seen too much evidence to the contrary to believe it... how many times have you seen a cute girl with an ugly bloke? It's so common, it's scarcely believable. It is quite reassuring, though - that the most successful/fulfilling relationships have very little emphasis on how good looking you or your partner are....

But if you think you are not good looking enough for a hot girl, you have to ask yourself why you are also buying into this fallacy by insisting on chatting up "a hot girl" in the first place...? Wouldn't you rather try to find someone you actually like/get on with/can relate to/can speak to/enjoy their company/can see yourself living with for the rest of your life... rather than merely being able to say "she's hot"?

Perhaps this is as much a reason for your continued failure to find a suitable partner than your perception of your own looks??

My standards aren't really that high, but looks is what catches your eye first. I musr admit, I'm more of a fan of the "pretty" face than the "hot" face. Pretty gives the impression she is nice, and good to talk with etc. I've been talking to her though, and she seems really nice, a little shy even. (Not of me, but she just seems a little quiet, like me, and she like sport, like me). I think we'd get along, but unless I actually got to properly know her, how would I really know this stuff anyway? That's why I've got to pluck up enough courage to ask her out, and hope she says yes, but I've been rejected so many times I can't bring myself to do it. All that happens when she's around, or any girl I like these days, is that I feel really bad because I know that I wouldn't stand a chance with them. You think this is bad though? You should have seen me on formal/prom night, when you're supposed to go with a partner. I got so depressed I had to sit the night outside so I wouldn't be reminded of how lonely I was by the "happy couples".

Edit: You're right, pretty much everyone I know (ugly or not) has had partners in the past, so where does that leave me?

 

[Casio]

If you're that bad looking you could always find a blind lady, or become a plushie.

 

[Touring Mars]

My standards aren't really that high, but looks is what catches your eye first. I musr admit, I'm more of a fan of the "pretty" face than the "hot" face. Pretty gives the impression she is nice, and good to talk with etc. I've been talking to her though, and she seems really nice, a little shy even. (Not of me, but she just seems a little quiet, like me, and she like sport, like me). I think we'd get along, but unless I actually got to properly know her, how would I really know this stuff anyway? That's why I've got to pluck up enough courage to ask her out, and hope she says yes, but I've been rejected so many times I can't bring myself to do it. All that happens when she's around, or any girl I like these days, is that I feel really bad because I know that I wouldn't stand a chance with them. You think this is bad though? You should have seen me on formal/prom night, when you're supposed to go with a partner. I got so depressed I had to sit the night outside so I wouldn't be reminded of how lonely I was by the "happy couples".

Edit: You're right, pretty much everyone I know (ugly or not) has had partners in the past, so where does that leave me?

In the same boat as millions of others... the general point of what I'm suggesting is that approaching girls just because you like the look of them is not the only approach. "Hot girls" get asked out all the time and are much more likely to reject you "just because you like the look of them". If that is the basis of the deal, why should they accept it if you can't reciprocate? (This, IMO, is why so many "good looking" couples ultimately fail, because their entire relationship is based on personal vanity)

You will honestly have more success if you offer something else - and can demonstrate that you are not shallow enough to be interested in looks alone. For every "hot" or "pretty" girl you see, there are probably many more you haven't given a second look but who are equally likely to be the sort of person you'd like to be with (but are alot more likely to be able to date).

Best advice I can think of is to not focus so much on finding Ms. Right and concentrate on building up a few female friendships instead. This way, you're more likely to find the right person - or atleast start off on the right footing with, rather than the hit-and-miss approach of delving straight into the "So, do you want to go out with me?" approach... Although this is a longer term approach, I think it works on many levels - you get more experience of talking to women, you get more knowledge of what it is you want from a potential partner, and it takes the (self-imposed) pressure off...

Also, don't be fooled by the fact that "everyone else" is in a happy relationship and you aren't. Appearances can be (and frequently are) deceptive, and people often tend to only show what they want people to see. You're not in any rush, and you don't need a partner to show others how great you are - being single is not a crime and is infact a great deal better than entering into a phoney or emotionally void/shallow relationship. This forum has seen many a break-up, and everyone no doubt has their painful memories of failed relationships, so don't be too quick to rush into something just for the sake of it. One good relationship is far better than any number of bad ones!

 

[Barracuda]

In my opinion just don't bother if you're too nervous or if it doesn't feel right. For me it's gotten to the point where I just don't bother myself with thoughts of a girlfriend anymore. Yes it would be great to have a girlfriend but with my current situation I don't have the time, money, or patience to keep up a relationship. Plus I have gained a good bit of weight, though I have been told I have good eyes

 

[Sureboss]

That was by your optician, wasn't it?

 

[Touring Mars]

That was by your optician, wasn't it?

I've been told by a woman that I had "Mediterranean" eyes and that my eyesight was perfect... but yes, she was my optician

 

[TheCracker]

I've been told by a woman that I had "Mediterranean" eyes

She means you were leering at her

 

[Barracuda]

That was by your optician, wasn't it?

I have been told I have great eyes by my doctor, but two other random times i've been told I have beautiful eyes. One was actually quite awkward because I look over and see some girl staring into my eyes. After like 5 seconds she speaks up and says "you have beautiful eyes". I ended up saying "um.. thanks" because of how random and awkward it was.

She actually became a friend of mine the next year when she was in my Spanish class. [/random]

 

[V1P3R]

I've never thought I'd had eyes that were "beautiful" I mean... their Brown. When I went to L.A. once at to a Barns 'n Nobile I was looking for something and asked a worker their for help. She seemed hippyish or something, but thought I had "beautiful" eyes. I thought okie dokie, said thanks in an awkward way and went on my way.

As for finding a G/f I'd say the same thing as Diablo here up until the Weight part. Although I have a feeling my problem is... Height.

 

[Sureboss]

Sledgehammer or high heels.

 

[mcsqueegy]

Hope he's not too tall, hammers hurt... I remember for school photos last year, I put heaps of extra insloes in my shoes, made me an inch taller for the shots! Nobody suspected it. That's my new confession...

 

[mustangGT90210]

I confess, I think I have mental trauma of some description. No matter how badly I want to, or whatever, I simply can't bring myself to ask a girl out any more. (No I'm not turning gay). It could also be super low self-esteem. I've been rejected waaay too many times, and I think it's messed with my head. (Especially since not one girl has ever said yes).

I believe that's called lack-of-cahones-itus.

Just hit the gym. It's superficial and everything, but it does wonders for my confidence. I always feel like I'm losing myself when I'm not working out, but after about a week of going back, you see just the tiniest difference only you notice, but makes you feel that much better. Works for me

Or you can take my actual approach and just let it come to you. Just be yourself, if she doesn't like you for it, then she's not for you. Which can be hard to accept, I know, but such is life.

Spoiler

JK about the cahones thing

 

[socomplayer2]

Im 17 and
been smoking for 2 years
been drinking for 4
been smoking weed for 1
still a virgin and plan on staying that way until I find someone I love and that loves me back
I'm scared of spiders, and rollercoasters

BTW: I'm not proud that I smoke cigerettes and I'm trying to quit.

 

[High-Test]

I went 106 miles per hour on bald tires last week.

 

[Duke]

Im 17 and
been smoking for 2 years
been drinking for 4
been smoking weed for 1

BTW: I'm not proud that I smoke cigerettes and I'm trying to quit.

There's a few other things in that list you should be trying to quit, too.

Getting wasted is so damn DULL after the 37th time you do it.

 

[wrcsti]

I have been told I have great eyes by my doctor, but two other random times i've been told I have beautiful eyes. One was actually quite awkward because I look over and see some girl staring into my eyes. After like 5 seconds she speaks up and says "you have beautiful eyes". I ended up saying "um.. thanks" because of how random and awkward it was.

She actually became a friend of mine the next year when she was in my Spanish class. [/random]

Happens to me atleast once a week. Gotten used to it by now. I have green eyes with a yellowish brown inside.

OK for confesions. I don't smoke anything and don't do drugs (never found the fun in being retarded for a couple of hours). I do drink occasionally but I dont have a problem with it and Im skinny as heck.

 

[nd 4 holden spd]

In the same boat as millions of others... the general point of what I'm suggesting is that approaching girls just because you like the look of them is not the only approach. "Hot girls" get asked out all the time and are much more likely to reject you "just because you like the look of them". If that is the basis of the deal, why should they accept it if you can't reciprocate? (This, IMO, is why so many "good looking" couples ultimately fail, because their entire relationship is based on personal vanity)

You will honestly have more success if you offer something else - and can demonstrate that you are not shallow enough to be interested in looks alone. For every "hot" or "pretty" girl you see, there are probably many more you haven't given a second look but who are equally likely to be the sort of person you'd like to be with (but are alot more likely to be able to date).

Best advice I can think of is to not focus so much on finding Ms. Right and concentrate on building up a few female friendships instead. This way, you're more likely to find the right person - or atleast start off on the right footing with, rather than the hit-and-miss approach of delving straight into the "So, do you want to go out with me?" approach... Although this is a longer term approach, I think it works on many levels - you get more experience of talking to women, you get more knowledge of what it is you want from a potential partner, and it takes the (self-imposed) pressure off...

Also, don't be fooled by the fact that "everyone else" is in a happy relationship and you aren't. Appearances can be (and frequently are) deceptive, and people often tend to only show what they want people to see. You're not in any rush, and you don't need a partner to show others how great you are - being single is not a crime and is infact a great deal better than entering into a phoney or emotionally void/shallow relationship. This forum has seen many a break-up, and everyone no doubt has their painful memories of failed relationships, so don't be too quick to rush into something just for the sake of it. One good relationship is far better than any number of bad ones!

Damn good advice. From what I've learned about her so far, we do have a few things in common though. I wonder what else I can find out.

I've never thought I'd had eyes that were "beautiful" I mean... their Brown. When I went to L.A. once at to a Barns 'n Nobile I was looking for something and asked a worker their for help. She seemed hippyish or something, but thought I had "beautiful" eyes. I thought okie dokie, said thanks in an awkward way and went on my way.

As for finding a G/f I'd say the same thing as Diablo here up until the Weight part. Although I have a feeling my problem is... Height.

How tall are you? I'm 6 foot 2 inches last time I checked.

I believe that's called lack-of-cahones-itus.

Just hit the gym. It's superficial and everything, but it does wonders for my confidence. I always feel like I'm losing myself when I'm not working out, but after about a week of going back, you see just the tiniest difference only you notice, but makes you feel that much better. Works for me

Or you can take my actual approach and just let it come to you. Just be yourself, if she doesn't like you for it, then she's not for you. Which can be hard to accept, I know, but such is life.

Spoiler

JK about the cahones thing

at the cahones joke. I'm joining a basketball team, gym is too expensive and I never have the motivation to keep up workouts like that, but basketball is a great workout. (Apart from long distance running, basketball makes the most tired out of any sport, sprinting up and down the court all the time.)

Im 17 and
been smoking for 2 years
been drinking for 4
been smoking weed for 1
still a virgin and plan on staying that way until I find someone I love and that loves me back
I'm scared of spiders, and rollercoasters

BTW: I'm not proud that I smoke cigerettes and I'm trying to quit.

Definitely quit smoking, especially the weed.

I went 106 miles per hour on bald tires last week.

There's a few other things in that list you should be trying to quit, too.

Getting wasted is so damn DULL after the 37th time you do it.

If I was him some time next year/later this year I'd quit being 17 too.