I didn't say that it doesn't alienate. The issue I have is with false associations. It's the attitude that biting back can logically be expected, but coupled with a tendency to disregard the lack of logic in the exact expression of that bite back - and again, the "I'm doing this, because they're doing that" mentality.
It's the crux of everything I'm arguing, including on the topic of clothing. There's a lot of detail up for debate about how strongly recommended the niqab and hijab are, and also on the validity of the hadiths themselves, considering the "Do not write down anything I say except the Quran. Whoever has written something other than the Quran let him destroy it" in the Quran - but to a certain extent we can put those debates aside and accept that at the very least that the clothing is not a requirement. The question for me then becomes - why are women wearing these clothes? I think that as it stands there's a significant amount of push-back mentality to it...... "I'm doing this, because they're doing that".
People can try to base their choice purely on the teachings - there, a non-cynic might say that it's about modesty, a cynic, that it's about misogyny. Or just make spit up as they go, as I think a lot of women do today - "It's feminism", "It's freedom", "It's spirituality". For me, it for the most part looks more like standing their ground and making a statement for statement's sake, and I can't see how anything good can come of that. I think it's basically flipping the bird to all those accusers and detractors, and protracting the period of disharmony in the process. The approach should be taken that every false association is doing Islam damage, regardless of if it's on the extreme terrorist-type level, or right down to a seemingly inconsequential level.