The General Relationship Thread

[Team THRT Drift]

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[MoLiEG]

Speaking of which... we're over. Can't say I'm alright but I'm a hell of an actor and can keep a façade. We're staying as best friends but it's not the same. It'll never be the same.


It was neither of our faults. We're just not ready. I need to get my life in order and she has to figure out what to do with her life.

Once we get those straight we can reunite but I'm a realist... I don't see that happening, as much as I want it to. A lot can happen within a couple years.

Feelings may change, people can change.


My façade is the only thing that is... "positive"... in my life right now.


I'll be a honest I need a hug, guys. Maybe even a pint even though I don't drink but I might as well start now. Try something new, why not...?

I don't drink either, but I'd definitely give you a hug and invite you a beer. We are here for you bro, and I'm here just as you were here for me.

 

[BobK]

I'm not a wallet with legs either...

...and that's all you are to her. The sooner you get that through your head and move on, the better off you'll be.

 

[MoLiEG]

Just to amuse you a little bit:

This is a "small" list of things that have started fights with this person...

-Arriving 2 minutes late to her house after I said hello to her father on the street.
-Making a joke about how fancy a place is because of the price of the parking lot.
-Changing 3 seconds my whatsapp profile pic to a nice pic I found of a Pokémon (yesterday).
-Making a joke about how she just wanted to bother me with being late all the time. (cried, made some drama on the street...)
-Not taking her hand at the doctor when she gets her injection. Happened only once. The previous day we fought.
-Not wearing a ring she gave me. (She, on the other side decided not to wear her engagement ring for months because I... kicked a seat. Really Keep reading for full story.)
-Not being able to buy her this $150 Tiffany's necklace. (No money, sorry).
-Not saving her as "Wife <3" on my cellphone's contact list.
-Not having pics of her on my phone.
-Not calling her.
-Calling her. (WTF)
-Surprise visits to her house.
-Not making surprise visits to her house (Really?)
-Not erasing a like some old co-worker gave to one of our pics in facebook. (that can't be done).
-Having pics of us on facebook.
-Erasing them ()
-Not buying her flowers.
-Buying her florers. ()
-Eating with my co-workers.
-Having female contacts on facebook and linkedin.
-Not earning 1,500 trillion dollars a month already... No, really, I can bet that if somehow I get to earn $20,000 pesos a month, she will complain about being not enough.
-Not having a new car already.
-Working 1 and a half year on Toyota.
-Not being an executive or manager or something like that at this point of my life.
-Not having a Disney-like marriage proposal...
-Not presenting her to my parents after almost 2 full years dating and 1 year being engaged (this one is on me completely to an extent... BUT! After all these fights, it's basically impossible to arrange a metting. Tried it once, and she made up her mind and said no. My parents don't want to see her (because they've seen how I suffer and how she treats me), and she doesn't want to see them either.
-A 🤬 balloon... on october 24th we celebrated 1 year of being engaged... sent to her office a Balloon that said "Happy Day"... she said that wasn't romantic at all and that she was absolutely sad and that she didn't like it.
-Kicking a seat on the cinema. Well, it wasn't even a kick, I did it for fun, to amuse her! I hit my leg with it and said "bad seat!" and then gave it a little push with my foot. Result: I'm a danger to others, to herself, I'm a violent man, I might kick her or punch her and our baby... She broke our engagement, decided not to wear her ring, and asked for another proposal (yeah, you remember this right?)
-Lying about my relationship with some ex-coworker in Toyota, which of course, doesn't exist.
-Liking Pokémon and Yu-Gi-Oh!
-Liking Plush toys. She said only gay men like that kind of things... Interesting enough, she gifted me several of them before saying that was for gays.
-Not answering her whatsapps as soon as they arrive. You see, there are some places where the signal is weak... but this person thinks there is perfect service everywhere... also, I travel by public transport...
...
...
list goes on FOREVER...

 

[V0RT3X]

Speaking of which... we're over. Can't say I'm alright but I'm a hell of an actor and can keep a façade. We're staying as best friends but it's not the same. It'll never be the same.


It was neither of our faults. We're just not ready. I need to get my life in order and she has to figure out what to do with her life.

Once we get those straight we can reunite but I'm a realist... I don't see that happening, as much as I want it to. A lot can happen within a couple years.

Feelings may change, people can change.


My façade is the only thing that is... "positive"... in my life right now.


I'll be a honest I need a hug, guys. Maybe even a pint even though I don't drink but I might as well start now. Try something new, why not...?

If I could I'd head on up there, hug and drink with you 100%.

 

[V0RT3X]

Just to amuse you a little bit:

This is a "small" list of things that have started fights with this person...

-Arriving 2 minutes late to her house after I said hello to her father on the street.
-Making a joke about how fancy a place is because of the price of the parking lot.
-Changing 3 seconds my whatsapp profile pic to a nice pic I found of a Pokémon (yesterday).
-Making a joke about how she just wanted to bother me with being late all the time. (cried, made some drama on the street...)
-Not taking her hand at the doctor when she gets her injection. Happened only once. The previous day we fought.
-Not wearing a ring she gave me. (She, on the other side decided not to wear her engagement ring for months because I... kicked a seat. Really Keep reading for full story.)
-Not being able to buy her this $150 Tiffany's necklace. (No money, sorry).
-Not saving her as "Wife <3" on my cellphone's contact list.
-Not having pics of her on my phone.
-Not calling her.
-Calling her. (WTF)
-Surprise visits to her house.
-Not making surprise visits to her house (Really?)
-Not erasing a like some old co-worker gave to one of our pics in facebook. (that can't be done).
-Having pics of us on facebook.
-Erasing them ()
-Not buying her flowers.
-Buying her florers. ()
-Eating with my co-workers.
-Having female contacts on facebook and linkedin.
-Not earning 1,500 trillion dollars a month already... No, really, I can bet that if somehow I get to earn $20,000 pesos a month, she will complain about being not enough.
-Not having a new car already.
-Working 1 and a half year on Toyota.
-Not being an executive or manager or something like that at this point of my life.
-Not having a Disney-like marriage proposal...
-Not presenting her to my parents after almost 2 full years dating and 1 year being engaged (this one is on me completely to an extent... BUT! After all these fights, it's basically impossible to arrange a metting. Tried it once, and she made up her mind and said no. My parents don't want to see her (because they've seen how I suffer and how she treats me), and she doesn't want to see them either.
-A 🤬 balloon... on october 24th we celebrated 1 year of being engaged... sent to her office a Balloon that said "Happy Day"... she said that was no romantic at all and that she was absolutely sad and that she didn't like it.
-Kicking a seat on the cinema. Well, it wasn't even a kick, I did it for fun, to amuse her! I hit my leg with it and said "bad seat!" and then gave it a little push with my foot. Result: I'm a danger to others, to herself, I'm a violent man, I might kick her or punch her and our baby... She broke our engagement, decided not to wear her ring, and asked for another proposal (yeah, you remember this right?)
-Lying about my relationship with some ex-coworker in Toyota, which of course, doesn't exist.
-Liking Pokémon and Yu-Gi-Oh!
-Liking Plush toys. She said only gay men like that kind of things... Interesting enough, she gifted me several of them before saying that was for gays.
-Not answering her whatsapps as soon as they arrive. You see, there are some places where the signal is weak... but this person thinks there is perfect service everywhere... also, I travel by public transport...
...
...
list goes on FOREVER...

Good lord. This woman is a f**cking nutjob! She seriously needs psychological help. Honestly, I don't know how you put up with that crap for such a long time.

 

[MoLiEG]

Good lord. This woman is a f**cking nutjob! She seriously needs psychological help. Honestly, I don't know how you put up with that crap for such a long time.

She says I'm the one that needs psychological help and that I have self esteem issues. And she wants to vent her anger towards me somehow...

I fear she might try to physically attack me if I see her again.

 

[Team THRT Drift]

I fear she might try to physically attack me if I see her again.

Nah. You'll be fine. Just try to avoid her. Block her out completely. 👍

 

[Lilium]

Indeed you'll be better than fine. Just try to move on. buy a sombrero and a poncho and maraccas and make a stand up show about your relationship, and you might become a walking wallet. And you would piss her off.

jokes aside. get some distance from her. Alot! @MoLiEG if you do start drinking, run a few laps playing your games. jokes aside, I do hope everything turns out for the best. and that would be a new good page in you life

 

[MoLiEG]

Indeed you'll be better than fine. Just try to move on. buy a sombrero and a poncho and maraccas and make a stand up show about your relationship, and you might become a walking wallet. And you would piss her off.

jokes aside. get some distance from her. Alot! @MoLiEG if you do start drinking, run a few laps playing your games. jokes aside, I do hope everything turns out for the best. and that would be a new good page in you life

Lol thanks for the good vibes 👍

I was also joking with the drinking

 

[Death2508]

Speaking of which... we're over. Can't say I'm alright but I'm a hell of an actor and can keep a façade. We're staying as best friends but it's not the same. It'll never be the same.


It was neither of our faults. We're just not ready. I need to get my life in order and she has to figure out what to do with her life.

Once we get those straight we can reunite but I'm a realist... I don't see that happening, as much as I want it to. A lot can happen within a couple years.

Feelings may change, people can change.


My façade is the only thing that is... "positive"... in my life right now.


I'll be a honest I need a hug, guys. Maybe even a pint even though I don't drink but I might as well start now. Try something new, why not...?

This is exactly what I'm thinking/feeling about my relationship. Long lost twin?

 

[Death2508]

D

Just to amuse you a little bit:

This is a "small" list of things that have started fights with this person...

-Arriving 2 minutes late to her house after I said hello to her father on the street.
-Making a joke about how fancy a place is because of the price of the parking lot.
-Changing 3 seconds my whatsapp profile pic to a nice pic I found of a Pokémon (yesterday).
-Making a joke about how she just wanted to bother me with being late all the time. (cried, made some drama on the street...)
-Not taking her hand at the doctor when she gets her injection. Happened only once. The previous day we fought.
-Not wearing a ring she gave me. (She, on the other side decided not to wear her engagement ring for months because I... kicked a seat. Really Keep reading for full story.)
-Not being able to buy her this $150 Tiffany's necklace. (No money, sorry).
-Not saving her as "Wife <3" on my cellphone's contact list.
-Not having pics of her on my phone.
-Not calling her.
-Calling her. (WTF)
-Surprise visits to her house.
-Not making surprise visits to her house (Really?)
-Not erasing a like some old co-worker gave to one of our pics in facebook. (that can't be done).
-Having pics of us on facebook.
-Erasing them ()
-Not buying her flowers.
-Buying her florers. ()
-Eating with my co-workers.
-Having female contacts on facebook and linkedin.
-Not earning 1,500 trillion dollars a month already... No, really, I can bet that if somehow I get to earn $20,000 pesos a month, she will complain about being not enough.
-Not having a new car already.
-Working 1 and a half year on Toyota.
-Not being an executive or manager or something like that at this point of my life.
-Not having a Disney-like marriage proposal...
-Not presenting her to my parents after almost 2 full years dating and 1 year being engaged (this one is on me completely to an extent... BUT! After all these fights, it's basically impossible to arrange a metting. Tried it once, and she made up her mind and said no. My parents don't want to see her (because they've seen how I suffer and how she treats me), and she doesn't want to see them either.
-A 🤬 balloon... on october 24th we celebrated 1 year of being engaged... sent to her office a Balloon that said "Happy Day"... she said that wasn't romantic at all and that she was absolutely sad and that she didn't like it.
-Kicking a seat on the cinema. Well, it wasn't even a kick, I did it for fun, to amuse her! I hit my leg with it and said "bad seat!" and then gave it a little push with my foot. Result: I'm a danger to others, to herself, I'm a violent man, I might kick her or punch her and our baby... She broke our engagement, decided not to wear her ring, and asked for another proposal (yeah, you remember this right?)
-Lying about my relationship with some ex-coworker in Toyota, which of course, doesn't exist.
-Liking Pokémon and Yu-Gi-Oh!
-Liking Plush toys. She said only gay men like that kind of things... Interesting enough, she gifted me several of them before saying that was for gays.
-Not answering her whatsapps as soon as they arrive. You see, there are some places where the signal is weak... but this person thinks there is perfect service everywhere... also, I travel by public transport...
...
...
list goes on FOREVER...

Dude, if you haven't already, run. Run far far away

 

[Katiegan]

I've been lurking in this thread for ages. I don't have any relationship things going on in my life so I can't contribute anything, but, y'know, I'm nosy.

Just to amuse you a little bit:

This is a "small" list of things that have started fights with this person...

-Arriving 2 minutes late to her house after I said hello to her father on the street.
-Making a joke about how fancy a place is because of the price of the parking lot.
-Changing 3 seconds my whatsapp profile pic to a nice pic I found of a Pokémon (yesterday).
-Making a joke about how she just wanted to bother me with being late all the time. (cried, made some drama on the street...)
-Not taking her hand at the doctor when she gets her injection. Happened only once. The previous day we fought.
-Not wearing a ring she gave me. (She, on the other side decided not to wear her engagement ring for months because I... kicked a seat. Really Keep reading for full story.)
-Not being able to buy her this $150 Tiffany's necklace. (No money, sorry).
-Not saving her as "Wife <3" on my cellphone's contact list.
-Not having pics of her on my phone.
-Not calling her.
-Calling her. (WTF)
-Surprise visits to her house.
-Not making surprise visits to her house (Really?)
-Not erasing a like some old co-worker gave to one of our pics in facebook. (that can't be done).
-Having pics of us on facebook.
-Erasing them ()
-Not buying her flowers.
-Buying her florers. ()
-Eating with my co-workers.
-Having female contacts on facebook and linkedin.
-Not earning 1,500 trillion dollars a month already... No, really, I can bet that if somehow I get to earn $20,000 pesos a month, she will complain about being not enough.
-Not having a new car already.
-Working 1 and a half year on Toyota.
-Not being an executive or manager or something like that at this point of my life.
-Not having a Disney-like marriage proposal...
-Not presenting her to my parents after almost 2 full years dating and 1 year being engaged (this one is on me completely to an extent... BUT! After all these fights, it's basically impossible to arrange a metting. Tried it once, and she made up her mind and said no. My parents don't want to see her (because they've seen how I suffer and how she treats me), and she doesn't want to see them either.
-A 🤬 balloon... on october 24th we celebrated 1 year of being engaged... sent to her office a Balloon that said "Happy Day"... she said that wasn't romantic at all and that she was absolutely sad and that she didn't like it.
-Kicking a seat on the cinema. Well, it wasn't even a kick, I did it for fun, to amuse her! I hit my leg with it and said "bad seat!" and then gave it a little push with my foot. Result: I'm a danger to others, to herself, I'm a violent man, I might kick her or punch her and our baby... She broke our engagement, decided not to wear her ring, and asked for another proposal (yeah, you remember this right?)
-Lying about my relationship with some ex-coworker in Toyota, which of course, doesn't exist.
-Liking Pokémon and Yu-Gi-Oh!
-Liking Plush toys. She said only gay men like that kind of things... Interesting enough, she gifted me several of them before saying that was for gays.
-Not answering her whatsapps as soon as they arrive. You see, there are some places where the signal is weak... but this person thinks there is perfect service everywhere... also, I travel by public transport...
...
...
list goes on FOREVER...

I've been watching your progress with this woman for the past year, and I remember you making indirect statuses a lot about how she made you feel.

I'm just gonna say it. She's abusive. She's manipulative, abusive, and outright crazy. Trust me, it might not feel like it now, but you will be a lot happier without her. She's a parasite, very childish, and acts like a spoilt brat who expects everything to be given to her on a silver plate. I'm honestly shocked you managed to stay with her for so long. I'd have told her where to shove her Tiffany's necklace months ago. Take some time out for yourself, spend some time with friends, have a good time and take your mind off of her. Breathe a sigh of relief that you're free from her, and within time you'll find someone who wants you for the love and the happiness, not the money.

 

[V0RT3X]

She says I'm the one that needs psychological help and that I have self esteem issues. And she wants to vent her anger towards me somehow...

I fear she might try to physically attack me if I see her again.

If you do have self esteem issues, she's the reason why.

 

[Johnnypenso]

Just to amuse you a little bit:

This is a "small" list of things that have started fights with this person...

-Arriving 2 minutes late to her house after I said hello to her father on the street.
-Making a joke about how fancy a place is because of the price of the parking lot.
-Changing 3 seconds my whatsapp profile pic to a nice pic I found of a Pokémon (yesterday).
-Making a joke about how she just wanted to bother me with being late all the time. (cried, made some drama on the street...)
-Not taking her hand at the doctor when she gets her injection. Happened only once. The previous day we fought.
-Not wearing a ring she gave me. (She, on the other side decided not to wear her engagement ring for months because I... kicked a seat. Really Keep reading for full story.)
-Not being able to buy her this $150 Tiffany's necklace. (No money, sorry).
-Not saving her as "Wife <3" on my cellphone's contact list.
-Not having pics of her on my phone.
-Not calling her.
-Calling her. (WTF)
-Surprise visits to her house.
-Not making surprise visits to her house (Really?)
-Not erasing a like some old co-worker gave to one of our pics in facebook. (that can't be done).
-Having pics of us on facebook.
-Erasing them ()
-Not buying her flowers.
-Buying her florers. ()
-Eating with my co-workers.
-Having female contacts on facebook and linkedin.
-Not earning 1,500 trillion dollars a month already... No, really, I can bet that if somehow I get to earn $20,000 pesos a month, she will complain about being not enough.
-Not having a new car already.
-Working 1 and a half year on Toyota.
-Not being an executive or manager or something like that at this point of my life.
-Not having a Disney-like marriage proposal...
-Not presenting her to my parents after almost 2 full years dating and 1 year being engaged (this one is on me completely to an extent... BUT! After all these fights, it's basically impossible to arrange a metting. Tried it once, and she made up her mind and said no. My parents don't want to see her (because they've seen how I suffer and how she treats me), and she doesn't want to see them either.
-A 🤬 balloon... on october 24th we celebrated 1 year of being engaged... sent to her office a Balloon that said "Happy Day"... she said that wasn't romantic at all and that she was absolutely sad and that she didn't like it.
-Kicking a seat on the cinema. Well, it wasn't even a kick, I did it for fun, to amuse her! I hit my leg with it and said "bad seat!" and then gave it a little push with my foot. Result: I'm a danger to others, to herself, I'm a violent man, I might kick her or punch her and our baby... She broke our engagement, decided not to wear her ring, and asked for another proposal (yeah, you remember this right?)
-Lying about my relationship with some ex-coworker in Toyota, which of course, doesn't exist.
-Liking Pokémon and Yu-Gi-Oh!
-Liking Plush toys. She said only gay men like that kind of things... Interesting enough, she gifted me several of them before saying that was for gays.
-Not answering her whatsapps as soon as they arrive. You see, there are some places where the signal is weak... but this person thinks there is perfect service everywhere... also, I travel by public transport...
...
...
list goes on FOREVER...

Hard truth. This list says as much about you as it does about her. The sooner you realize that the better off you will be in your next relationship.

She says I'm the one that needs psychological help and that I have self esteem issues. And she wants to vent her anger towards me somehow...

I fear she might try to physically attack me if I see her again.

And she's right. He was able to walk all over you because you allowed it to happen. The sooner you realize that you have self-esteem issues and do something about them, the better chance you have at your next relationship to being successful.

 

[Speedy Samurai]

@AlvaroF
And I'm not a wallet with legs either...

It would seem not. You haven't managed to walk away yet.

Ba dum tiss

 

[phillgt2002]

Meanwhile, I'm just chilling.

I've gotten good closure on some attempted relationships..

Right now, there's this woman that I've been associated with quite a bit, but I'm afraid of looking for anything else because she's a great friend and I don't want to lose that. I don't want to pursuit anything because she's moving back to her home country in a few months, so I don't want to start anything that will fizzle out in a short amount of time.

Women and men can be friends, but it's a matter of getting past the simple sexual attractions we all have first. It's tough.

 

[Stephan]

I got something to share:

During my second college year, there was a transfer student (which is a girl) that I met during Theology class, so I decided to engage in a conversation which went well and we exchanged cellphone nos. and became friends in FB. As soon as we grown into best friends, she started acting like "please don't leave me" mentality and because of that it became a nuisance to my college life because that time I was very busy especially since my major subject is more hands on now so obviously I need more time for experiments, etc.

Then it happened, after our lab experiments (our professor is very strict so no loud volume for phones that I means I muted my phone and during lab experiments left my bag in a place where its far but still can be seen), I checked my phone and I got like 3 messages and one missed call and I was like "Oh no." and my fears were true, it was her. I checked the first message and it says that I should meet her but that time I was doing my experiments and I checked the second message and it says I should really really meet her because its important and then the third message, she clearly got angry so she sent me an angry message telling me that we're no longer friends.

 

[Parker]

I got something to share:

During my second college year, there was a transfer student (which is a girl) that I met during Theology class, so I decided to engage in a conversation which went well and we exchanged cellphone nos. and became friends in FB. As soon as we grown into best friends, she started acting like "please don't leave me" mentality and because of that it became a nuisance to my college life because that time I was very busy especially since my major subject is more hands on now so obviously I need more time for experiments, etc.

Then it happened, after our lab experiments (our professor is very strict so no loud volume for phones that I means I muted my phone and during lab experiments left my bag in a place where its far but still can be seen), I checked my phone and I got like 3 messages and one missed call and I was like "Oh no." and my fears were true, it was her. I checked the first message and it says that I should meet her but that time I was doing my experiments and I checked the second message and it says I should really really meet her because its important and then the third message, she clearly got angry so she sent me an angry message telling me that we're no longer friends.

Sounds like you dodged a bullet. If that is the way she reacts to something as little as you not answering your phone, she is clearly very immature and is not ready for a real relationship.

 

[Stephan]

Sounds like you dodged a bullet. If that is the way she reacts to something as little as you not answering your phone, she is clearly very immature and is not ready for a real relationship.

How did I dodge a bullet? Please explain.

I tried texting back but she won't reply back so I'm guessing she really hates me for what I've done. Not affected though since I was very busy with college work.

 

[nk4e]

For ignoring her text/missed call during class time? It sounds pretty small to get mad at, its like balancing everything in your life and hers.

 

[Stephan]

For ignoring her text/missed call during class time? It sounds pretty small to get mad at, its like balancing everything in your life and hers.

Yeah and at first I wasn't affected that time but overtime I really regretted for that to happen because I was almost to ready to ask her out but nope that happened.

Then again it's her fault because she knows that it was my class hour and she's trying to interrupt me especially it's an lab experiment class.

 

[nk4e]

Yeah and at first I wasn't affected that time but overtime I really regretted for that to happen because I was almost to ready to ask her out but nope that happened.

Then again it's her fault because she knows that it was my class hour and she's trying to interrupt me especially it's an lab experiment class.

Only time will tell man. Maybe it was something really important.. Maybe it was a flag for her saying" he will drop everything for me".

 

[AlvaroF]

How did I dodge a bullet? Please explain.

I tried texting back but she won't reply back so I'm guessing she really hates me for what I've done. Not affected though since I was very busy with college work.

Well, her attitude wasn't the most mature to begin with, but a girl that's as "sticky" as her can quickly turn into something that will suffocate you, and as best friends that's already happening. I mean she would control everything, what you do, who you talk with, everything. When you posted that story it was all red flags in my head.

I know this because when I started dating my girlfriend she tried to control me because she was immature. Thankfully she's more mature and we enjoy a much healthier relationship.

 

[Stephan]

Only time will tell man. Maybe it was something really important.. Maybe it was a flag for her saying" he will drop everything for me".

Well now I see her hanging with a new man and I don't mind it. In fact everytime I do see her, I only focus on one thing, my goals.

Well, her attitude wasn't the most mature to begin with, but a girl that's as "sticky" as her can quickly turn into something that will suffocate you, and as best friends that's already happening. I mean she would control everything, what you do, who you talk with, everything. When you posted that story it was all red flags in my head.

I know this because when I started dating my girlfriend she tried to control me because she was immature. Thankfully she's more mature and we enjoy a much healthier relationship.

Good for you man. I guess I should choose someone who's not in control of everything.

 

[Parker]

How did I dodge a bullet? Please explain.

I tried texting back but she won't reply back so I'm guessing she really hates me for what I've done. Not affected though since I was very busy with college work.

You dodged a bullet by not being with someone like her. If she got that upset because you were in class and couldn't answer your phone, she'd be an absolute nightmare to be in a relationship with. I adore my wife, we've been together since high school and I love spending time with her. But we still have things that we like to do by ourselves or with friends from work. A person who gets upset over a missed phone call, especially someone you're not in a relationship with, would try to control every aspect of your life and you'd be miserable. From my experience, that is also how a lot of abusive relationships begin.

Be with someone who respects and wants to be with you, not someone who wants to control you.

 

[Johnnypenso]

How did I dodge a bullet? Please explain.

I tried texting back but she won't reply back so I'm guessing she really hates me for what I've done. Not affected though since I was very busy with college work.

There is a potential way to turn this around but it has to be done right. You don't respond to her by begging for forgiveness or texting over and over, that sends the wrong message. If you think she was worth pursuing, you simply put her in her place right away. If she responds to that, then you've turned the tables and assumed control of the situation. If it doesn't work, then you've lost nothing.

In particular, this is an example of a response I would have made, had I been interested in pursuing her, for friendship or more:

I received your text and I must say I'm disappointed. I was in a lab and unable to respond, but dropping me as a friend because I was unable to respond to your text is incredibly childish and immature and not the kind of behaviour I'd expect from a true friend. It's probably for the best that we are no longer friends as I don't need this kind of drama in my life. Goodbye and good luck.

What you do with that kind of a text is to retake control of the situation by agreeing with her and rising above her pettiness with a dose of the truth. She has several ways she can respond and each direction she might take will tell you what kind of a person she can be. If she has a shred of decency or shame, she'll get back in touch with you, be apologetic and try to make up with you. In that case, you've already set the tone for your future relationship by telling her that you aren't going to put up with nonsense and you're going to call it like it is. If she responds the other way, with a tirade of abuse for example, then you don't buy into it, you don't respond, you simply say goodbye and good luck or ignore her altogether.

 

[Stephan]

There is a potential way to turn this around but it has to be done right. You don't respond to her by begging for forgiveness or texting over and over, that sends the wrong message. If you think she was worth pursuing, you simply put her in her place right away. If she responds to that, then you've turned the tables and assumed control of the situation. If it doesn't work, then you've lost nothing.

In particular, this is an example of a response I would have made, had I been interested in pursuing her, for friendship or more:

I received your text and I must say I'm disappointed. I was in a lab and unable to respond, but dropping me as a friend because I was unable to respond to your text is incredibly childish and immature and not the kind of behaviour I'd expect from a true friend. It's probably for the best that we are no longer friends as I don't need this kind of drama in my life. Goodbye and good luck.

What you do with that kind of a text is to retake control of the situation by agreeing with her and rising above her pettiness with a dose of the truth. She has several ways she can respond and each direction she might take will tell you what kind of a person she can be. If she has a shred of decency or shame, she'll get back in touch with you, be apologetic and try to make up with you. In that case, you've already set the tone for your future relationship by telling her that you aren't going to put up with nonsense and you're going to call it like it is. If she responds the other way, with a tirade of abuse for example, then you don't buy into it, you don't respond, you simply say goodbye and good luck or ignore her altogether.

Very professional I see. Then again I already deleted her no. and I already moved on. Besides I did a text similar to yours before I deleted her cell no. But thanks for the advice.

 

[stonesfan129]

I'm happy being single. I can do what I want, when I want. I can spend my money on whatever I want. People keep telling me that it will happen when I least expect it. I'm not even looking tbh.

 

[Team THRT Drift]

I'm happy being single. I can do what I want, when I want. I can spend my money on whatever I want. People keep telling me that it will happen when I least expect it. I'm not even looking tbh.

Neither was I

But yeah I get where you're coming from. It's nice to have more than some change in your pockets