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so I stand by my point... attraction naturally includes gender, but not fertility
I think you meant sex rather than gender (at least the way I've been informed these words are to be used). I'd agree that attraction can include gender (rather than sex), but this makes my point. If you're attracted to someone who looks female, and people born male can look like attractive females, your attraction is not based on chromosomes - it's highly correlated with chromosomes.
The reason being.... what?
In some cases, not all cases, it might be transphobia, homophobia, insecurity, learned expectations or social norms, religion, fear of retribution from family, entrenched gender roles... I think it depends on the person.
I've pointed out one reason
You have. And within the British royal family at a minimum it has been a legitimate one in the past.
Labelling someone as transphobic without a valid reason is grossly unfair. It also dilutes the seriousness/meaning of the word if you consider people transphobic just because you surmise they must be.
I think it is among the likely possibilities. Wanting someone as a life partner is such a personal decision, with so many factors, that I'm kinda surprised people are going there as a basis for transphobia. I mentioned earlier that I consider it to be similar to interracial relationships. Generally, I'm not attracted to black women. Certainly I am attracted to some black women, but not most of them. I've never dated one. Does that make me racist? I don't think so. Of course if I said I would not consider dating a black woman simply because they were black, then we might be getting into suspicious territory. Now maybe that reason is because I'm worried about retribution from racist family members... hopefully you see the similarities.
For that matter, I'm not generally attracted to males. Sometimes, if they look exactly like women, I am, but for the most part I am not. Does that mean I'm bigoted against men? No. It's just not what I find attractive usually. I don't think people should really have to answer for their "type" when it comes to dating or marriage. It's so personal.
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