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Then they should be fighting a much easier fight - which is that people need to broaden their views about what it means to be a man or a woman, rather than an almost impossible fight - which is that people should call you by whatever gender you choose (at a particular moment).
You think that it's easier to convince people to change their views on what a "man" or a "woman" is than to get them to use a word of your choice?
I don't get it. We have this already with names. You get called whatever you like to be called, unless the people you're around are complete knobswozzlers. On the other hand, getting humans to change their deep seated and often not entirely rational perceptions of gender seems like a nightmare, right up there with convincing people not to be racist. Really, most of the time it's just easier to wait for that generation to die off and carry on with their kids who probably haven't been brought up with the same biases.
If your goal is just to fit in and be accepted, trying to force people to use a particular language is not the easiest or best way. It's harder and creates a confusing inconsistent message.
I'm sorry mate, I'm not seeing "change their opinion on gender" as an easier way than asking people to use language that suits you. And frankly, I find it a lot more aggressive and invasive to be trying to change someone's opinion rather than simply asking people to behave in a way that is polite. You can't change how people are on the inside, they can think whatever they like inside their own heads. But you can ask them to not call you names that make you feel uncomfortable.
That seems totally reasonable, for anyone. Is it not?
Outside of certain medical situations, when would male/female be useful or relevant descriptors if we were simply allowing people to live their lives how they chose, without constraining them with gender preconceptions?
Well, if I were a heterosexual male looking for a female mate, then it might be useful for me to be able to identify those who meet my own criteria for a mate. Fundamentally, the whole male/female thing does have some pretty significant uses in human society.