As a teacher, you're inevitably going to be drawn into conflict.
I can understand that part ... it does happen. However, in this given case, I feel the teacher went against the grain that you have outlined.
you should actively seek it out, but you cannot afford to ignore it, avoid it, or pretend it doesn't exist. Nor can you allow a student to continue doing something that you consider to be dangerous, disruptive, or which the school has made it known that it wishes to see come to an end, just because you're afraid that the kid will claim his rights have been trampled on.
Given the scenario / pertaining subject at hand, I can agree with this ... to a point. However, in this particular case, it is all wrong (IMO). Up until this point in the day, the lunch period teacher was the only one to have had a problem here. No other teacher did. Why ? Probably because they knew that they were going to be in the wrong, had they approached him. This can only lead to one conclusion. The teacher knew that the kid was well within his rights about wearing the t-shirt in question. As mentioned before, this teacher was obviously anti gun / 2nd amendment. So be it, your allowed to have your expression on the matter. I've not a problem with that part. The problem is that this teacher pushed his view on this kid, telling him that he was wrong. That is where he overstepped the boundary. That is why,(I feel) what led up to this getting escalated the way it did, ultimately leading to the kids arrest. The teacher was power tripping his views on the kid. You can't blame the kid for firing back (no pun intended).
These are the first three things that I learned about how to be a teacher before I got into a classroom:
1) Never, ever be alone with a student.
2) Never, ever let emotion dictate your course of action.
3) Never, ever push a political opinion onto a student.
1) check
2) teacher failed
3) teacher failed again
2 strikes against this teacher, as per your words. So by your interpretation, and going off of what really happened, who (in your opinion) was wrong ? I think you answered it in your post.
That's really why I'm questioning this version of events where the teacher started shouting at a student because he himself did not agree with gun ownership.
So now we have two teacher varying aspects of this matter. What really happened, and what you would have done.
If I felt that the student's shirt was questionable under the school dress code, then I probably would have approached him. But I would also have the sense to approach him before school starts if I could. A big part of the reactions in this case come down to the way the teacher approached him late in the day; he'd been fine until then, and then one teacher approached him at lunch, and that's where the trouble started.
In approaching him, I'd make it pretty clear that I felt the shirt was questionable under the dress code, and that the responsible thing to do would be to err on the side of caution. If I can think that, then other teacher might think it, too. I'd make it pretty clear up-front that this has nothing to do with my views on gun ownership, just that it's an issue to do with the dress code, and that there may be people out there who can misinterpret the message he wants to make.
If he resists, I'd appeal to his sense of knowing and respecting guns - he should know and respect the issues that come with them as well, and that maybe he should consider the idea that making a statement in support of gun ownership at school isn't the most appropriate way to make that statement.
Finally, it would be important to bear in mind that he is fourteen. He's concerned about an issue that he cares deeply about, but he hasn't necessarily thought the idea all the way though. So I'd try and get him to consider that there are people out there who feel just as strongly about the issue as he does, with the difference being that he holds an opposing position. They might see his actions as something that they can use to further their own cause. They could claim that "The NRA is getting kids to support gun ownership in schools!", and regardless of whether or not that is actually true, he shouldn't give them the opportunity to say it, which weakens their cause and strengthens his own.
If he still resists after all of that - particularly if he wants to make a political issue out of it by bringing up his rights - then I'd make it clear that if he wants to exercise his rights, then he needs to shoulder the responsibilities that come with them. If he cannot accept that responsibility, then he should not exercise that right to begin with, or choose another way to exercise it, one that has responsibilities that he can handle.
I'd make it pretty clear up-front that this has nothing to do with my views on gun ownership, just that it's an issue to do with the dress code
It's not a dress code issue. It's a personal issue, with the teacher. Had it been a dress code issue, it would have been snagged in the early morning. Remember to dot your I's and to cross your T's upon approach. Saying the wrong thing can lead you straight into a conflict, as it did here in this case.
They've probably sought legal advice of their own, and have decided to remain silent. There is no need for them to be drawn into a conflict with the kid that will only make headlines and further enable him. No, this will go behind closed doors. I very much doubt anything will come of it - legal costs would build up at such a rate that the kid and his family would reach a point of diminishing returns, where any damages paid out just go to cover the costs, making the whole affair an expensive waste of time. That's probably why the family went to the media: a quick settlement is the only way they'd get anything out of it, if that. There's a case here where the school might want to remove the kid from school, out of concerns that any student who disagrees with a teacher will simply launch legal action.
As with anything, there has to be two sides to every matter. For the school not to make a statement, they are basically admitting guilt.
By the way, upon returning to the school on the following week, the kid wore the same shirt that he did on the day of this incident. Why did nothing happen on this given day when he returned ? Where was the teacher in question who had a problem with this ? If it was not permissible last week, why all of a sudden is it permissible this week ?