Apologies for the continued off-topicness, but now that
@Drave is gone, I want to use my experience as a seasoned administrator of a popular GT site to dissect his last post and see if there are any lessons to be learned from it.
Mister..... You are also attacking me. Why?
Disagreeing/arguing with someone =/= being attacked. 9 times out of 10, if you feel you're being attacked on the Web, it's a good idea to calm down and look at the post from a more neutral perspective, to allow yourself to get a better idea of the actual context and tone of the message and respond accordingly. Of course, if it
is an attack, always take the high road and do
not respond in kind. It looks bad on you, perpetuates hatred, and gets the actual discussion nowhere.
You know I love these forums full of people who real life would have zero to say... like you. Posting drivel. That si what you have said to me, so have it back
And here we have an example of someone taking the low road. "Two can play at this game" is never a good mentality to have when replying to someone when you feel you've been slighted, regardless of whether it's on the Internet or in real life.
As for the Scaff with his jingly little spurs and white hat....
Define constructive then Scaffy boy?
This is what we call "poking a sleeping dragon." Never mock the moderators. It
will shorten your time on a given website. At GT Wikia, I try to be a fair admin; my mentality is that I'm just a dude, but with a few extra tools. But if you try to mock me, it's bye-bye.
And as for the "define constructive" bit: Constructive, as it applies to a forum like GTP, is a post that contributes to the community in some way, usually by furthering discussion of the topic. Most of
@Drave's posts failed in this regard.
This all started with Mr Spurs here because I made a post which in paraphrase said "People keep calling Dirt Rally a SIM and if you haven't raced in real life how do you know? I have raced in real life and I do not rate it much"
Regardless of who "started it," any party in a given disagreement has the power to end it. Take the beef I had with
@Johnnypenso for example. I started that by being immature and reading his posts in a hostile tone, and after realizing that that wasn't his intent, I ended the disagreement myself by deciding to be more mature and reading his posts as they were meant to be read.
Continuing a beef with someone when you have the power to end it is childish and not good for either party.
Now that is 100% pure fact and irrefutable logic... you cannot say something is a simulation if you have not done it in real life... that seemed pretty simple to me
Yet at no point did Drave ever bother to provide any proof that he'd even been to a racing event, let alone competed in one. Like I
said in the "
Oh, oh, oh, I'm making a Ludicrous Claim!" thread, don't make a ludicrous claim if you can't/don't want to back it up.
That apparently deserved pretty much endless abuse from the assembled playground group of no doubt the usual suspects... so I defended myself
Oh that is wrong. One must be bullied apparently and like it. Well, I went to private school and was left entirely alone, never bullied. That was because I hired two toughest 5th formers to beat up the school bully... no, really, I did. Then I used them for muscle as I started a loan operation with the assembled children. Yes, I was of course expelled, eventually
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Went to a new school... did the same again. Apart from the heavies as niw i was one of the very biggest fins in the pool. Got away with it until I could walk away .... I really hated school, all those people who think respect is given not earnt... like Scagg here
As
@TexRex once said to someone else, "some serious pot-kettle action right there." At no point was anyone else even remotely hostile (that I can gather). Yet, again, Drave decided to take things personally and tried to give those he felt offended him a taste of their own medicine. This is another example of the virtues of trying to look at a response from a neutral perspective.
Not to mention his whole rant about how he dealt with bullying in private school in no way absolves him of how he's acted here. If you want to get a mod to not ban you, apologize for the incident, learn a lesson, and move on. Don't continue down the same path; it shows us that you will not improve and letting you persist as a member of the community is pointless, if not damaging.
Then this evening I posted that I will believe that Forza 6 is expanding with a NASCAR DLC when I see it in my hand and on my XBox... otherwise I think it is a con, some wind up and personally I do not swallow wind ups nor find them funny
And that got me banned apparently, though I have no idea really if I am banned or not and..... well whatever.
This is not what got Drave banned. Cynicism is OK. Personally, I'm not overly cynical, but I have no problem with people who are. What got Drave banned is continued negativity, snark, name-calling, finger-pointing, and pretty much everything else under the sun, and all of that because he couldn't bring himself to respond to others civilly or change his ways when prompted multiple times by the moderators.
Again, if a moderator tells you to do something, you do it. They're only here to see that the community continues to run smoothly.
Now in all honesty I can be 'not easy to get along with'... I am really no angel, I do not do laws, guidelines or other people's sick because they feel like dumping it on me... I am not an unfeeling man just uncaring... I can apparently feel sorry for people but I simply do not care.
Then perhaps a forum is not the right place for you. First of all, rules/laws are there for the betterment of the community they govern. Speed limits? They're there to prevent people from going 150mph in a residential area. California's law that you can't sign up for a website if you're under 13? It's there to prevent minors from potentially seeing inappropriate stuff. GTP's rules against trolling? They exist to prevent people from being nasty for the reason of provoking an emotional response to the detriment of the conversation.
However, the biggest takeaway from this particular point is that, if you find someone of this particular personality type on a forum (or anywhere, really), just ignore them. You know what they say - don't feed the trolls.
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Well, those are all the lessons I could find in Drave's post. Take away from this post what you will.
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I'm off to eat breakfast now. Cya