Korza
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I agree. A good rule of thumb is if you send 3 messages in a row without a reply, you're starting to sound pushy. Hasn't failed me yet.
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I agree. A good rule of thumb is if you send 3 messages in a row without a reply, you're starting to sound pushy. Hasn't failed me yet.
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Unlike one of my friends, he was saying he was going to ask out a girl for two months, TWO! Well on the last day of this school year me and two of my other friends asked her for him and it was a no. He then proceeded to have a go at us saying "We didn't give him any help"... umm I'm sorry what? I gave him the perfect window with her about one month ago and he bottled it, this is all his own doing but he can't admit it
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Totally agree, it's very natural to be like that, just gotta puff your chest out and push past the barrier. Even though that experience feels quite unpleasant.
If I remember right, I couldn't stand the pain in my stomach, so I had to go home... It's weird how love, makes you even weirder.
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Great stories guys. I enjoyed reading them.
Also, you lucky :censored:s. 
[/bitter] What I would give for that kind of thing happen to me in any of my many musical performances, but alas, nothing of the sort has ever occurred. Don't take how easy things fell into place for you for granted.It is most likely normal girl behavior, but it could be your Facebook not sending your last message, even though on your screen it has been sent. My Facebook likes to do that to me every once in awhile and it has screwed me over on multiple occasions while chatting with a female interest, who thought I hated her for months until finally either she chatted me or I sent another message that sent (don't want to just keep sending message after message in the event that they ARE being sent)...we lost an entire summer we could have been dating during (Facebook is the only way I still have contact with her). Probably not the case as it seems to be isolated to my account (lucky me
), but conceivably that could be the case for you as well.
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You're not alone.
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Getting a lot of mixed signals at this point. Went from doubt because she ignored me on FB. To happy because when I walked by her at work she hit me on the arm playfully with a checkbook. Then to confusion when I asked her how she was doing and she just said, with no emotion, "fine." She then ignored me for the rest of the night. Please kill me.
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Ahh typical girl, well the golden rule is when a girl says she's fine she is everything BUT fine. Find her tomorrow and ask her what's up, and if she just says nothing in a really strict manor just ask her what's happened, they usually just say there fine like that to test how much you care to find out what's really up.
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Great stories guys. I enjoyed reading them.
Oh no, I have definitely not taken this for granted. This is a once in a lifetime happening, and we're making the best of it! I didn't even put myself out there, she kinda just grabbed me
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I see what you did there
... I didn't mean it that way.
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In a very strange situation so here it is:
Me and my girlfriend just passed the 6 month stead on our relationship, everything was going fantastic, as good as can be. We were very happy. But then suddenly she says over text that she has been thinking a lot about life recently and the fact she is going to Collage and stuff and feels like she cant afford any mistakes and feels as thought I would be a distraction to her whilst she studies. So she offloads me, not go on a break for a while but completely dumps me even though she says she still loves me but it needs to be done. Dumps me on Facebook too officially. So fine, I learn to deal with it. I'm not a moaper, really gutted but I just have to keep countering Life's punches. So, within 48 hours she starts regretting her decision, never being totally outright with it but judging by her tweets and tumblr I can tell and then I kind of confront her about it and she doesnt outright say it but I see her saying stuff like she can't believe she blew it etc.
The thing is, I still love her. But her "mistake" made me have the embarrassment of telling my mother and father, friends etc that I had been dumped and finished with all over as fickle a reason like that. I really don't know what to do because in one way I think what she done was really selfish and out of order but at the same time, gah.
Me and my girlfriend just passed the 6 month stead on our relationship, everything was going fantastic, as good as can be. We were very happy. But then suddenly she says over text that she has been thinking a lot about life recently and the fact she is going to Collage and stuff and feels like she cant afford any mistakes and feels as thought I would be a distraction to her whilst she studies. So she offloads me, not go on a break for a while but completely dumps me even though she says she still loves me but it needs to be done. Dumps me on Facebook too officially. So fine, I learn to deal with it. I'm not a moaper, really gutted but I just have to keep countering Life's punches. So, within 48 hours she starts regretting her decision, never being totally outright with it but judging by her tweets and tumblr I can tell and then I kind of confront her about it and she doesnt outright say it but I see her saying stuff like she can't believe she blew it etc.
The thing is, I still love her. But her "mistake" made me have the embarrassment of telling my mother and father, friends etc that I had been dumped and finished with all over as fickle a reason like that. I really don't know what to do because in one way I think what she done was really selfish and out of order but at the same time, gah.
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This is right.
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Well, I'm usually not someone who's asking for advice and I wouldn't even call it "asking for advice" right now. Rather, I'd just like to hear some opinions on a matter that's been making me feel a bit uncomfortable as of late. It's not actually about myself, but about my two best (male) friends - which means I'm pretty much inevitably involved, I guess.
So, here's the deal: Friend A broke up with his girlfriend a few months ago, and after being together with her for three or four years, it's been pretty tough on him. She's the only girlfriend he's had so far, too, which isn't making things any easier on him. I do know that situation to a certain extent, but damn, he's been having it rough. Didn't get things going with other girls until recently. And now he's set his sights onto a specific girl - let's call her 'Penny' for now - who's a friend of a mutual (female) friend of ours. To add insult to injury, Friend A's been having a pretty darn tough time at work, as well. So he's in a situation where getting a girl he fancies could really do a whole lot of good for him.
Then, there's Friend B. Different situation, same outcome: He's the forever alone kind of guy. Not really very well versed when it comes to girls, a bit inexperienced probably, when it comes to... You know, that stuff. Never had a serious relationship, either. Plus, almost everyone of his friends (myself included) has been doing better when it comes to girls, which isn't helping, I guess. Additionally, the last girl he tried to get to know dropped him like a hot potatoe. So, he, too, could absolutely use to get together with a girl. I suppose you're already guessing where this is going, right? Because, exactly, he's gotten the hots for 'Penny', too.
Pretty ****** situation right there. Friend A and Friend B are close friends themselves and have been claiming that they'll retreat in the case that either one would be interested in 'Penny' and got a chance to, you know, go at it.
Things got a bit more complicated than I like them to be, though. Last friday night, we went to a birthday party of a said mutual female friend. 'Penny' was there as well, of course. And every single male person except for myself [there's a little substory here, which I'll be telling later) was starting to hit on her... Which kinda caused a pretty tense atmosphere, at least for a while. Friend A probably got the closest to her. Needlesss to say, Friend B started to get a bit pissed - he tried not to show it, but I'll be damned if it wasn't the case.
So, yeah, they're both pretty much going all out on 'Penny'. I can't actually understand that, because, while cute, I wouldn't think of her as anything special. But, anyways, the two of them have become rivals, sort of. And that's making me feel pretty uneasy. Both of them tend to turn to me for advice when it comes to girls and they've, obviously, have been talking to me about 'Penny', as well.
Personally, I feel that it would be equally important for both to suceed with her, as both of them are in a pretty bad situation at the moment. Neither is willing to back down, either, despite claiming otherwise. So, here's my dilemma: I can hardly tell both of them to try to get 'Penny' for themselves. I actually think it'd be better to get either of them to back down because, frankly, I do fear that, in the long run, one of them will do something stupid which might put huge strain on an otherwise great friendship.
Plus, and this is probably making me more uncomfortable than anything else, it seems like 'Penny' is only leading them on. I've known my fair share of girls like that. They want attention, they want someone who makes them feel important and pretty and such. So, my two closest friends are falling for a girl who's probably not even considering to do more with either of them than to use him for her own ego. Alas, I can't really go on and tell both Friend A and Friend B to drop the ball and leave it be. I mean, they're so into here, they'd probably try to rip my head off.
Now, what to do? I can hardly stand by and watch things unfold but I doubt that I could just sort things out by telling them that I think they're acting like total morons over a girl neither of them will be getting it on with...
But, yeah, here's the substory I mentioned earlier.
At that very same party, I decided to lock onto another girl that wasn't beeing hit on by that many guys. Found a pretty nice blonde girl and started to flirt with her. Everything went well, I'd say. So well that I would've probably been able to hit a homerun that very night. Quite a promising situation, for sure.
So, just when I started to put the moves on her, Friend B comes over and tells me that she's got a boyfriend. It was the second sentence she said to him, while not mentioning it to me once in about two hours. Yeah, I kinda know that sort of girl. So, I turned back to her and continued to flirt with her for a bit and asked her where this is going. She replied something along the lines of "wherever you want it to go".
So, yeah, I was like "damn bitch!" and stopped the conversation dead, basically. God, I hate women like that! Is it that hard to not try and cheat on your boyfriend? I mean, I don't mind that I didn't get to do anything special that night. I didn't go to the party for that, but that annoyed me quite a bit. Too bad I'm the kind of guy who's not going to get involved in that stuff.
Later that night, the host started to hit on me, as well. She got quite touchy, which pretty much annoyed me. Because, well, she's absolutely not the kind of girl I'd fall for... To sum things up: It was pretty a good night as far as ego is concerned, a pretty bad night as far as my crotch is concerned and a completely horible night as far as my brain is concerned
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Regarding ex-girlfriends: You don't take them back. Period. There's only one exception to that rule, and that would only apply if you've broken uo a considerable amount of time ago. People change, but it takes one hell of a long time for that. It just doesn't happen in a month or two. That's why you don't get back together with a girl you've broken up with a few weeks ago.
So, here's the deal: Friend A broke up with his girlfriend a few months ago, and after being together with her for three or four years, it's been pretty tough on him. She's the only girlfriend he's had so far, too, which isn't making things any easier on him. I do know that situation to a certain extent, but damn, he's been having it rough. Didn't get things going with other girls until recently. And now he's set his sights onto a specific girl - let's call her 'Penny' for now - who's a friend of a mutual (female) friend of ours. To add insult to injury, Friend A's been having a pretty darn tough time at work, as well. So he's in a situation where getting a girl he fancies could really do a whole lot of good for him.
Then, there's Friend B. Different situation, same outcome: He's the forever alone kind of guy. Not really very well versed when it comes to girls, a bit inexperienced probably, when it comes to... You know, that stuff. Never had a serious relationship, either. Plus, almost everyone of his friends (myself included) has been doing better when it comes to girls, which isn't helping, I guess. Additionally, the last girl he tried to get to know dropped him like a hot potatoe. So, he, too, could absolutely use to get together with a girl. I suppose you're already guessing where this is going, right? Because, exactly, he's gotten the hots for 'Penny', too.
Pretty ****** situation right there. Friend A and Friend B are close friends themselves and have been claiming that they'll retreat in the case that either one would be interested in 'Penny' and got a chance to, you know, go at it.
Things got a bit more complicated than I like them to be, though. Last friday night, we went to a birthday party of a said mutual female friend. 'Penny' was there as well, of course. And every single male person except for myself [there's a little substory here, which I'll be telling later) was starting to hit on her... Which kinda caused a pretty tense atmosphere, at least for a while. Friend A probably got the closest to her. Needlesss to say, Friend B started to get a bit pissed - he tried not to show it, but I'll be damned if it wasn't the case.
So, yeah, they're both pretty much going all out on 'Penny'. I can't actually understand that, because, while cute, I wouldn't think of her as anything special. But, anyways, the two of them have become rivals, sort of. And that's making me feel pretty uneasy. Both of them tend to turn to me for advice when it comes to girls and they've, obviously, have been talking to me about 'Penny', as well.
Personally, I feel that it would be equally important for both to suceed with her, as both of them are in a pretty bad situation at the moment. Neither is willing to back down, either, despite claiming otherwise. So, here's my dilemma: I can hardly tell both of them to try to get 'Penny' for themselves. I actually think it'd be better to get either of them to back down because, frankly, I do fear that, in the long run, one of them will do something stupid which might put huge strain on an otherwise great friendship.
Plus, and this is probably making me more uncomfortable than anything else, it seems like 'Penny' is only leading them on. I've known my fair share of girls like that. They want attention, they want someone who makes them feel important and pretty and such. So, my two closest friends are falling for a girl who's probably not even considering to do more with either of them than to use him for her own ego. Alas, I can't really go on and tell both Friend A and Friend B to drop the ball and leave it be. I mean, they're so into here, they'd probably try to rip my head off.
Now, what to do? I can hardly stand by and watch things unfold but I doubt that I could just sort things out by telling them that I think they're acting like total morons over a girl neither of them will be getting it on with...
But, yeah, here's the substory I mentioned earlier.
At that very same party, I decided to lock onto another girl that wasn't beeing hit on by that many guys. Found a pretty nice blonde girl and started to flirt with her. Everything went well, I'd say. So well that I would've probably been able to hit a homerun that very night. Quite a promising situation, for sure.
So, just when I started to put the moves on her, Friend B comes over and tells me that she's got a boyfriend. It was the second sentence she said to him, while not mentioning it to me once in about two hours. Yeah, I kinda know that sort of girl. So, I turned back to her and continued to flirt with her for a bit and asked her where this is going. She replied something along the lines of "wherever you want it to go".
So, yeah, I was like "damn bitch!" and stopped the conversation dead, basically. God, I hate women like that! Is it that hard to not try and cheat on your boyfriend? I mean, I don't mind that I didn't get to do anything special that night. I didn't go to the party for that, but that annoyed me quite a bit. Too bad I'm the kind of guy who's not going to get involved in that stuff.
Later that night, the host started to hit on me, as well. She got quite touchy, which pretty much annoyed me. Because, well, she's absolutely not the kind of girl I'd fall for... To sum things up: It was pretty a good night as far as ego is concerned, a pretty bad night as far as my crotch is concerned and a completely horible night as far as my brain is concerned
/edit:
Regarding ex-girlfriends: You don't take them back. Period. There's only one exception to that rule, and that would only apply if you've broken uo a considerable amount of time ago. People change, but it takes one hell of a long time for that. It just doesn't happen in a month or two. That's why you don't get back together with a girl you've broken up with a few weeks ago.
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