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The General Relationship Thread
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Well, he might be Irish...And he's been here since '07. That's a long period of time to be drunk in no?
No racism or anything of that sort intended.
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Well, guys and gals, I need some crossed fingers
So, about two weeks ago, I accompanied a friend of mine and his girlfriends to what you could consider an after-prom-night-party. So to speak, at least, I guess prom night just isn't the same in Germany as it would be in the US.
Anyways, got to know a pretty nice girl there. Good looks, fun personality, yada yada, you know the drill. Anyways, it was a busy night, so I didn't get to talk to her too much. Didn't manage to ask for her number, either. But: Facebook to the rescue! So, yeah, been talking to her for a while using the Book of Many Faces and things went well so far.
Yesterday, we started joking about how I could visit her at her part time job (she's working at a nearby bar/restaurant). Being the blunt, in-your-face-person that I am, I straight up told her that I'd like to get to know her a little bit better and that we should hang out some time. I'm expecting her reply when I get home from work and the gym today, so wish me luck
So, about two weeks ago, I accompanied a friend of mine and his girlfriends to what you could consider an after-prom-night-party. So to speak, at least, I guess prom night just isn't the same in Germany as it would be in the US.
Anyways, got to know a pretty nice girl there. Good looks, fun personality, yada yada, you know the drill. Anyways, it was a busy night, so I didn't get to talk to her too much. Didn't manage to ask for her number, either. But: Facebook to the rescue! So, yeah, been talking to her for a while using the Book of Many Faces and things went well so far.
Yesterday, we started joking about how I could visit her at her part time job (she's working at a nearby bar/restaurant). Being the blunt, in-your-face-person that I am, I straight up told her that I'd like to get to know her a little bit better and that we should hang out some time. I'm expecting her reply when I get home from work and the gym today, so wish me luck
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Well, guys and gals, I need some crossed fingers
So, about two weeks ago, I accompanied a friend of mine and his girlfriends to what you could consider an after-prom-night-party. So to speak, at least, I guess prom night just isn't the same in Germany as it would be in the US.
Anyways, got to know a pretty nice girl there. Good looks, fun personality, yada yada, you know the drill. Anyways, it was a busy night, so I didn't get to talk to her too much. Didn't manage to ask for her number, either. But: Facebook to the rescue! So, yeah, been talking to her for a while using the Book of Many Faces and things went well so far.
Yesterday, we started joking about how I could visit her at her part time job (she's working at a nearby bar/restaurant). Being the blunt, in-your-face-person that I am, I straight up told her that I'd like to get to know her a little bit better and that we should hang out some time. I'm expecting her reply when I get home from work and the gym today, so wish me luck
OH MY GOD!!! Could it be that I made someone else start saying the Book of many faces too!? Or did you get it from the same place as I originally did? Which if I remember correctly was from James May.
Anyway, as odd as it may seem, my relationship is going very well. She is really sweet and there haven't been any negative conversations... Yet. So far she has been very considerate too. I was planning on going to see her again tomorrow, but she didn't want to because she didn't want to be causing a problem between me and other friends (by ditching and leaving one a loner for the hour wait and bus ride home). It may sound like an excuse, but I've actually known her for quite awhile (first actually met her in 2010... Started actually becoming friends early this year), and I don't think she would be lying. I'm going back again on Friday because she is busy on Thursday (she has classes and all this other stuff every Thursday). She wants me to stay the entire weekend... Just hope my parents trust me enough and won't think I'm up to anything. And to finish off, she has the cutest smile when I touch her face.
Had to throw that in there... There's loads more I could say but I think I'll pass on the opportunity to be telling an entire community everything about what I like about my girl. 
In fact to really finish it off, this is making it official... I have turned from, "EEeyuck!!! Relaaationshipsss... OOoooh, BIG DEAL!!!" To, "Relationships are, SOOO... AWESOME!!!" Though obviously there will be points where I'm heading back to thinking, "OH NO!!" But we'll get through those... Hopefully.
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I'm pretty pissed at the moment. I've been friends with this girl ever since we were in first grade, and we finally decided to go on a train ride to the Black Sea (which is only 1-2 hours away) for a day. I haven't seen her all year. Now just before we go her parents tell her not to go. Damn, some people are seriously stuck up. It's not like I'm a total stranger hell my parents are friends with them. I'm on the brink of going nuts. Now I'm going to spend the rest of the day starring at my computer like any other day. 
Any helpful tips for this relationship guys?
Any helpful tips for this relationship guys?
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terminator363I'm pretty pissed at the moment. I've been friends with this girl ever since we were in first grade, and we finally decided to go on a train ride to the Black Sea (which is only 1-2 hours away) for a day. I haven't seen her all year. Now just before we go her parents tell her not to go. Damn, some people are seriously stuck up. It's not like I'm a total stranger hell my parents are friends with them. I'm on the brink of going nuts. Now I'm going to spend the rest of the day starring at my computer like any other day.
It's probably only because they don't know you, in turn they don't trust you with their daughter. So try and do something to earn their trust.
Perhaps arrange to meet her, to just go for coffee or something. And say you will pick her up from her house.
Turn up 10 to 15 minutes early so she might not be ready, on the off chance they will invite you in to wait rather than wait on the doorstep.
Then just chat with them, show them your not the stereotypical young male.
Just an idea
if it doesn't work and she is ready, or they don't invite you in or something you haven't lost anything. But if it does work then its probably a step in the right direction Little things that will earn their trust, and will help them to get to know you a little.
I'm having a similar problem with my girlfriends mum, she mistrusts me massively even though my girlfriends sisters like me, and her dad. And even though we have been together 5 months now. But I've been doing similar things for a while now and slowly she's getting better.
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While I remember May using the expression, I'd say that, yes, you're the reason why I've remembered it
YES!!! This is my proudest moment!
Because so many dumb people are using it to post dumb stuff in dumb ways, including dumb spelling and dumb grammar, as well as dumb looking pictures?
Sounds like my school.
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My workplace would fit that discription, too.
In other news:
Thought I had a chance with this girl.
Aaaaaaaaaaand it's gone.
Good thing I'm being as blunt as ever, so I won't be wasting more time flirting with her. Good thing I've got backup plans
- It's always good to have a backup plan.
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I have gone out with her so many times, we have even gone alone together on very long walks (like, through forests and things)- I think the only reason that those walks happened is because her parents never knew about it.
I have. I've spent long dinners with them and I've had quite a few talks also. Her mom likes me and she even said that trips like that were fine. It's her dad who's stuck up. He seems very friendly but I guess behind closed doors he's over-protective and such. I really feel stuck, I don't know what I should do now. Should I call her to go out on a walk again? Where's James May when you need him!
My workplace would fit that discription, too.
In other news:
Thought I had a chance with this girl.
Aaaaaaaaaaand it's gone.
Good thing I'm being as blunt as ever, so I won't be wasting more time flirting with her. Good thing I've got backup plans
Oh, what happened that meant the chance went away?
(massive assumption below and likely to be wrong)
I understand why you are being blunt and discarding her immediately, as it sound like it, but sometimes it is still worth keeping them in the loop with your life, in terms of friendship, not relationships. It kinda sounded like that they must be all or nothing proposition. Sometimes this just doesn't work out at all.
Sometimes its just nice to have a platonic, friendly relationship with some girls that has no sexual tension or undercurrent of possibilities and can just be someone that may be able to give you an indication of why certain girls react in a certain way.
Although the above sounds rather patronising, but your post came across as someone who hasn't considered all avenues yet.
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Maybe start with something a little bit "smaller" than a day-long trip to the sea. Somethign more along the lines of going to the local pub together or whatever.
Basically, somewhere where her dad could get to in time, should he feel the need to. Shouldn't be the case, but that might make it more acceptable to him.
Basically, I got interested in her because:
1) Cute face
2) Nice body
3) Fun personality (from what little I know)
Don't get me wrong, but I just like to flirt and test my chances and, well, to see where things can be going. I'm pretty carefree in that regard and if she doesn't want to give me what I want from her, I don't really care to keep things going.
That might be a bit harsh and I might come of as a bit of a mean, condescending bastard, but honestly: If there's no chance for le sexytime with her, I'll have to admit that there's not much interest left, on my part.
Basically, somewhere where her dad could get to in time, should he feel the need to. Shouldn't be the case, but that might make it more acceptable to him.
Long story short, I told her I wanted to get to know her a bit better. She said she had no desire to get to know me any better.
Well, I actually got a few very close female friends - so it's not like I'm lacking any "insight" on that topic, so to speak.
Well, you'd be right: I didn't and don't consider all avenues
Basically, I got interested in her because:1) Cute face
2) Nice body
3) Fun personality (from what little I know)
Don't get me wrong, but I just like to flirt and test my chances and, well, to see where things can be going. I'm pretty carefree in that regard and if she doesn't want to give me what I want from her, I don't really care to keep things going.
That might be a bit harsh and I might come of as a bit of a mean, condescending bastard, but honestly: If there's no chance for le sexytime with her, I'll have to admit that there's not much interest left, on my part.
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Maybe start with something a little bit "smaller" than a day-long trip to the sea. Somethign more along the lines of going to the local pub together or whatever.
Basically, somewhere where her dad could get to in time, should he feel the need to. Shouldn't be the case, but that might make it more acceptable to him.
Long story short, I told her I wanted to get to know her a bit better. She said she had no desire to get to know me any better.
Well, I actually got a few very close female friends - so it's not like I'm lacking any "insight" on that topic, so to speak.
Well, you'd be right: I didn't and don't consider all avenues
1) Cute face
2) Nice body
3) Fun personality (from what little I know)
Don't get me wrong, but I just like to flirt and test my chances and, well, to see where things can be going. I'm pretty carefree in that regard and if she doesn't want to give me what I want from her, I don't really care to keep things going.
That might be a bit harsh and I might come of as a bit of a mean, condescending bastard, but honestly: If there's no chance for le sexytime with her, I'll have to admit that there's not much interest left, on my part.
- Don't worry. There'll be other girls.
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I guess you're right. It certainly makes things easier for myself. I mean, let's be honest, you can't really get hurt as long as you don't really care.
Maybe it's some sort of self defense mechanism, but... It generally takes me a while to really care about a person. Whether they're potential partners for a relationship or friends or whatever. Unless I've known a person for a while and made up my mind about them, I can easily sever all ties again and not feel a darn thing.
This makes it awfully easy to approach people and be as blunt as I am, because, quite honestly, I couldn't care less if things went down the drain as they did now. According to some folks, especially a few of my ex-girlfriends, it's a horrible attitude to have, but I like it that way
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I guess you're right. It certainly makes things easier for myself. I mean, let's be honest, you can't really get hurt as long as you don't really care.
Maybe it's some sort of self defense mechanism, but... It generally takes me a while to really care about a person. Whether they're potential partners for a relationship or friends or whatever. Unless I've known a person for a while and made up my mind about them, I can easily sever all ties again and not feel a darn thing.
This makes it awfully easy to approach people and be as blunt as I am, because, quite honestly, I couldn't care less if things went down the drain as they did now. According to some folks, especially a few of my ex-girlfriends, it's a horrible attitude to have, but I like it that way
- I guess you could be the German me. The only thing, is I'm very shy, and when I'm walking, I look down into the ground, and I guess you're not doing that.
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