The General Relationship Thread

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Well, I actually need your help now. It's kind of off topic but, there's this party I've been invited to, but I really don't want to go, however I feel forced, as it is the last time (probably) I'll see my “old” classmates. Do you think I should go?
 
Dean J
Well, I actually need your help now. It's kind of off topic but, there's this party I've been invited to, but I really don't want to go, however I feel forced, as it is the last time (probably) I'll see my “old” classmates. Do you think I should go?
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Why should you go anywhere if you don't want to? I've never been to parties since the 6th grade, and I'm all good. :dopey:

It somewhat depends on how important you consider them, but personally, I wouldn't want my friends to possibly be all drunk and crazy when I see them for the last time.
 
Don't go if you don't want to, you shouldn't let other people make those decisions for you. And how well do you know said old classmates?
 
Carbonox
I wouldn't want my friends to possibly be all drunk and crazy when I see them for the last time.
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I think it's a “bring your own alcohol”-party, so they'll get drunk. (I'm a teetotal, I don't drink.)
Callumfromleeds
Don't go if you don't want to, you shouldn't let other people make those decisions for you. And how well do you know said old classmates?
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I've know them for 10 years.
Luminis
If you don't wanna go, don't go. Prepare some sort of excuse if need be.
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I think they'll push me even more if I do that. I've done that for the last 4 years.

I might have come up with a clever solution, I'll go, but I'll only stay around 1 and a half hour... Then I can go home fast, and still have been there...

Edit: Thanks for your answers, so far.
 
Dean J
I might have come up with a clever solution, I'll go, but I'll only stay around 1 and a half hour... Then I can go home fast, and still have been there...
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Do you care about what they think? Seriously, tell'em you've got plans and if they're trying to push you, flip'em the bird. If you don't wanna go, don't go. Don't let yourself get pushed - you'll never enjoy a party that way. It's just frustrating to be there, in that case. I've been in that situation myself a few times and I really wish I wouldn't have wasted the time to go.
 
Luminis
Do you care about what they think? Seriously, tell'em you've got plans and if they're trying to push you, flip'em the bird. If you don't wanna go, don't go. Don't let yourself get pushed - you'll never enjoy a party that way. It's just frustrating to be there, in that case. I've been in that situation myself a few times and I really wish I wouldn't have wasted the time to go.
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Here is where I disagree. You'll have to pardon me but if they are indeed trying diligently for you to go and they are going through the effort maybe it's worth a shot. Besides it's always good relate yourself with people. And normally in those kinds of party's you may even meet new people so really be more open minded about this situation rather than to just shove it to the side like you are.
 
As long as you make an appearance at the party for an hour or so, your friends will be satisfied and you won't have to come up with any excuses as to why you can't go.
 
Sometimes, its about being there that leads to other things that happens.

For example, if you went to the party you may meet some other people that you've not met before. They may also lead you onto other people and open up a new possible hobby or lifestyle change.

With these things, you can never know what will happen until you go there and experience it.

Most of the time, you won't see anything new or whatever. But some of the time, it really does work out and you get to talk to different people that you wouldn't have normally have done at all.

I've been to parties where I really didn't want to be there, but decided to go anyway to kill some time. Then found some other people to be friends with or they lead me to someone/something else and had more fun that I dared dream of at that time.

If your mates are encouraging you to go nicely, might as well just see what happens. If it isn't your cup of tea after a couple of hours, its fine to leave after that time.
 
interpunct
Here is where I disagree. You'll have to pardon me but if they are indeed trying diligently for you to go and they are going through the effort maybe it's worth a shot. Besides it's always good relate yourself with people. And normally in those kinds of party's you may even meet new people so really be more open minded about this situation rather than to just shove it to the side like you are.
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korza493
As long as you make an appearance at the party for an hour or so, your friends will be satisfied and you won't have to come up with any excuses as to why you can't go.
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Submerged
Sometimes, its about being there that leads to other things that happens.

For example, if you went to the party you may meet some other people that you've not met before. They may also lead you onto other people and open up a new possible hobby or lifestyle change.

With these things, you can never know what will happen until you go there and experience it.

Most of the time, you won't see anything new or whatever. But some of the time, it really does work out and you get to talk to different people that you wouldn't have normally have done at all.

I've been to parties where I really didn't want to be there, but decided to go anyway to kill some time. Then found some other people to be friends with or they lead me to someone/something else and had more fun that I dared dream of at that time.

If your mates are encouraging you to go nicely, might as well just see what happens. If it isn't your cup of tea after a couple of hours, its fine to leave after that time.
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I think you might be right. Oh, and by the way, I know everybody who's coming, so the chances of meeting new people isn't that high.
 
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interpunct
Here is where I disagree. You'll have to pardon me but if they are indeed trying diligently for you to go and they are going through the effort maybe it's worth a shot. Besides it's always good relate yourself with people. And normally in those kinds of party's you may even meet new people so really be more open minded about this situation rather than to just shove it to the side like you are.
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I would agree with you, if he would've called them his "friends" once. I'd also think that, if there were mostly people one likes, that one would go anyways and wouldn't be trying to avoid it... That's what I largely based my answer on.

There are more than enough situations to meet new people that should be more enjoyable than to go to a party that you don't want to go to, by the way.
 
Luminis
I would agree with you, if he would've called them his "friends" once. I'd also think that, if there were mostly people one likes, that one would go anyways and wouldn't be trying to avoid it... That's what I largely based my answer on.

There are more than enough situations to meet new people that should be more enjoyable than to go to a party that you don't want to go to, by the way.
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Well then, dean, are they your friends or not?
 
Dean J
Well, I actually need your help now. It's kind of off topic but, there's this party I've been invited to, but I really don't want to go, however I feel forced, as it is the last time (probably) I'll see my “old” classmates. Do you think I should go?
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I have more respect for somebody that says "I'm good I've got other plans but thanks." than I ever will for the guy who gives me a cheese ball excuse. Who cares if your being "forced" do your own thing.
 
CMvan46
I have more respect for somebody that says "I'm good I've got other plans but thanks." than I ever will for the guy who gives me a cheese ball excuse. Who cares if your being "forced" do your own thing.
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Well they just really want for him to go for what I understand. It's not forced. They aren't putting any death threats on him or anything. :P
 
interpunct
Well they just really want for him to go for what I understand. It's not forced. They aren't putting any death threats on him or anything. :P
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Hence the quotations in my post. I'm highly doubting they are forcing him.
 
And if they're not your friends, you've got no obligation to go there... But I agree with interpunct, it's kinda beyond me why they're nagging you about going, in the first place.
 
Luminis
Sure does.

Then again, I know some folks that, quite frankly, want people around them just to make themselves feel better. The more, the better.
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- I guess this might be the answer. However I think they had to invite me too, as they've invited everybody else from the class.
 
Dean J
- I guess this might be the answer. However I think they had to invite me too, as they've invited everybody else from the class.
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Well dean it's your move. I would still go because if it's the people I studied with then it might be good to get acquainted with them for maybe a hour or two and socialize a bit. Even if you know everyone there. But if you aren't gonna go and enjoy the party and yourself while there or do anything just probably sit there then yeah, don't go. Just my 0.02$ on this.
 

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