The General Relationship Thread

[Callum B]

All your advice is really good thank you for it however it seems it is redundant... a girl I talk to a lot just admitted to liking me and as previously said I should take my chances.
I 'liked' her a bit even though I was trying to avoid gaining crushes on girls. I really wasn't expecting it aswell which made it even better.

 

[Mih]

Well I shall test this out. Thanks

Just ask her why she is acting that way, girls don't bite.

 

[Callum B]

Just ask her why she is acting that way, girls don't bite.

From personal experience that's a false statement.

 

[Mih]

From personal experience that's a false statement.

Valid point is valid.

 

[locoman88]

Hey guys I'm back! Sorry, I just wanted to let you guys know how it went with that girl from a while ago. Well, like I wanted, we are pretty close friends, and we went to a party and danced together. I have to say, I really did great with trying to get her to be my "best girl-friend".

 

[NissanSkylineN1]

Grats man! Proud of ya!


I just had the annoying moment when your grilfriend tells you that you should work out more... the problem is that I'm already pretty fit.

 

[Dean]

Hey guys I'm back! Sorry, I just wanted to let you guys know how it went with that girl from a while ago. Well, like I wanted, we are pretty close friends, and we went to a party and danced together. I have to say, I really did great with trying to get her to be my "best girl-friend".

👍👍.

 

[trackripper123]

I broke up with my girlfriend of a year and a half last night. I feel it had to be done, it wasn't working and I wasn't sure if I was in love with her anymore.

 

[Mih]

Then why are you crying over it?

 

[photonrider]

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I just had the annoying moment when your girlfriend tells you that you should work out more... the problem is that I'm already pretty fit.

Only the people actually involved in the relationship in question can truly know what is going on; however, I'm getting the feeling that your GF may be having a wandering eye.
Check the countryside for another 'fit and trim' guy that is in the vicinity.

As I mentioned before - propinquity breeds promiscuity. This is the reason roommates get pregnant, or workmates start to hang together more than for the usual reasons. Or classmates 'fall in love'.

 

[locoman88]

Grats man! Proud of ya!

I just had the annoying moment when your grilfriend tells you that you should work out more... the problem is that I'm already pretty fit.

👍👍.

Thanks guys, I had to do a lot of stuff to get where I'm at. And for once I actually got asked to dance! I don't dance, so it was a new experience. Any suggestions on how I can get a closer bond with her? Oh and I still like her, just not a lot now. And I kinda told her that I didn't like her that much really, so she acts WAY different now!

 

[trackripper123]

Then why are you crying over it?

Because I feel really bad for causing quite a bit of hurt to her by breaking up...

 

[Mih]

You shouldn't. Life is hard, sometimes you leave someone, sometimes you get left behind.

 

[Luminis]

It's better for her if you end it now instead of leading her on, anyways.

 

[Slash]

Just ask her why she is acting that way, girls don't bite.

I tend to watch what I say and think about it throughly before I say it. As I've said before I tend to get nervous talking to her.

 

[Saf1]

Been on one date so far with this girl who is older, and so has that sort of "established life" I'm not used to. Kids, job and a business too, and busy social so it's hard to see her as often as I'd like. We relate incredibly well and was a great first date talking but she is slightly hung up that I;m younger. Though i pointed out we looked practically the same age and she knows I am mature through my myriad of life experiences, so we'll see! Any advice on older girls?

 

[Mih]

Nope, i am sure she knows what she is dealing with. So, you're fine.

 

[nobuffalo]

Any advice on older girls?

Yeah don't do it!

 

[locoman88]

Any tips on how to get closer to a girl? I know I'm already pretty close, but I want us to be close friends, where she can trust me often. Like I can tell, she kind of trust me because she just told me some personal stuff a while ago. But I want to be close friends with her. (Yes, I am friend-zoning myself on purpose)

 

[Saf1]

Any tips on how to get closer to a girl? I know I'm already pretty close, but I want us to be close friends, where she can trust me often. Like I can tell, she kind of trust me because she just told me some personal stuff a while ago. But I want to be close friends with her. (Yes, I am friend-zoning myself on purpose)

You're on the right path then mate, just some patience as whether for friendship or more "closeness" takes time to develop. Is she a colleague/fellow student? Endeavour to see her out of these places more. Not saying that you haven't already but over time you will see a different side to her that she may not make apparent at work/school. And that opens up other facets to bond over.

 

[Saf1]

Yeah don't do it!

Hahaha I take it you found out the hard way? Do share

 

[locoman88]

You're on the right path then mate, just some patience as whether for friendship or more "closeness" takes time to develop. Is she a colleague/fellow student? Endeavour to see her out of these places more. Not saying that you haven't already but over time you will see a different side to her that she may not make apparent at work/school. And that opens up other facets to bond over.

Yeah, I only see her only in a few classes, so its hard to talk to her there. I do see her after school though. I haven't really caught her anywhere outside of school. My friends try to help by having her and a few of my friends over for something, but I can never go or I'm just nervous. I don't see why I am nervous, but I am. 🤬 I don't want to be nervous either... But, yeah I'll try to see her more out of school.

 

[Saf1]

Yeah, I only see her only in a few classes, so its hard to talk to her there. I do see her after school though. I haven't really caught her anywhere outside of school. My friends try to help by having her and a few of my friends over for something, but I can never go or I'm just nervous. I don't see why I am nervous, but I am. 🤬 I don't want to be nervous either... But, yeah I'll try to see her more out of school.

You can't rationalise nervousness because (I believe) for the most part it is irrational. So you can tell yourself all day you shouldn't be nervous and you probably get wound up about it (most guys like us have at some point) but as long as you have firmly in your mind that this is someone who likes and respects you, you have a sort of buffer (not as an excuse for things, but as a safety net for when inevitably the occasional frictions arise) that the two of you can glance over in no time like it never happened. I take it one step further and always tell myself, "what's the worst that can happen". Once you start believing that the nervousness fades as it did for me 👍

One more thing - it's very easy to put someone you care for on a pedestal. This can mean your own needs are being marginalised. Take her places as much as you ask her where she wants to hang. Be full of ideas, the more "off the norm" the better and she will appreciate you for it, and it gives you extra control on a situation which can help you feel more at ease

 

[locoman88]

One more thing - it's very easy to put someone you care for on a pedestal. This can mean your own needs are being marginalised. Take her places as much as you ask her where she wants to hang. Be full of ideas, the more "off the norm" the better and she will appreciate you for it, and it gives you extra control on a situation which can help you feel more at ease

Yeah, I think that is the best way, but I wonder: where do I start? Should I start with asking her if she wants to watch a school soccer game with me? I think that's the best start. See, my parents can be suspicious and a little over protective. So I keep school buisiness as far as relationship and personal stuff away from them as much as possible. So, what do you think I should start off with when it comes with asking her where she wants to go? Should I invite my friends? Or just me and her? And should I tell my parents?

 

[MarinaDiamandis]

Let me get this straight, you're purposely friendzoning yourself to try to get close to this girl in order to become more than friends?


Haha, no. It doesn't work like that.

 

[locoman88]

Let me get this straight, you're purposely friendzoning yourself to try to get close to this girl in order to become more than friends?

Haha, no. It doesn't work like that.

No, not more than friends, just close friends, if what you mean by "more than friends" is a relationship. If you mean close friends, than yeah. If it does not, how do I get closer to her?

 

[Mih]

Do you make plans to get closer to male friends too? Let it roll.

 

[locoman88]

Do you make plans to get closer to male friends too? Let it roll.

Haha! Wait, I am not sure if you're sarcastic. I have a feeling you are.

 

[Mih]

No i am not. Just let it roll man, stop getting worried. You guys are already friends... all you have to do now is just let it roll.

 

[locoman88]

No i am not. Just let it roll man, stop getting worried. You guys are already friends... all you have to do now is just let it roll.

Oh okay. Yeah, but I am worried because she may not be here next year because she might go to a different school. It may be my last year and the year's almost over.