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The General Relationship Thread
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So, I have a girlfriend for the first time in 5 years (Which is even worse when you consider that I'm only 17).
We first met only a week and a half ago when she started working at the place I work and I got assigned to train her. We got chatting lots, met up again (Kinda dates) a few times this week and now we are in a relationship (I'm not very good with all this emotional talking stuff, haha).
She is a year younger than me and is pretty, intelligent and funny. She also finds me funny (esspecially good because I wasn't "trying" to be funny per say, more just my normal observational comments). She is much more of a writing (think humanities/language subjects) kinda person whilst I'm a mathsy/physics person so it kinda gives a nice contrast between us. (Also it means I can seem intelligent by helping her with mathsy stuff she struggles with.
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As you may be able to tell, I'm pretty happy.
We first met only a week and a half ago when she started working at the place I work and I got assigned to train her. We got chatting lots, met up again (Kinda dates) a few times this week and now we are in a relationship (I'm not very good with all this emotional talking stuff, haha).
She is a year younger than me and is pretty, intelligent and funny. She also finds me funny (esspecially good because I wasn't "trying" to be funny per say, more just my normal observational comments). She is much more of a writing (think humanities/language subjects) kinda person whilst I'm a mathsy/physics person so it kinda gives a nice contrast between us. (Also it means I can seem intelligent by helping her with mathsy stuff she struggles with.
)As you may be able to tell, I'm pretty happy.
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I wouldn't think it is worst in 17 years. At least you explored yourself before you try to find someone you can connect with. I tend to have gaps within my relationships and so far, I think I only had 2. One a LDR and a connection with a coworker. Just be careful that it doesn't mix-in with work.So, I have a girlfriend for the first time in 5 years (Which is even worse when you consider that I'm only 17).
We first met only a week and a half ago when she started working at the place I work and I got assigned to train her. We got chatting lots, met up again (Kinda dates) a few times this week and now we are in a relationship (I'm not very good with all this emotional talking stuff, haha).
She is a year younger than me and is pretty, intelligent and funny. She also finds me funny (esspecially good because I wasn't "trying" to be funny per say, more just my normal observational comments). She is much more of a writing (think humanities/language subjects) kinda person whilst I'm a mathsy/physics person so it kinda gives a nice contrast between us. (Also it means I can seem intelligent by helping her with mathsy stuff she struggles with.
As you may be able to tell, I'm pretty happy.
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This is why I hate talking to girls via text message.
Me: Hey are you busy this weekend?
Her "hey"
um little why whats up
???
Me: Do you want to hang out (Note I haven't hung out with this girl for a while.)
Her: "Lol ur asking me to hangout really?"
"Text me" ???????????
Me "I don't have anything to do this weekend, and I need something to do until I catch a flight" That was at 1:27pm
Loonnnngggg response time
Her at 3:03pm "lol oh"
I really want to slam my face into a wall because of that.
Me: Hey are you busy this weekend?
Her "hey"
um little why whats up
???
Me: Do you want to hang out (Note I haven't hung out with this girl for a while.)
Her: "Lol ur asking me to hangout really?"
"Text me" ???????????
Me "I don't have anything to do this weekend, and I need something to do until I catch a flight" That was at 1:27pm
Loonnnngggg response time
Her at 3:03pm "lol oh"
I really want to slam my face into a wall because of that.
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- neilsenman2
So I asked that girl out today instead of tomorrow and..... SHE SAID YES!!!! She is my first one in a year. Wow, I really let my game go...
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That "I need something to do until I catch a flight" part may have did you in. She may have initially thought you wanted to spend time with her because you were interested but you kind of made is sound like you wanted to use her just to kill time and couldn't find anything better to do. That's just how I read it.
Anyway, texting sucks, phones are made to talk on.
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Well, I met my girlfriends parents saturday and I love them. They are hilarious. Me and her just sat there and talked the whole time so it went well.
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- Johnnypenso
Beat me to it
. I can honestly say I've never wanted to be with woman that said/texted me, "I have nothing else to do and hanging with you is better than nothing"...
Next time try, "I've been thinking about you lately and it's time we got together".
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Beat me to it
Next time try, "I've been thinking about you lately and it's time we got together".
You guys make my intentions sound a-lot different. I was beyond bored and all I was doing was driving around neighborhoods in the rain so I decided to call her up. It's fine though, she's kind-of out of my league but the fact that I haven't talked to her in a few weeks doesn't help. We'll see what happens later
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Hey at least you guys are lucky enough to have relationships. The women I date never know what they want. The last one I dated stopped seeing me because she thought that I wasn't into fishing. Also, I am in computer networking at school so she assumed I am a computer nerd glued to it 24/7 and that I would never be able to make time for her.
I know I'm whining here, but it kind of bugs me. I never told her that I didn't like fishing (in fact I much enjoy fishing), and I don't think I would have asked her out if I was never going to make time for her.
People say I'll meet someone eventually. I am trying to put myself out there, but it's not happening. Then again, I'm only 26 so I guess I have a lot of time ahead of me.
Women always say they like nice guys who treat them well, but most of the ones I know date men that don't deserve them cause they are jerks. Then they'll turn down nice guys like me.
Women don't know what they want.
Rant over.
If anyone has any advice, I'm open to it. Thanks.
I know I'm whining here, but it kind of bugs me. I never told her that I didn't like fishing (in fact I much enjoy fishing), and I don't think I would have asked her out if I was never going to make time for her.
People say I'll meet someone eventually. I am trying to put myself out there, but it's not happening. Then again, I'm only 26 so I guess I have a lot of time ahead of me.
Women always say they like nice guys who treat them well, but most of the ones I know date men that don't deserve them cause they are jerks. Then they'll turn down nice guys like me.
Women don't know what they want.
Rant over.
If anyone has any advice, I'm open to it. Thanks.
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- Johnnypenso
You asked...
You are mistaken if you think women don't know what they want because they do. Women are attracted to "jerks" for lack of a better word, mainly because jerks are more exciting, more unpredictable and because tension and conflict is sexually stimulating and makes them feel alive.
Nice guys on the other hand are often too boring, too predictable, always do the "right" thing. Too accomodating, too easy to get along, indecisive, no thoughts of their own, too eager to please etc. etc. etc. Now granted that also appeals to some women but in your case it seems, not the women you are attracted to, at least so far.
So does it mean you have to be a complete ass to find a woman? No. But you will appeal to a broader range of the opposite sex if there is some element of danger to your personality, something unpredictable. Don't always be the nice guy, don't always accomodate, don't always be there when she needs you. Don't always ask how she's doing. Pinch her Mom's ass, arm wrestle her Dad, grab her ass in front of her Mom. Hang out with your buddies more and her a little less. Have a life outside of your relationship.
Nice is fine sometimes, just not all the time. Jerk is fine sometimes, just not all the time. Being one dimensional is never good for anyone and not usually good for relationships. Let the jerky guy out once in a while and let him have a look see, she'll love it
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- neilsenman2
You my friend, you should win the Nobel Peace prize. That was beautiful. Round of applause, better yet standing round of applause. You just hit the nail on the head with that. Wow. Just wow.
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I was just about to say everything that he just posted. Girls like nice guys but they still want someone exciting in their lives so why not have both? I'm a smart-ass to most people and girls when I first meet them (I tread carefully when talking to girls not because I like to be an asshole 
) but I loosen up. Show them that you can be different and have a tougher side because I'm sure as hell I'd be tired of a monotonous woman.
Also, the girl I'm talking about called me an asshole a while back.
) but I loosen up. Show them that you can be different and have a tougher side because I'm sure as hell I'd be tired of a monotonous woman.Also, the girl I'm talking about called me an asshole a while back.
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Tell her she needs to go lower.
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It's a day to make people depressed.
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ExigeEvan
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It's real to them!
That's not entirely true, my girlfriend hates it, we spent our first valentines in court (willingly, I'd never witnessed court proceedings and was curious after her stories of work experience), which has kind of set the tone ever since.
I guess in a way we do 'celebrate' valentines in that we make the effort to do something different.
That's not entirely true, my girlfriend hates it, we spent our first valentines in court (willingly, I'd never witnessed court proceedings and was curious after her stories of work experience), which has kind of set the tone ever since.
I guess in a way we do 'celebrate' valentines in that we make the effort to do something different.
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