The General Relationship Thread
- Thread starter Type S Tony
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- Windsor, Ontario, Canada
- Johnnypenso
Sorry to hear that man, best of luck. It will be extremely hard at first, just stay focused on the kids and it get steadily better. 👍👍
Yes and yes, sort of. It's a big deal to most women and it's also a giant commercialized/marketing scam. What I've found is although most women buy into the hype, they much prefer some kind of personalized attention and/or gifts on Valentines. Do something original or unique to her/with her/for her instead of just the usual flowers and candy. Build something, make something, create something, be surprising and creative.
It's still a scam, but if it's important to her, it does you know harm to do your best for her on this one day.
- 6,706
- Mexico City
- MoLieG
Good luck old friend, good luck.
Thanks bro
Couldn't ask her today BTW... tomorrow should be a better day... 👍
Forgot to say, I'm moving on and giving up on that other girl I've been dating for the last 3 years... finally realized she is not worth my time anymore... I need to live, and so does she... it worries me a lot she's a complete addict... her health is very, very bad... but I'm not her nanny...
*Work Addict, workaholic... forgot to clarify that...
- 21,193
- United States
- nk4e
- 21,193
- United States
- nk4e
Don't we all hate missing that one person...I have to admit it on a site. Lately, I have been feeling just lonely. I think of my friend who I can't really get a hold of but when I do. I am happy that I get to see her, everything seems to say that we are just busy.（￣～￣）
- 2,037
- Colorado
It hit me like a ton of bricks - in the past 10 years I've been out of a relationship more than I've been in one, had some seriously wicked falling outs and breakups and have zero prospects in the near future. Well then, if that just doesn't take the air out of your tires...
- 4,978
- Paris
Seeing each other often is key. I pretty much "forgot" to make this an important part of my life and a few months later we both decided to end it. We had 1300km in between us (Vienna - Paris).
Anyway: no matter how difficult it is, if it's right it'll work out in the end - put work in it.
- 10,276
- Sacramento CA
- cnd01
For sure. I go on thanksgiving break from college next week, so I'm going to be home for a full week and we're going on a short vacation during the breakSeeing each other often is key. I pretty much "forgot" to make this an important part of my life and a few months later we both decided to end it. We had 1300km in between us (Vienna - Paris).
Anyway: no matter how difficult it is, if it's right it'll work out in the end - put work in it.
Way to take action and you get the rewards. Way to go 👍
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- 21,193
- United States
- nk4e
Probably making this as complicated as it is. How do you ask a girl out? Like I always been eating out with friends ( some of them single) but never actually spend time with them doing something. Or if I do, it is nothing of their interest. I may just be really busy.
- 11,511
- United States
Here.. Use de Internet ;p
Gauge her interest. Is she making eye contact with you? Is she smiling, laughing and having a good time talking to you? If so, you're on the right track. What if she keeps looking at you because she's annoyed with you always looking at her? This is not a good sign, and the girl might be a little stressed herself. Make sure to keep your feelings about her private, and not so obvious.
Notice how often she touches you. If she's constantly trying to touch your hand or finds excuses to do so, then she's probably interested. However, don't assume that she doesn't like you if she isn't touching you. Likewise, don't start touching her if she isn't making contact with you. This usually scares or intimidates girls. If she won't even look at you, stay calm and find excuses to talk to her.
Observe how she looks at you. If she likes you, she will either hold your gaze for a long time or pull away immediately. Either of these signs could mean that she likes you. If you happen to glance at the girl and you see her staring back at you, then this means that she doesn't like you, or she does like you, although she may quickly dart her head in a different direction. If she's looking at you in a mean way, check your teeth. If she pulls away quickly, it could mean she is nervous but still likes you.
- Remember that if you are having a conversation, girls tend to look at your face, so don't immediately assume that she likes you if you are speaking and she is simply listening. If you never talk to the girl, chances are you have a low chance of dating her. Friendships lead to loveship, but non-friendship leads to.... nothing.
Help her out. Offer to carry something heavy, get her lunch at the office, or do something nice for her. If she refuses, then wait until she really needs help or comforting, like when she's feeling down and having a bad day. Be friendly and outgoing to her. If she walks away quickly, don't follow her or say, "What??", just keep on going.
One thing that is very important
Make sure you look and smell nice. You don't need to get decked out in a suit and tie to ask a girl out, but make sure your clothes are clean and well-fit, that you've brushed your teeth and are wearing deodorant. You should never ever wear the same clothes again, like you wear red sweatpants Monday, and then you wear them again on Tuesday.
Now other things
Approach the girl you like. Don't worry about coming up with something overly clever. Simply say "Hi" or "Hey." As the conversation moves forward you can give her a complement or ask her a question. If starting conversations is not your strong point, read these articles:
Keep the tone casual and fun. Don't make the occasion seem like a big deal. Flirt a little! Relax, crack a joke, and break the touch barrier.
When the time is right, ask her for a date. Ask her to go the movies or something else you both would be interested in. You could also invite her out to happy hour at a bar you both enjoy. Try to make it original.
- You might say: "I heard about this movie, _______. What do you think about it?" If she says she thinks it looks good, ask her if she'd like to go with you to see it. If she asks "As in a date?" say yes. Girls like guys who are sure of themselves much better than they do the cowardly guys.
- Another thing you might say while keeping the tone casual is: "I was going to check out this art opening on Saturday night. Do you want to go with me? I think it would be fun if we both went together."
Be confident. If she questions if you're asking her on a date, say yes. Girls like guys who are sure of themselves.
Be prepared for rejection. Keep your cool if she says no, smile and respond gracefully by saying, "No problem! Maybe another time." Change the conversation to something else or leave if you'd rather not hang around. Act as if you don't need her, because that sometimes will pique the interest of a girl. If she makes a face and yells, "Oh my gosh, no way!" this means that the girl is grossed out with you. Leave her alone and move on to another girl. Don't get your feelings too hurt though, this will leave you lifeless. Some girls just don't like this kind of stuff.
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- 6,706
- Mexico City
- MoLieG
I did something veeeeeeery stupid to ask her out 
Simply waited like Willie E. Coyote for her to pass... (we work on the same place, but veery distant from each other)... I simply called her and said:
-Can I tell you something without getting slapped???
-Yes
-Would you like to go out on Saturday?
-Yes!!!
As simple as that
BTW great links Kitten, veeeery useful stuff right there!
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Simply waited like Willie E. Coyote for her to pass... (we work on the same place, but veery distant from each other)... I simply called her and said:-Can I tell you something without getting slapped???
-Yes
-Would you like to go out on Saturday?
-Yes!!!
As simple as that
BTW great links Kitten, veeeery useful stuff right there!
👍
- 11,511
- United States
I don't really know
Gauge her interest. Is she making eye contact with you? Is she smiling, laughing and having a good time talking to you? If so, you're on the right track. What if she keeps looking at you because she's annoyed with you always looking at her? This is not a good sign, and the girl might be a little stressed herself. Make sure to keep your feelings about her private, and not so obvious.
Notice how often she touches you. If she's constantly trying to touch your hand or finds excuses to do so, then she's probably interested. However, don't assume that she doesn't like you if she isn't touching you. Likewise, don't start touching her if she isn't making contact with you. This usually scares or intimidates girls. If she won't even look at you, stay calm and find excuses to talk to her.
Observe how she looks at you. If she likes you, she will either hold your gaze for a long time or pull away immediately. Either of these signs could mean that she likes you. If you happen to glance at the girl and you see her staring back at you, then this means that she doesn't like you, or she does like you, although she may quickly dart her head in a different direction. If she's looking at you in a mean way, check your teeth. If she pulls away quickly, it could mean she is nervous but still likes you.
- Remember that if you are having a conversation, girls tend to look at your face, so don't immediately assume that she likes you if you are speaking and she is simply listening. If you never talk to the girl, chances are you have a low chance of dating her. Friendships lead to loveship, but non-friendship leads to.... nothing.
- 2,037
- Colorado
I wouldn't worry too much about it, which is easier said than done I know. But you could literally drive yourself nuts thinking about it, so fire up some video games to distract yourself and enjoy your evening in!!^Called to say that "something unexpected happened and that she had stuff to do"...
I hope for a more elaborate explanation on Monday... but it's very discouraging
- 4,160
- United States
The best way to ask a women out is while eating a sandwich. Not only does it keep you from stuttering or saying something stupid, it gives your eyes something to focus on other than the latter.
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