The General Relationship Thread

[NissanSkylineN1]

Slash, what I'd say is to remove your mind from the world of girls for now, and study. Make friends with your dominant hand for a few weeks, and study using the hype that if you get good grades, you can become more successful and then when your're successful in life, you'll have better girls than her... who knows? Maybe she'll come crawling back and you can get your revenge! Once you're fine after a month, you can go back. But remember. Don't chase. Let the girls come to you. Sometimes the girls you never expect can be the best ones. Pretty girls = trouble.

 

[Slash]

I somewhat know how you feel and definitely know how tough it is to get over stuff like this.

It's very tough, but I feel like it's slowly moving from shock to anger. I'm not really sure if that's normal or a good thing.

I'd recommend giving yourself a little vacation - may not help, but it's always something to take your mind off the issue. Watch some good movie. Go for a walk and think about some stuff, grab a little self-gift from the nearest mall (you're from New York so I believe it shouldn't be that hard ). Feed ducks or pigeons in the nearest park. Do some base jumping. Steal a plane. It's going too far.

In all seriousness, focus entirely on yourself for now.

That's the plan right now, unless magically someone else appears. I'm considering a close friend in the long run, but not sure how I'd approach the situation later on. I don't want to jump into anything right now though, as I need time to myself, and I don't want this girl (ironically enough was friends with my EX but is now pissed at her) to think she was just a rebound.

That's one hell of a terrible year beginning you're going through, geez... But even after the heaviest storms, sun breaks through the clouds and gives warmth to our sorry behinds C:

I was sure hoping things wouldn't go like this, that's for sure. That is also true man...just got to keep pushing on.

Slash, what I'd say is to remove your mind from the world of girls for now, and study. Make friends with your dominant hand for a few weeks, and study using the hype that if you get good grades, you can become more successful and then when your're successful in life, you'll have better girls than her... who knows? Maybe she'll come crawling back and you can get your revenge! Once you're fine after a month, you can go back. But remember. Don't chase. Let the girls come to you. Sometimes the girls you never expect can be the best ones. Pretty girls = trouble.

Well I'm out of school now, but I do study things in the field I'm in, that's for sure. I'm really hoping that the one I mentioned above might happen someday. I've had a very small crush on her for a while now, but still unsure if I want it, or if it would work.

 

[MoLiEG]

Ohh Slash

I feel you bro, but be strong. Best thing you can do right now is to do stuff: Go out with some friends, do some exercise, play some videogames... the busier you keep your mind, the better. Anything that can distract you from thinking about this girl...

 

[Slash]

I'll tell you what, I'm trying my damnedest. I just want this all to be over...it's like a nightmare that just keeps getting worse. I feel drained.

 

[MoLiEG]

I'm sure you can do it bro. You have all our support and best wishes 👍

 

[Slash]

Talking has definitely helped a bit, that's for sure. Appreciate you all dealing with me

 

[AlvaroF]

Slash, life ain't over, you are still a young fella, do every thing you can as a single alpha male. Get drunk (I recomend leaving your phone home, you never know), restore cars (go for a tricky one, it keeps you thinking n that) go meet people, relax and then when the storm passes you'll feel like 10 feet tall
The community, is called a community for some reason.
Hang in there. Keep strong, and all the best

 

[Slash]

Appreciate the kind words. I think just need me time.

Really hope she doesn't spill my secrets. That might push me over the edge.


That said, I'm still thinkin about some stuff I talked to my mom about as she is behind me 100%. She asked me if I would ever consider goin out with the one girl I mentioned earlier and as I said, I don't know.

However, I wouldn't mind I but I don't know if it would feel right, right now. Plus, if it doesn't work, I run the risk of losing a very close friend. But they say that's how it all starts. We will see what happens. I just need to focus on other things but I've been thinking about her strangely enough. Is this a rebound?

 

[TB]

You sitting the internet constantly mentioning "her" isn't letting you move on. Get the hell out of the house with some friends, have a good time and start forgetting about this chick. Failure to do so and she takes away from you even more than she already has.

 

[Slash]

You are right, getting out a bit today helped. I'm goin to start making more plans

 

[terminator363]

I appreciate the advice TB. My problem is, I don't even know where to start, and at the same time, I'm not sure i could ever trust someone the way I trusted her. It was the most real relationship I have ever had. I just feel used and its all really bothering me. Everyone can see it.

Break ups don't usually phase me but there must have been something there because once it set it it really hurts.

Dude, don't fall for it. I trusted my girl with my life and she ran off. For a year I've been thinking about her all the time, thinking that she was the one. Then I got hired and started working, I've been seeing so many new faces at work and I realized that there are so many other amazing personalities out there - I basically stopped thinking about my girl completely. There is an amazing feeling of freedom when you are single, believe me society makes it seem so much worse than it is. When you are single you can go with whoever the 🤬 you want to be with, no one cares if you are cheating on anyone, you can flirt with everyone and basically your life revolves around yourself and not someone you are attached to because of a close relationship. If you want to have fun, you are free to do it - you don't have to stop because there is someone holding you back and you never have to go out of your way some girl feel loved while you suffer. If I learned anything, live in the now and forget the past. Make every moment count now. I went through the hardest breakup you could imagine but you know what it hardened me to point where I simply don't give a 🤬 and to be honest girls notice this around me and want to be around me. Girls hate a drama queen they have enough trouble listening to her female friends whine and bitch at them. Live your life dude, that's the best advice I can give you. If you believe it you are stronger than anyone else.

 

[RJS]

Here in my "Rancho" we have a say... "Kids and drunk people always tell the truth"...

I also "live" by that phrase


Well, I spend 3 days with some friends for the New Year Party, and on our group, the girl I like (or liked, don't know that either) also was there (She is seeing other guy, after she told me that she wasn't ready for another relationship). It was strange and good at the same time. After midnight, I walked to her, wished her Happy New Year, and we hugged, and she asked me: "Are you good?" I told her that I did, and we chat for a few seconds. It was meaningless, and I felt so good knowing that we are still friends, and talking just fine.

(Sorry for any mistakes, my English is kinda rusty)

 

[Slash]

Dude, don't fall for it. I trusted my girl with my life and she ran off. For a year I've been thinking about her all the time, thinking that she was the one. Then I got hired and started working, I've been seeing so many new faces at work and I realized that there are so many other amazing personalities out there - I basically stopped thinking about my girl completely. There is an amazing feeling of freedom when you are single, believe me society makes it seem so much worse than it is. When you are single you can go with whoever the 🤬 you want to be with, no one cares if you are cheating on anyone, you can flirt with everyone and basically your life revolves around yourself and not someone you are attached to because of a close relationship. If you want to have fun, you are free to do it - you don't have to stop because there is someone holding you back and you never have to go out of your way some girl feel loved while you suffer. If I learned anything, live in the now and forget the past. Make every moment count now. I went through the hardest breakup you could imagine but you know what it hardened me to point where I simply don't give a 🤬 and to be honest girls notice this around me and want to be around me. Girls hate a drama queen they have enough trouble listening to her female friends whine and bitch at them. Live your life dude, that's the best advice I can give you. If you believe it you are stronger than anyone else.

I'll try to get into this mindset

 

[cnd01]

@Slashfan you're the only person who can make it happen. We can give you little pointers and motivation, but until you get out there and put it into action, you'll keep coming back here with the same problems. I think you can do it. You've gotta think that too. Best of luck

 

[Slash]

I'm hanging out with some friends today, let's see how it goes.

 

[Sage Ages]

(Sorry for any mistakes, my English is kinda rusty)

That was better than most people whose first language was english.

 

[Madertus]

I'm hanging out with some friends today, let's see how it goes.

Way to go, Slash! I'll drink to you tonight with my sister!

 

[Ellis]

I have been speaking to this girl, who although I have known for a while, we have been getting kind of romantic over the past few days. Kissing at new year, spend an evening chilling at hers and such. But its difficult because I want to see her and such, but I am worried I am being too over the top and will end up pushing her away. It's difficult as heckers!

EDIT: I know that is terribly worded but I am sure someone in the world understands that or I hope they do!

 

[AlvaroF]

I am not an expert, but initially don't get hyped. Give her hints of what you want, in this case a serious relationship, she'll do the same it she's really interested in you, you have to carefully judge her behaviour and actions of it's a missed opportunity. She's counting in your first step. Don't rush it take your time (not too much time though of she'll loose interest, if that's the case)

With that said, I wish good luck and care about her most of all and pay attention to small details because those are the most important

 

[RJS]

That was better than most people whose first language was english.

Great to know that

 

[Slash]

Just got home, wow what a couple of day's that was. Fixed his four wheelers, ripped on them a bit and then traded a broken dirtbike for a snowmobile that I did not hold back on the throttle on...

Kept my mind off it for a while. I feel better.

 

[Callum B]

And I've just been sat here doing a maths paper. That sounds awesome dude, the best my friends have got are push bikes.

I have a query for you guys, there's this girl I'm speaking to, lovely lass she's got the sort of personality I could marry, however I don't find her attractive in the whole "I wanna go out with her way" and this has happened before when I've gone out with a girl in this situation and it didn't work out in the end. I wanna ask has anyone had this happen to them? Because I wouldn't mind getting close to her but not going out if you understand what I mean... would it be bad if I friendzoned her? I'm in this position with many girls and frankly I don't mind it at all anymore but I know a lot of people don't like it so...

I'm bad at wording things. Many apolowgees. (Hope someone gets that reference )

 

[Madertus]

(...) I have a query for you guys, there's this girl I'm speaking to, lovely lass she's got the sort of personality I could marry, however I don't find her attractive in the whole "I wanna go out with her way" and this has happened before when I've gone out with a girl in this situation and it didn't work out in the end. (...)

Don't push yourself if you don't feel that you want to be with her. You even said that a situation like that didn't really go the way you wanted it to go.

Think it over - you can either end up in a good relationship or start up a slowly-ticking time bomb. A powerful one at that.

 

[Callum B]

Don't push yourself if you don't feel that you want to be with her. You even said that a situation like that didn't really go the way you wanted it to go.

Think it over - you can either end up in a good relationship or start up a slowly-ticking time bomb. A powerful one at that.

I'm not going down that path no matter what. I was wondering if it would be an alright idea in your and other's opinions to start up like a friend with SOME benefits, sort of like all the cute **** you get in relationships, no making out though. I dunno, I sort of have it with other girls and it's nice, just wanted a different point of view on that sort of thing.

 

[Slash]

It's not worth it. What happens of either of you end up wanting more? Then you've effectively drawn yourself into something you claim "isn't going to happen no matter what".

 

[phillgt2002]

I have a query for you guys, there's this girl I'm speaking to, lovely lass she's got the sort of personality I could marry, however I don't find her attractive in the whole "I wanna go out with her way" and this has happened before when I've gone out with a girl in this situation and it didn't work out in the end.

I've been in this situation before and I just friendzoned her basically.

 

[Keef]

I have a query for you guys, there's this girl I'm speaking to, lovely lass she's got the sort of personality I could marry, however I don't find her attractive in the whole "I wanna go out with her way" and this has happened before when I've gone out with a girl in this situation and it didn't work out in the end.

One of my friends in particular is like this but for more obvious reasons than yours. She's got a really boring personality, frankly. She's a car girl which is cool, part of our car group, she's alright to hang with...but she's just so boring that I'm not attracted to her at all. I've tried to get into it, just for the sake of getting some action, and I just can't. Basically the only thing I use her for now is when things go sour with a girl I actually like, then I'll call this chick to hang out and occupy me for a while.

My theory is that if you're a guy and you don't wanna hook up with a girl...then she might as well be a dude.

 

[Callum B]

On a completely new story:
First day back at college and there's this girl in my politics who I can happily talk to and we have much banter, I decided to try and start flirting a bit seeing as she seems to like my company... try. The problem was not the usual what do I say, it was something new to me.
The cockblocker, and he seemed a fairly high level at that.
Before our politics class together we were discussing Loki vs Thor as you do and she said to me "When they make a Loki movie or the next Thor I'm taking you to see it" and before I could even mutter the phrase m'kay he buts in with "Awesome can I come with you?". He was sort of half in the conversation at the time but she said that phrase directly to my eyes. She seemed a bit weirded out and went "Err, yer sure." and gave me a pretty concerned look to be honest.
After class she saw I wasn't feeling too well (I'm still ill now) and she said she had a free period so she'd walk me to my next class (which btw was at the highest point of the college and in a different building on 'campus'). Guess who decided to train along with for the half of it. What was quite funny was when he trailed off to go somewhere else (he had a free to) she looked at me with almost a face of relief and said "Well, he's gone."
Also on an added note my mate said at the start of the day he thought he was a bit of a ****, I contended he was an alright guy... came back at lunch to my mate. "Maybe you were kind of right." Also this guy doesn't get the best 'reports' from others either.

It was mildly amusing to me, thought it was interesting. And if you're wondering, I shall attempt some more flirting with this lovely lady... if Mr.Blocker doesn't show up anyway.

Also a question, have any of you guys had instances with blockers?

 

[MoLiEG]

Finally, it happened. Today I had no choice but to talk to the girl that cancelled one date and didn't show up to the other one 2 weeks ago.

Cold, she didn't not even look into my eyes...

Exactly what I was expecting

Lol, Girls are so annoying!

On another note, I'm still going to see my "femme fatale" this saturday... things are cool at the moment 👍 I'm already getting my fangs ready for THE DAY...

Never been more determined... NEVER...

 

[BobK]

Your.... fangs? Shouldn't you be thinking of another body part? Or is that a new euphemism?