The General Relationship Thread

[Ryanswannell]

18 and still single It's really annoying when each of your friends is in a relationship as well, just increases the pain even more
Hopefully my time will come

EDIT:

While I'm here, I might as well mention this.
There is this very pretty girl where I work, and I suppose you could say that I get along with her, things like walking back from work with her sometimes (more increasingly recently though) if our shifts finish together as her house is on the way back to mine, talking to her during work or on our break and she laughs at my jokes often (I'm a funny guy, what can I say ). I'm not really sure she likes me in the way that I'd like her to though, I think my mind looks for anything positive and blows it massively out of proportion

When will I meet a girl my age who is interested in me???

 

[MoLiEG]

Sounds like you've got it figured out then. Good luck

Again thanks my friend

18 and still single It's really annoying when each of your friends is in a relationship as well, just increases the pain even more
Hopefully my time will come

EDIT:

While I'm here, I might as well mention this.
There is this very pretty girl where I work, and I suppose you could say that I get along with her, things like walking back from work with her sometimes (more increasingly recently though) if our shifts finish together as her house is on the way back to mine, talking to her during work or on our break and she laughs at my jokes often (I'm a funny guy, what can I say ). I'm not really sure she likes me in the way that I'd like her to though, I think my mind looks for anything positive and blows it massively out of proportion

When will I meet a girl my age who is interested in me???

I'm 24 and still single bro, and yes, I feel your pain, all of my friends have had at least one girlfriend... but I'm confident your luck will change... If you ask me, that girl you are talking about sounds very promising 👍

 

[Slash]

Again thanks my friend

No problem

 

[nk4e]

The girls that I have mention, one of them has a BF and the other apparently goes where the muscle car is. Who knows, there is some lingering drama that from one guy that keeps telling her friends that she broke his heart. I am not disapointed just, meh.

 

[Yauma9]

"My girl" got me something very very special... A GIGANTIC HEADACHE...


And on Monday, she said she wanted me to continue trying...

I MEAN... WHAT THE ACTUAL F:censored: IS GOING ON WITH HER!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!

SHE LOVES ME, OR SHE LOVES ME NOT, IS SHE EVEN SERIOUS?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!

I CAN'T F:censored: BELIEVE IT...

And that's why I invited this other girl out... I want a fresh start...

I almost throw my laptop from the table like in the pic... seriously... I don't know what to do with her...

Maybe she likes the fact that someone's behind her, not because she likes you, but because she likes the attention of being "loved" by someone.
I I were you (altough by no means I'm an expert with love and relationships) I'd drop it, because I believe you are going nowhere with this, and it's better for you to leave this alone and move on rather than continue with this nonsense (sorry) and getting hurt.

I guess you went out with this girl already so ... lemme ask: How did it went?

 

[MoLiEG]

Maybe she likes the fact that someone's behind her, not because she likes you, but because she likes the attention of being "loved" by someone.
If I were you (altough by no means I'm an expert with love and relationships) I'd drop it, because I believe you are going nowhere with this, and it's better for you to leave this alone and move on rather than continue with this nonsense (sorry) and getting hurt.

I guess you went out with this girl already so .. lemme ask: How did it went?

Yes... our date was today...

Girl didn't showed up... waited for her like an idiot for an hour, I went from "ok, maybe she is a little bit late, girls are never on time "... to "maybe she understood 5:30pm , it's ok, I'll wait"... to "or maybe she understood 3:30pm!!!! "... to finally "the heck, it's 15 minutes past 6pm... I'm f:censored: out of here... she had my number, so she was perfectly capable of texting me if she was going to be late, if she was already here, or if she was not going to come at all"...

After this, I've completely lost interest in this girl... which is, well, bad... for her

I'm not remotely mad at her, I knew this could happen again... just like 1st time I asked her out (last month, remember?)... she cancelled the date just hours before it... but anyway... life must go on... The interesting thing is what's going to happen when I see her at work next week (like I told you, we work on the same place)... but anyway, I'm not mad, I'll have to see what happens... If she wants to explain something it's fine, if it was a comunitation error, I'll say I'm sorry... but asking her out again... No señor!...

And yes... the other girl... the one that causes me so much trouble...

I'll quote what I said of her once...

"She is an unpredictable mass of conflicting, chaotic impulses. Also, she is mentally unstable, and prone to violent tantrums..."

She just loooves to feed my ilussions just to smash them whenever possible... hint that she loves/likes me, and then refuse to go out with me... We'll kiss each other when I manage to go out with her, and then say I was not passionate about it, say I'm just the perfect gentleman that could be a great sentimental partner, and then contradict herself and say I'm not a warm, affectionate guy...

She is, bassically, an emotional wreck... her mixed feelings make me crazy, and make my confidence go up and down in just.. days... or even hours or minutes...

Yes... I may have listed more than enough reasons to stop pursuing her... but yet... I don't want to give up on her, for the very simple reason she doesn't know the real man in me, the real man that I KNOW a part of her (or one of her multiple personalities) REALLY WANTS TO MEET... I just know it... I know curiosity is killing her very deep in the bottom of her cells... So. Once she meets him, if she isn't satisfied... then I'll walk away... Simple. As. That...

But this will be her last chance...

Call me crazy, tell me I'm mad (everyone around me, friends, family, tell me the same)... but that's the truth... I just need one more date... I'm not going to lose more of my precious time...

I finally know what she wants and I'm going to give it to her...

 

[Shoogar]

I've been dating a girl for 3 months now. It's been great fun but she's gone to Kenya for volunteer work, she's gone for 2 months. It's about half way through this and being alone from her has given me time to think. Prior to us going out she had been part of a friendship group that my group sometimes got involved in and she may or may not have had a 'fling' with a friend. I've asked her plenty of times about it to find out what happened that night in an attempt to not block my friend from a relationship with her (She was flirting and had a crush on me at the time). After her denying them doing anything but kiss, I felt kind of humble about it, but about a week and a half ago, we caught up and my friend said that they did a lot more than kiss. Now i'm split in two.. Who do I trust more? A drunken friend or a girl who says she loves me?

 

[MoLiEG]

Here in my "Rancho" we have a say... "Kids and drunk people always tell the truth"...

So...

Look, comunitation it's important, and now, more than ever, once she returns, you'll have to ask her again... but you'll have to be very careful with the way you ask and handle it... If she truly loves you, she'll confess... One night stands are very common here in my "Rancho", so telling you any advise on how to proceed if the answer is a "yes" is beyond my power...

Just try not to think a lot about it while she's away, you don't want to end up consumed by this, trust me...

 

[Shoogar]

She's told me about previous partners and her experiences, but she says that they were awkward and says that she only counts me as her first. I am just unsure if she'd hide something like that from me in order to stop my feelings from being different. My friend on the other hand has told a few lies in the past about things like this, maybe in a way of him trying to gain acceptance. Im the only one in my group that's in a relationship.. But like you said I don't want this to consume me. Ugh, why do people have to lie. I guess I will find out tomorrow, I will confront my friend about his drunken comments tomorrow. I don't think asking her would be a good idea, especially when she returns, from the times we've spoken she has sounded like she's really stressed out and afraid. I think she under-estimated how full on the experience would be. I wouldn't want her coming back an emotional wreck to have me confront her about something she's denied before.

 

[Ryanswannell]

I'm 24 and still single bro, and yes, I feel your pain, all of my friends have had at least one girlfriend... but I'm confident your luck will change... If you ask me, that girl you are talking about sounds very promising 👍

I hope so, but the only thing is I've only really known her for about two months (we both work in a new retail store) and I don't really know an awful lot about her. In fact, I don't even know how old she is (I'm fairly confident she's about my age, maybe a year older) or if she has a boyfriend (or a girlfriend if she swings that way ), although she has never mentioned one. It will probably seem a bit dodgy if I walk up to her and then randomly ask these types of questions.

Also, I have started to notice something over the past year. Any of the girls (apart from one) who "admire me" to put it one way seem to be around four years younger than me (I'm 18 by the way). Is there a reason for this?
I mean, do I maybe have a look younger girls go for, or are girls my age just more discreet about things like this? I'm just really confused that's all

 

[phillgt2002]

18 and still single It's really annoying when each of your friends is in a relationship as well, just increases the pain even more
Hopefully my time will come

EDIT:

While I'm here, I might as well mention this.
There is this very pretty girl where I work, and I suppose you could say that I get along with her, things like walking back from work with her sometimes (more increasingly recently though) if our shifts finish together as her house is on the way back to mine, talking to her during work or on our break and she laughs at my jokes often (I'm a funny guy, what can I say ). I'm not really sure she likes me in the way that I'd like her to though, I think my mind looks for anything positive and blows it massively out of proportion

When will I meet a girl my age who is interested in me???

Go for it now and regret it later. It's kind of like when I asked a girl out recently and I forgot her name, I was expecting to look like a damn fool but I still got her number and hung out with her. Now.. if you do mess it up, you'll have to go through the pain of having to see her at your workplace but depending on how you approach her about your interests you'll be fine. I think it's worth a shot.

 

[Ryanswannell]

Go for it now and regret it later. It's kind of like when I asked a girl out recently and I forgot her name, I was expecting to look like a damn fool but I still got her number and hung out with her. Now.. if you do mess it up, you'll have to go through the pain of having to see her at your workplace but depending on how you approach her about your interests you'll be fine. I think it's worth a shot.

Cheers for your advice, but that is the thing that holds everyone back when it comes down to asking a girl out.

I did it once when I was slightly drunk (over Facebook) and while I don't really regret it as such now I know where I stand with her (she saw the message but didn't reply), if I do see her again it will be incredibly awkward, even more so as she now has a boyfriend. I just can't imagine how much worse the outcome will be if she was to say no (probably the most likely answer) as we work together.

As I have said before, my confidence with girls my age isn't exactly through the roof as I haven't had a girlfriend before, although over the past year t has picked up a little for one reason or another. It's so annoying that I don't have bottle to ask her out, she's just so in my mind.

 

[phillgt2002]

But that is the thing that holds everyone back when it comes down to asking a girl out.

As I have said before, my confidence with girls my age isn't exactly through the roof as I haven't had a girlfriend before. It's so annoying that I don't have bottle to ask her out, she's just so in my mind.

I'm the same age as you, and I wouldn't exactly say I have a-lot of confidence. I don't get hung up on one single girl for too long (Probably like a week, is that a long time?) I've never had a 'true' girlfriend in my mind. Just start with the question "Are you busy this weekend". That usually leads to Yes or no, and a why after that, then explain to her what you want to do. If she says yes, I would still tell my intentions if I were you.

 

[MoLiEG]

So, I have a date next Saturday... 👍

With the aftermentioned ultra-complicated girl... of course...

Normally, she doesn't cancels dates... but anything can happen. Expect the best, prepare for the worst, that's what some people say...

With this problem pretty much solved on paper, all I have to do is translate what I have in my mind to actions, and everything should be not fine, but GREAT...

I think I've never been more determined, because I really want to put an end to this...

For either good, or bad...

She's told me about previous partners and her experiences, but she says that they were awkward and says that she only counts me as her first. I am just unsure if she'd hide something like that from me in order to stop my feelings from being different. My friend on the other hand has told a few lies in the past about things like this, maybe in a way of him trying to gain acceptance. Im the only one in my group that's in a relationship.. But like you said I don't want this to consume me. Ugh, why do people have to lie. I guess I will find out tomorrow, I will confront my friend about his drunken comments tomorrow. I don't think asking her would be a good idea, especially when she returns, from the times we've spoken she has sounded like she's really stressed out and afraid. I think she under-estimated how full on the experience would be. I wouldn't want her coming back an emotional wreck to have me confront her about something she's denied before.

Well, that might be a sign he is not to be trusted in these type of situations...

And no, don't ask her... well, I wouldn't ask her, because from my personal point of view, any past relationship that a girl might have had becomes irrelevant, because now I'm the man and now I'm responsible for her happiness...

My point of view of course... but like I said, don't torture yourself with this, if you can get things straight with your friend, then I think there's not need to ask her about it...

 

[Shoogar]

So, I have a date next Saturday... 👍

With the aftermentioned ultra-complicated girl... of course...

Normally, she doesn't cancels dates... but anything can happen. Expect the best, prepare for the worst, that's what some people say...

With this problem pretty much solved on paper, all I have to do is translate what I have in my mind to actions, and everything should be not fine, but GREAT...

I think I've never been more determined, because I really want to put an end to this...

For either good, or bad...

Well best of luck! Hopefully she holds up her end of the deal and you both have a great date. 👍

 

[MatskiMonk]

Long distance relationship Christmas and New Year.

The Whiskey floweth in large volume.

 

[MoLiEG]

And yes... she cancelled the date...

Well, she asked if we could change the day because one of her friends of the office is organizing a party for this saturday...

Guess she can go to a party of somebody she sees on a daily basis and can keep infuriating me beyond my freaking limits...

Seriously... I think I have a mental condition or something... a normal guy would have stopped years ago...

 

[Yauma9]

Is she that beautiful?

I believe things are okay now with my gf, we still have to sort what I said out, but right now everything about it it's on queue. 👍

And in almost 14 days it'll be our 2nd monthversary! () Already thought what I'm going to give her.

 

[Slash]

And yes... she cancelled the date...

Well, she asked if we could change the day because one of her friends of the office is organizing a party for this saturday...

Guess she can go to a party of somebody she sees on a daily basis and can keep infuriating me beyond my freaking limits...

Seriously... I think I have a mental condition or something... a normal guy would have stopped years ago...

How do you think I feel?? I have not let go of a girl I can never have after 7 years!!!

 

[MoLiEG]

Is she that beautiful?

I believe things are okay now with my gf, we still have to sort what I said out, but right now everything about it it's on queue. 👍

And in almost 14 days it'll be our 2nd monthversary! () Already thought what I'm going to give her.

Well ...

She's pretty, but no, she's not that beautiful or super hawt... She used to be veeeery pretty when we were 18-19, but back then I was a complete mess

Now I'm the one that looks like a million bucks

I was very pissed off an hour ago, but now I'm ok (I guess)

I think I'll just have to be patient... and pray for her not to have anymore surprise events to use as an excuse to avoid going out with me...

And well, I think congratulations are in order for your 2nd month together (not here yet, but 2 weeks pass in a blink of an eye these days ) Better get something special bro, girls loooove presents on monthversaries!!!

How do you think I feel?? I have not let go of a girl I can never have after 7 years!!!

Ouch...

7 years is a lot of time... Like I said earlier, I hope I can finish this business as soon as possible, for either good, or bad...

 

[Kitten]

My GF got me a Sweater. And a Realllly cute card. And now she's on Vacation so I can't spend time with her on New Years Eve.

 

[Slash]

girls loooove presents on monthversaries!!!

Huehuehuehuehuehuehuehuehue

Ouch...

7 years is a lot of time... Like I said earlier, I hope I can finish this business as soon as possible, for either good, or bad...

That it is. I just can't let go. I legitly feel like there is something wrong with me.

 

[Yauma9]

Well ...

She's pretty, but no, she's not that beautiful or super hawt... She used to be veeeery pretty when we were 18-19, but back then I was a complete mess

Now I'm the one that looks like a million bucks

I was very pissed off an hour ago, but now I'm ok (I guess)

I think I'll just have to be patient... and pray for her not to have anymore surprise events to use as an excuse to avoid going out with me...

And well, I think congratulations are in order for your 2nd month together (not here yet, but 2 weeks pass in a blink of an eye these days ) Better get something special bro, girls loooove presents on monthversaries!!!

Your patience will be rewarded, you'll see...

Thanks! These two months have been really fun, I mean, we are always discussing but that's what makes our relationship fun. I'm going to get her favorite artist's CD, a huge plush (?) a long hand-written card (she loves that) and I'm going to decorate her whole classroom (we'll be in school by that time) with hearts and that stuff. :3

 

[MoLiEG]

That it is. I just can't let go. I legitly feel like there is something wrong with me.

Well, that makes two of us...

Two weeks sound like an eternity today... but this is a short week... it'll be over in no time thanks to New Year's celebration... And my weekends never seem to last a lot...

I really want this over... I don't care if I have to become more aggresive...

Your patience will be rewarded, you'll see...

Thanks! These two months have been really fun, I mean, we are always discussing but that's what makes our relationship fun. I'm going to get her favorite artist's CD, a huge plush (?) a long hand-written card (she loves that) and I'm going to decorate her whole classroom (we'll be in school by that time) with hearts and that stuff. :3

Ternurita!!!

Ohhh, the things I'd do if I had her...

No, let's stay positive... it will happen... or I'll die trying...

 

[phillgt2002]

And yes... she cancelled the date...

Yeah, I think it's time to call it quits. She sounds like a flaky bitch.

 

[Slash]

Couple things...


1. Is it normal to still think about your first true girlfriend? I was in a relationship with here for 6-7 months roughly, after adoring this girl since I met her at 4 years old. Eventually...a nasty breakup came. She did it basically on my birthday. How pleasant. Anyways, it got rough, the school got involved and had us separated etc. We weren't nice to each other for about a year, until one day we were talking, and she recalled her birthday where we had some fun together, and she said it was awesome. A few other times things came up, and she'd shoot me a smile or two. This all happened nearly 8 years ago. Now we are on good terms, have nice conversations at times, and I still wonder where things would have went, and every so often, wonder what it would be like (and sometimes miss her) to have her back. I got a lot of 🤬 from people at the time we dated, but it still didn't deter me from how I felt...and, ironically enough, how I still occasionally feel today. Is this normal? Right around a year, maybe less after this, I met the girl I previously mentioned that I've liked for 7.


2. Same kind of thing with my most recent ex, though more frequent, and it didn't end badly.


I really...really...would like some insight on this.

 

[Yauma9]

Two weeks sound like an eternity today... but this is a short week... it'll be over in no time thanks to New Year's celebration... And my weekends never seem to last a lot...

I really want this over... I don't care if I have to become more aggresive...

Ohhh, the things I'd do if I had her...

No, let's stay positive... it will happen... or I'll die trying...

Paramore: Last Hope Have you heard this song? I don't know if you like this kind of music but your situation reminds me of the lyrics. It's a nice song.

I really...really...would like some insight on this.

If you aren't in a relationship right now I guess it's normal, well I'm not Dr. Love but it happened a lot to me, and I'll take it it's ok until you start to feel bad because you didn't do something. It's just my opinion though.

Now, if you're in a relationship and that happens, you're in a big problem. (Kinda happening to me right now, heard a song, found it familiar, remembered my ex danced it the day I asked her out, and can't stop thinking about it. And the song is nice. )

Also, you may find it lame (or not) but some weeks ago I just gave my first kiss. (with my gf, don't worry, she told me it was her first one too) That's it, I just wanted you to know.

 

[Sage Ages]

This thread makes me depressed.

 

[MoLiEG]

Paramore: Last Hope Have you heard this song? I don't know if you like this kind of music but your situation reminds me of the lyrics. It's a nice song.

I've never been a fan of Paramore, but it was a good song. Yeah, you could say it's my last hope and probably the last time I'll try to pursue her... mostly because I've never more determined to prove her wrong, prove me wrong & prove the world wrong ... I know that deep inside her, she loves me as much as I do love her... I hate to be the one that has to do everything, she doesn't help a bit, but if you want something done and you want something very very veeery bad... there's no other way...

Also, I couldn't help but think in one of the famous motto's of La Monumental, América's most infamous supporting groups (or at least I think they invented it) while listening to the song...

(and no, I don't support the Eagles, I just happen to like the concept of the phrase, which reads "Suicide Love" in english)

Also, you may find it lame (or not) but some weeks ago I just gave my first kiss. (with my gf, don't worry, she told me it was her first one too) That's it, I just wanted you to know.

Not lame at all bro, I had mi 1st kiss last year ... with her of course...

 

[Slash]

If you aren't in a relationship right now I guess it's normal, well I'm not Dr. Love but it happened a lot to me, and I'll take it it's ok until you start to feel bad because you didn't do something. It's just my opinion though.

Yeah, single atm.