I guess empathy translates differently in my language. I hope you understand what I was going for though. I was not saying white or whatever colour "wouldnt understand" I am just stating one can only fully understand when in ones shoes. Like I used the parent example. One can empathise (american english use) with being a parent but not understand how it feels to be responsible for a small child and having created a small human.
I understand what you're saying, and I'm trying to get you to see something else.
You're drawing an arbitrary line in the sand to say that you can only empathize well with a person of a particular skin color if you have had that skin color. For example, a white person cannot empathize well with a black person. If that were true, then it should also be true that a black person cannot empathize well with a white person. They must not know what it feels like to have "white privilege". They can never know what it's like to be white. It is, of course, absolute nonsense. And it's super easy to demonstrate.
A black person walking into a room full of black people with only one or two white people can get a sense of what it is like to be a white person walking into a room full of white people with only one or two black people. If we're isolating skin color and majority/minority experiences here, there you have it. That's one
small part of actually empathizing with the more general experience, but it is a demonstration of how easy it is to empathize with that part.
I don't even have to have had that experience though. If I were the only guy at a wedding shower, that would probably suffice to communicate much of the dynamic. There are countless other examples.
I could go on, but I think it's enough to say that most people who think that white people could never understand what it's like to be black would never go the reverse - that black people could never understand what it's like to be white. And that's enough to demonstrate my point easily.
But beyond that...
I know what it's like to be treated differently based on my appearance, I'm a man.
I know what it's like to be a visible minority in the room.
I know what it's like for other people to be given preference just because they look different than me.
I know what it's like to question the motives of other people, and not know whether they're treating me differently based on my appearance or based on circumstance.
I know what it's like to see violence advocated against me on the basis of my skin color.
I know what it's like to be dismissed on the basis of appearance, publicly... and to have that dismissal accepted publicly.
etc.
But beyond any of that...
I have a brain that is very capable of understanding
and simulating a vast array of experiences, many of which I have not felt personally.
So once again, knock it off with the "white people would never understand" sentiment. It's condescending, insulting, and wrong.