I think it comes down to this
People in general want to believe their personal experiences are the rule, not the exception.
A white man who grew up poor and was denied a job due to affirmative action opening the position only to minorities might be convinced white privilege does not exist.
A black man who reads about a study that says white sounding names get 50% more callbacks then black names on identical resumes might be convinced white privilege does exist.
Also, I feel the human spirit has a very, very strong learning towards hoping for and expecting the best out of people. We all want to believe everyone has good intentions when dealing with us and others.
Thats why when people say something is wrong in the world, it's our tendency to become immediately defensive and skeptical. We inherently dont like it when someone rocks the boat and tells us everything in the world is not right, that some people are being treated unjustly, especially if we cant readily identify with the unjust behavior.
A personal example for me would be the occupy wall street movement. I quickly dismissed them as a bunch of jobless losers looking to blame somebody who also got a kick out of civil disobedience and causing unrest. I was so focused on the people I completely overlooked the point and cause itself. Looking back at it now they had a very good reason to be upset and the issue continues to exist to this day. I've only just begun to realize how incredibly greedy and corrupt big business is.
If you read youtube comments on videos that dismiss white privilege, you'll notice some people expressing almost a sense of relief. 'Finally someone tells the truth!'. The reason for this is they feel this makes things 'right' in the world again. Minorities, for the most part, are being treated fairly and equally. Thats a reality that can make them happy. It doesnt make them uncomfortable or feel 'white guilt'. Even some minorities in the comments join in and praise the speaker for exposing white privilege to be a lie. These people too want things to be right in the world. When they walk down the street, apply for a job, and go about everyday life, they like to feel that they are being seen and treated as an equal. Being open to the possibility they are not makes them feel uncomfortable.
Far too often the realities of life are harsh and unpleasant.
When Wonder Woman was released in theaters recently a large number of women reported crying while watching the film. The reason? Women were not use to seeing someone who represented them have so much power. The vast majority of major superheroes are male.
And the vast majority of major superheros are also white. Superman, Batman, Iron Man, Thor, Hulk, The Flash, Super Girl, Ant Man, Star Lord, etc etc. Minorities do get the consolation prize of Cyborg and War Machine. Movie heroes too. Indiana Jones, Luke Skywalker, Froddo, Neo, Ripley, Ethan Hunt, Arnold, all Bonds, etc etc
What white privilege is not
- not having to work hard for anything
- immunity to poverty
- a need to feel guilty because some who happen to share your skin color have chosen to abuse this privilege
What white privilege is
- facing on average considerably less disadvantages when compared to minorities
- numerous perks in everyday life, such as not having a laundry list of negative stereotypes associated with people of your skin color, or having to be the only person in a room who looks like you
and last but not least
- you can not care about any of this - and nothing will change for you
Northstar
Granted it's hard to be certain without knowing the tone, but that sounds like the typical small talk you get at the beginning of an interview.
My general rule of thumb is that anyone who asks about my race within a minute of meeting me is generally an uncultured idiot, and likely a racist subconsciously or worse. Questions like that make people like me feel uncomfortable. Its like people touching a black person's hair - the white person doing it might not have bad intentions, but the minority doesnt like it because its making them feel 'abnormal'. If you immediately ask where my parents are from, you might as well have told me "It's not normal to see people like you around here." If you touch a black person's hair it's as though you told them "It's not normal to see hair like this." We want to fit in and be seen as another person. Saying or doing those things tells us that you do not see us as just another person, but as someone 'different'.
Im not saying you cant ever inquire about someone's ethnicity or hair, but doing it almost immediately upon meeting a person for the first time is a totally different story.
stonesfan129
When waiting for the Las Vegas shooter to be identified, did you have to worry about him having the same skin color as you in fear of the blowback you would unfairly have to weather? You cash your white privilege check almost every day. You can go into a store and not worry about how you have to act so as not to draw even more negative attention to yourself.
Imari
Perhaps if you stopped assuming that everything that didn't go your way was racism, you'd see less racism.
Really shouldnt be blaming me for being so skeptical, I'm the product of institutionalized racism which in turn gave birth to white privilege.
RISHIRAM5
This was seen as something that was a wrong way to think especially when Judy encourages Nick that he is more than that, which goes to the whole message of Zootopia which spits in the face of the whole idea of identity politics and about any individual can be capable of anything as said individual.
Yeah but look at what Judy had to go through to get to that point - if more people do not become sympathetic and understanding to her struggle then nothing will really change in the long run - most will not have the will power of Judy to deal with all the grief the cops and others gave her.