Your 1st Kiss...

[adam46]

Ouch. I feel for you, man, I really do. That's heartbreaking just to read.

Thanks W3HS. The last month has been torture so it's nice for people to show a little... I dunno; Understanding, I guess. I know it was very much young love but, didn't have much else to live for then. Don't have a thing to live for now. Don't remember life before knowing her so it's a big change.

 

[W3H5]

I've been there, too, adam. Broke up with my first proper girl after 4 years and didn't know what to do with myself without her. It's a life changing experience to some people.

All I can say is, and you don't have to believe this now, it does get better over time. I didn't believe it at first but over some time the pain grows less.

 

[adam46]

I've been there, too, adam. Broke up with my first proper girl after 4 years and didn't know what to do with myself without her. It's a life changing experience to some people.

All I can say is, and you don't have to believe this now, it does get better over time. I didn't believe it at first but over some time the pain grows less.

Yeah I know it can really change someone. Thing is, I am Dyslexic and Autistic. She taught me so much, she was like a tutor to me for stuff none of my teachers could teach me. If I hadn't met her my social skills would still be non-existent; I'd still be that one in the corner either crying or travelling his often troubled mind. I sure as hell wouldn't have joined a website like this, and I wouldn't have any friends. If that beautiful little 6 year-old didn't try and cheer me up when I cracked under pressure at my first swimming races I would be an entirely different person, unlikely to have any spelling or reading skill in his arsenal.

If I had a smile on my face, she was by my side. That's just how it was. I do hope things brighten up, and I know they usually do but at the moment I'm feeling the full effect of losing more than a girlfriend; I lost my best friend, sister and even my mother figure all in one. And I grew attached to her family, honestly more than my own.

It'll be a tough patch of time ahead, for sure.

 

[Dean]

Thanks W3HS. The last month has been torture so it's nice for people to show a little... I dunno; Understanding, I guess. I know it was very much young love but, didn't have much else to live for then. Don't have a thing to live for now. Don't remember life before knowing her so it's a big change.

I can understand you're sad, if you can't "remember life before knowing her", because - "losing" something, Adam, is very hard, but even though,

"your heart belongs to that special person... life will go on afterwards".

- I'm deeply sorry to hear about it.

 

[W3H5]

I wish you strength, mate, I really do. 👍

 

[adam46]

I can understand you're sad, if you can't "remember life before knowing her"...QUOTE]

Yeah all I remember before my first memory of her is a fire next door involving many firemen and a birthday party for one of my friends. And for a bizzare reason, the opening lap of the 200w Australian Grand Prix.

Thanks to both of you for the support and the virtual shoulder to lean on. I need to go to work now, Bye.

 

[Madertus]

(...) not a happy bunny as of late, as you can tell. (...)

I so feel for you; that story is just downright sad.
No, I genuinely mean it. Seriously.

Losing someone very important (hell, is that phrase even applicable in that case?) is I think the most painful thing in anyone's life.

 

[MoLiEG]

Losing someone very important (hell, is that phrase even applicable in that case?) is I think the most painful thing in anyone's life.

Sure it is...

My good wishes are with you adam

 

[adam46]

Thank you guys. Been a hard old day, her friends were at my workplace and I found some photos of her in my drawer.

But yeah, life just about goes on, thanks for the support and good wishes.

Better get back on-topic now for the sake of the thread!

 

[ITCC_Andrew]

Thank you guys. Been a hard old day, her friends were at my workplace and I found some photos of her in my drawer.

But yeah, life just about goes on, thanks for the support and good wishes.

Better get back on-topic now for the sake of the thread!

This is on-topic in this thread. You're talking about your first kiss, and the girl it was with. I don't think anyone minds.

But, when I get sad, I like to drive. Maybe you need a nicer car? Go do your thing. (In my case, that's driving an Impreza on snow, or driving a Volkswagen Jetta into things and rolling in iRacing.)

 

[MoLiEG]

This is on-topic in this thread. You're talking about your first kiss, and the girl it was with. I don't think anyone minds.

But, when I get sad, I like to drive. Maybe you need a nicer car? Go do your thing. (In my case, that's driving an Impreza on snow, or driving a Volkswagen Jetta into things and rolling in iRacing.)

That works for me... driving my car calms me down... 👍

 

[ITCC_Andrew]

That works for me... driving my car calms me down... 👍

It's not in your signature? I can't find out which one it is.

 

[McLaren]

Well we were both eight and I was staying round her house. It was a regular thing, we used to sit in sleeping bags in the sitting room. We were just friends at the time and we were playing Playstation (GT4 if I remember rightly) and after a race she looked at me and smiled, I smiled back and... Well one thing led to another and we kissed, ten seconds and a giggle from her later and it had happened. A couple of months later I had turned nine and on the way to a Swimming Competition (We both used to be keen swimmers, and she is now at a 'swimming school' of sorts, well known for breeding Olympians.) she asked me out. Not quite the usual way round but still.

We had such a lovely relationship, I basically lived in her house to the extent where most of my possesions were in her room rather than my own back home. We started out just as her mother gave birth to a little boy, Joe, he was like a younger brother to me. Things had a reached a peak this summer. We were hugely in love (I think), I'd proposed (Young foolishness yes, but at the time it seemed so right) and let's say, we went far beyond kissing.

Then she recieved a scholarship to the aforementioned school. She wasn't keen on leaving and crossing a sea to go there, and we'd only see eachother at 4-6 week intervals but I convinced her it was for the best if she pursued it. It was her dream after all. So things became long distance, but she called a hault to it all last month.
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That first kiss led to years of memories and moments, and it hurts knowing it's over but it's nice knowing her future horizons look bright while I sit here depressed. Sorry about this comment, just not a happy bunny as of late, as you can tell. I'd post a picture but, not sure if that's allowed.

I sympathize with you whole heartedly. There's nothing harder than a long distance relationship over a body of water. I was in one for a few years & at one point, wanted to marry her. But, as time went on & became harder for us to see each other, we both knew we couldn't take the distance much more. I couldn't afford to to pack up & move over seas, & she didn't want to live here, so we called it quits.

While I'm not saying this is how it would have panned out for you, but in a way, it may have been for the best it ended there than attempting to make it work over such long intervals. Because after a while, it just takes a toll on you emotionally when you want to see that person & texts/calls/etc. no longer substitute physical interaction.

Glad to know you wanted what was best for her & that you put her dreams ahead of you. It's tough, but in the end, it shows what kind of person you are to her. 👍

 

[Wilbur]

It's weird that still 14 years later, I remember my first kiss. She was one of the most beautiful girls I've ever see still and I compare most to her even if I don't know it. There just was something there that high school love wasn't always ment to last but I hung out with couple years ago and same spark was there. The thing is we just were in different places and it didn't end well even as friends.

It's sad to me that no one can hold a candle to her or the innocence she had (which wasn't all that after the kiss).

 

[adam46]

I sympathize with you whole heartedly. There's nothing harder than a long distance relationship over a body of water. I was in one for a few years & at one point, wanted to marry her. But, as time went on & became harder for us to see each other, we both knew we couldn't take the distance much more. I couldn't afford to to pack up & move over seas, & she didn't want to live here, so we called it quits.

While I'm not saying this is how it would have panned out for you, but in a way, it may have been for the best it ended there than attempting to make it work over such long intervals. Because after a while, it just takes a toll on you emotionally when you want to see that person & texts/calls/etc. no longer substitute physical interaction.

Glad to know you wanted what was best for her & that you put her dreams ahead of you. It's tough, but in the end, it shows what kind of person you are to her. 👍

Thanks McLaren, sorry to hear you've been through this too. In my more logical and less emotional moments I agree that it's probably for the best. I'm glad she listened to me because she is a very talented girl, usually doing well in national championships; Put it this way, I reckon she'll be an Olympic poster girl in the future. It's just going to take a mighty long while to get over her and her family as they were all such lovely people.

This was my first Christmas with my family for three years (I'd forgotten how bad the Roast Potatoes were here) as I spent it with hers. But yeah, I'm going to have to adapt to life without her at some point I suppose...

EDIT: Talk about being kicked when I'm down, I pick up the local newspaper for the first time in ages, and there she is. She looks so happy with her big, beautiful smile. All about her success since going to her new boarding school (Plymouth College if you're wondering) and how quick she is. It just hurts seeing her knowing I used to be able to contact her saying how great that is but now I can't. Don't get me wrong, I'm so glad she's happy, but now all the emotions and feelings have returned and it turns me into a crying heap.

 

[McLaren]

Have you contacted her at all? Just to say hi? Or congrats? You may not be dating, but I don't see why you can't keep in constant contact with her if you haven't.

Who knows. If she makes it big, she may very well remember you & make the effort to have you back in her life.

 

[adam46]

No. I never really bothered with mobile phone's until recently so I have no phone number and when we broke up she also blocked me on our only other form of contact, Facebook. I've told one of her friends to congratulate her for me but I'd be suprised if it got through to her. I'm tempted to go round her house and congratulate her either in person or just slip a note through the door but it's probably not a good idea?

But as for the last thing; It would be lovely but she'll be surronded by the muscular swimming folk of the world, I wouldn't have a chance... :/

 

[Frisky]

This is on-topic in this thread. You're talking about your first kiss, and the girl it was with. I don't think anyone minds.

But, when I get sad, I like to drive. Maybe you need a nicer car? Go do your thing. (In my case, that's driving an Impreza on snow, or driving a Volkswagen Jetta into things and rolling in iRacing.)

yeah mate, good luck with your future Adam, will be thinking of you today mate! It WOULD be a good idea! Go round to her house and congratulate her! Chances are, she's missing you as much as your missing her. And don't think all the muscle men will impress her, some girls aren't like that, and I highly doubt she'll forget you, you're basically her first love AND it sounds like you've had too many great memories to forget!

Just noticed Mel, you have me in your sig! I'm honoured!

 

[adam46]

yeah mate, good luck with your future Adam, will be thinking of you today mate!

Just noticed Mel, you have me in your sig! I'm honoured!

Thanks for that Frisky, all the support from you lovely group of people means a lot to me. You guys have been the only ones I can talk to as I don't have a traditional upbringing in terms of having a father figure. It's just me and nan and she has enough problems in life without knowing mine. So it's truly wonderful for me to have you guys to talk to about this.

Thank you everyone at

 

[MoLiEG]

It's not in your signature? I can't find out which one it is.

Nope, it isn't, and it never was there (It's a Renault Clio BTW)

No problem adam, it's nice to see we are helpful in some way

 

[ITCC_Andrew]

Nope, it isn't, and it never was there (It's a Renault Clio BTW)

👍 It wasn't, but it should be. Renault Clio is a nice car.

 

[Frisky]

Thanks for that Frisky, all the support from you lovely group of people means a lot to me. You guys have been the only ones I can talk to as I don't have a traditional upbringing in terms of having a father figure. It's just me and nan and she has enough problems in life without knowing mine. So it's truly wonderful for me to have you guys to talk to about this.

Thank you everyone at

No worries mate, everyone deserves some friendliness!

 

[Callum B]

I've been pondering to myself and I want to ask can I revoke my first kiss?
The girl it was with has turned out to be the biggest, most self centred slut to have ever come into physical contact with me and it makes me feel uneasy knowing I used to actually have feelings for her.

 

[Frisky]

I've been pondering to myself and I want to ask can I revoke my first kiss?
The girl it was with has turned out to be the biggest, most self centred slut to have ever come into physical contact with me and it makes me feel uneasy knowing I used to actually have feelings for her.

Yeah, you can exchange it, as long as you've got a reciept?

 

[Callum B]

Yeah, you can exchange it, as long as you've got a reciept?

Knowing her she's the sort of person who'd give out receipts after encounters with men.

 

[Frisky]

Knowing her she's the sort of person who'd give out receipts after encounters with men.

Ugh, I feel just a little bit of sick in my mouth...

 

[Callum B]

Ugh, I feel just a little bit of sick in my mouth...

You do? I went out with the... thing!
I have a vendetta against her, can you tell?

 

[McLaren]

No. I never really bothered with mobile phone's until recently so I have no phone number and when we broke up she also blocked me on our only other form of contact, Facebook. I've told one of her friends to congratulate her for me but I'd be suprised if it got through to her. I'm tempted to go round her house and congratulate her either in person or just slip a note through the door but it's probably not a good idea?

But as for the last thing; It would be lovely but she'll be surronded by the muscular swimming folk of the world, I wouldn't have a chance... :/

She blocked you? Wow, my sincerest apologies.

If you're going to congratulate her, do it in person. Doing it through a friend, or worse yet, with a note under her door isn't the greatest idea in the long run, because it's typically not a straight-forward form of conversation. Trust me, when I was younger, I did stuff like that & it ended up not working how I imagined it would. At least in person, you can control what you want to say & see exactly how she'll respond.

As for the last part, that's why I said if. But, you should give yourself some credit; you had a legitimate, long-term relationship with her. It's not like you're a guppy battling for her in a sea of sharks.

 

[adam46]

She blocked you? Wow, my sincerest apologies.

If you're going to congratulate her, do it in person. Doing it through a friend, or worse yet, with a note under her door isn't the greatest idea in the long run, because it's typically not a straight-forward form of conversation. Trust me, when I was younger, I did stuff like that & it ended up not working how I imagined it would. At least in person, you can control what you want to say & see exactly how she'll respond.

As for the last part, that's why I said if. But, you should give yourself some credit; you had a legitimate, long-term relationship with her. It's not like you're a guppy battling for her in a sea of sharks.

Yeah she blocked me. It was not a fun time. Okay then, I will go to her house and go knocking at some point soon. I've just got to try and find a little confidence, which all sort of went away after she removed me from her life.

Hmm well when she makes it I guess, even if we're never going to be what we used to be, it's something to say... "I used to date that girl with the gold medal." At the end of the day, she could've done much better, and I think she realised that. But I'd still support her through anything if I am required to do so. She's something special, I'm far from oblivious to that, and I just hope I can re-attain her friendship at least.

EDIT circa 2014: Deleted said photo form life and moved on, woop.

 

[Dean]

Very understandable, Adam. Again, 'losing' someone, from your life can be tough, though life'll go on anyway.