Well, to be honest it seems to me that all those Tea Party campaigners are making a mountain out of a molehill. Healthcare reforms aren't going to turn put the word "Soviet" in between the words "United" and "States" in the USA's name.
OK, what does health care have to do with gay marriage? What tea party people think about gay marriage is not the same among all of them. A Libertarian leaning tea party member would support gay marriage rights.
You seem to have some hang up on Republicans in the US based on the health care situation, and it appears to be overflowing into other discussions, like this one.
I know right now that I can point out multiple Republicans that are opposed to the health care reform but fully support gay marriage. You are trying to label all Republicans as some sort of hateful group, not recognizing that you are using the same prejudice against them that you have accused them of. You are becoming what you claim to dislike.
By the way, over here in Ireland the government is about to pass a bill allowing civil partnerships between homosexuals. The bill also covers co-habitation, and it's attempting to put some legal guidelines on what happens legally when a couple that has been co-habiting (sp?) for at least 2 years in cases with children or around 5 years otherwise has broken up.
My stance on gay marriage has little to do with sexual preference. As far as I am concerned any co-habitating should receive equal benefits as any married couple. Two heterosexual roommates living together purely for the financial benefit should be allowed to file taxes as one household, put each other on their insurance plans, and all other bonuses granted solely to married couples. If they are living together they have a financial symbiotic arrangement and their personal lifestyle has no effect on that whatsoever. It completely removes gay and/or straight from the equation. And of course, no one co-habitating would be required to legally tie themselves to the person they share a roof with, so roommates wont be fighting families for an inheritance unless they were granted some.
I thought about this because I had a roommate for over a year. When he got engaged and moved out I had to move out or find a new roommate due to costs. fortunately, that was planned and I had the opportunity to prepare months in advance. But if he had died in an accident I would get no financial recuperation, like life insurance, and have to figure out what I would do by the time the next rent check was due.
Similarly, on the actual marriage side of the issue, it no longer becomes a legal issue to worry about. Legal marriage is purely to grant the legal benefits of marriage. If those benefits do not exist as a part of marriage then marriage does not have to be a legal issue at all. It can go back to being one of those things performed by anyone in a group leadership role, such as a priest, ship captain, or justice.