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The General Relationship Thread
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Bump, with two links well worth reading.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=16926
http://www.fredoneverything.net/MoonPie.shtml
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=16926 http://www.fredoneverything.net/MoonPie.shtml
- 4,797
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Ok guys, I'm back. After a year of no relationships I got together with this group of girls (like 4 of them) and I spent a day with one of them, she is one of the few girls I have ever met that literally fits perfectly into everything I look for in a woman. I've known her for about a week now, and I hang out with her and her other close friend. I think she really likes me since we both zoned out on her friend and just started talking between one another. I'm in a friendzone with two people but it's only one of them I really like. I am extremely picky when it comes to girls and I give up easy on relationships, but for the first time I actually relate to her and she is really open (which has never been the case before). Everyone in this circle of friends is really good company but I'm afraid of asking her out alone or telling her that we should get together because it might ruin my relationship with the rest. Should I just wait and continually get closer to her until a relationship happens automatically? (Is that even possible?) Or should I straight up tell that we should start dating? Could she possibly make the first move?? 
Exactly like this but it's only been a week. It feels rushed if I make a move, but this guido guy is asking her out
Well, looks like I'm gonna have a new girlfriend sooner rather than later. Been seeing a girl for about 2 months now, before that we were friends but we have always been more friendly than normal friends so when we ended up confessing our feelings it was 'expected' by my friends.
Exactly like this but it's only been a week. It feels rushed if I make a move, but this guido guy is asking her out
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Should I just wait and continually get closer to her until a relationship happens automatically? (Is that even possible?) Or should I straight up tell that we should start dating? Could she possibly make the first move??
Ask her out already! You are the guy, you lead, you make the first move.
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It's only been a week, maybe less, I have spent three full days with her in total. Not counting lunch.
I was reading that usually to get yourself out the friendzone you make the girl you are "friends" with jealous by saying that you are hanging out with other women. Then she becomes desperate for you and begs for the comfort you gave her when you used to see her often. Ok, that makes sense.
Is it possible that she was talking about this guy (which I doubt she would ever date, if I think she has the brains I think she has) just to get me to beg for her, which I think she's slowly beginning to accomplish
. I mean, to her I'm just her friend. She probably doesn't know that I have feelings for her - is it possible that she is in the friendzone and not myself? 
Edit: A few days ago I was chatting with her and she was talking about her other friends who were men and brought up "I have other admirers, you know". But I know for a fact that she usually hangs out with her "girlfriends" and no guys, maybe in class but never outside of school like I was. Did she say that to make me jealous again?? I need professional help on this one
.What in the world should I do?
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If you're thinking of playing games, don't.
If she's playing games (which it appears she is), run.
On the subject of getting out of the 'friendzone', the best way is to accept it as a loss and move on. Maybe, a few years later, you might bump into the girl in question, and still find her cute.
Those years of separation will allow you to make a 'second' first-impression, and with a few more years of maturity and life experience under your belt, you may well catch her interest.
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I was just talking to her again, as soon as she starts up facebook, talking to me is her priority. She only knows me for a few days and already told ninety percent of her life story and personal life. The odds look really good. I may have just been misinterpreting the things she told me. Maybe the fact that she's open with me is why she let's everything slip. I'm going to wait a little bit. If this trend keeps repeating itself I'm asking her out. 👍
Edit: I'm pretty sure she likes me
I just had a 5 hour + conversation with her on Facebook. When I hint about ourselves being a good match she always quickly agrees and talks about our similarities. I was thinking about asking her out on Facebook but it doesn't seem gentleman like. I don't want to ask her out in front of her friends in public either. I don't mind a second opinion still.
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Update: Well, we have been seeing more and more and getting to that stage where you have to make sure you dont see TOO much of each other before making the plunge i to the Relationship.
And of course i'm ready for it. But I have a problem.
My exams are starting on Thursday, and end on May 17th. Great! Means I can focus on spending time with her as her official boyfriend, right?
No.
Practical Driving Test on the 7th June, but then a week later I go on a 'Lads Holiday' to Ibiza for a week. As you can guess its gonna be booze fueled-craziness, so Im really on edge about making things official and then being a dick abroad. So yeah, then Im back for a week, but then I'm off to Paris for a week with the family. I get back and 2 weeks later Im off to Ireland for 5 days.
As you can see I have a HELLUVA busy start to the summer. When do I ask her to be my full time Girlfriend? I mean would it be fair to ask her before I do all this stuff and then not have enough time for what many would view as the important part of the relationship?
And of course i'm ready for it. But I have a problem.
My exams are starting on Thursday, and end on May 17th. Great! Means I can focus on spending time with her as her official boyfriend, right?
No.
Practical Driving Test on the 7th June, but then a week later I go on a 'Lads Holiday' to Ibiza for a week. As you can guess its gonna be booze fueled-craziness, so Im really on edge about making things official and then being a dick abroad. So yeah, then Im back for a week, but then I'm off to Paris for a week with the family. I get back and 2 weeks later Im off to Ireland for 5 days.
As you can see I have a HELLUVA busy start to the summer. When do I ask her to be my full time Girlfriend? I mean would it be fair to ask her before I do all this stuff and then not have enough time for what many would view as the important part of the relationship?
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Just explain to her your intentions towards her, but also the fact that you've got a lot of stuff coming up that you need to concentrate on. I wouldn't go into too many details about the lads holiday though 
. She should appreciate your honesty, and i guess she'll have exams of some description coming up too anyway?
. She should appreciate your honesty, and i guess she'll have exams of some description coming up too anyway?
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- MoLieG
WHAT DA HELL DID I DO WRONG?!?!?!?!?!?!?!
I'm so confused....
AND... I'm leaving on a business trip tomorrow... No internet, only cellphone... but I really really doubt she will answer any of my SMS or Calls...
Again... so confused...
Why did I have to fall in love with the most MENTALLY UNSTABLE girl... in the World????.... (Jeremy Clarkson's voice)...
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Don't blame the girl.
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Have you changed since you've been with her? Being overly nice, always being around her, etc.?
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Not really, we don't see that often. We both work and stuff.
Maybe, maybe I've been too nice... but we've been like that for several months now... very "romantic" if you want... planning things for the future and things like that...
Something tells me that it has to do with her ex... for some reason, despite she has said to me several times he was a and that he hurt her... I think she still has some feelings for him... I think she misses that idiot...
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Personally, I think this part is your problem, or at least the part that you have the power to change. Contrary to the movies, most women don't want a sensitive, romantic guy who plans a fairytale future with her.
A little spontaneous romance is good, pamper her a little if she is having a rough time, maybe buy her some flowers for no reason at all, but it shouldn't get to the point that she can predict and expect it.
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I couldn't get her alone today to ask her out 
I need to make a move before the others do
And to make matters worse my close friend likes her as well. Kill me now. HELP!
(I was about to ask her out on Facebook but it seemed like the worst idea)
I need to make a move before the others do
And to make matters worse my close friend likes her as well. Kill me now. HELP!
(I was about to ask her out on Facebook but it seemed like the worst idea)
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Find a time when you can ask her out, simple.
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Man, I've just been striking out with the ladies lately. I don't get it. I'm a fairly decent person, confident, I've been told I'm funny, good in other areas, in great shape, and usually fairly easy going. I've always had it pretty easy with most ladies, unfortunately just not the ones I really like, ever. But lately I'm getting beat-out by world class losers. I know part of it is where I live. I'm not a hippie, but I harken to a more liberal, rock-reggae scene that fosters an image of hipsters, hippies, potheads, tree huggers, whatever you want to call it, which I am none of, but still carry with me like an accent. Where I live in Ohio is populated by mostly extremely conservative, down-home country type of people. So most women automatically don't like me because I don't own a cowboy hat and a jacked up pickup truck with mud for a paint job. I even lost a date because this superficial woman didn't like the fact that I owned a Yamaha instead of a Harley, lol! But c'mon even what I consider normal girls are shutting me down. Pisses me off. It's not like I'm a womanizer, just been looking for the one to settle down with. I gotta face the fact that not everybody finds that. 
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If you're looking, you won't find. Don't get frustrated, just keep it cool, there is no rush.
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I'm back:
I'm thinking about asking her close friend. She doesn't have as many followers/friends as the girl I'm wanting to ask out so she always wants to talk to me.
Should I ask her friend if the girl has told her about liking me? Would her friend even know? Is it a big mistake if I do? She missed out on 50% of my conversation with girl I like so she might not have the entire scoop.
I'm thinking about asking her close friend. She doesn't have as many followers/friends as the girl I'm wanting to ask out so she always wants to talk to me.
Should I ask her friend if the girl has told her about liking me? Would her friend even know? Is it a big mistake if I do? She missed out on 50% of my conversation with girl I like so she might not have the entire scoop.
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