The General Relationship Thread

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Found out info, but I can't act on it. I refuse to be responsible for someone else's heartache. If they dig a hole they cannot get out of then they have to face the consequences. But I am neither judge nor jury and I can't make those moves myself. I'm a fly on the wall.
 
So, stepping it up a notch.

I can't stop talking to my new girlfriend I have spent hours with her in real life and on Facebook. We can't get enough of each other and it's only been a week. I keep visiting her house and it's going better than I could have ever imagined.

I just don't know when I should get more intimate with her. She made some really suggestive comments on my first official day with her, she admitted it too. I'm too shy to get physical with her but she already hugged me and puts her hand on my shoulder (that was actually before we got together). I don't know how fast I should make a move, her main interest is my jokes but I think she might be looking for some more relationship related goodness. And that's what I'm bad at, last time I had a girlfriend I went way too fast and absolutely butchered it. But this girl likes it fast, I'm playing it safe for now, it's just hard from me to pull myself away from sarcasm and jokes which she loves (and initially got her into me) to more sexy stuff. I've experimented and sometimes I'm too silly and she wants to be serious and sometimes it's the other way around.

As for advice: I've known her for about two weeks and am her boyfriend for just under a week. I hope that helps you answer my questions.
 
Now that you're together, it shouldn't be a problem, just do what you feel is comfortable and everything should fall into place. :)

If it doesn't, talk to each other about it, if you don't talk you'll never know.
 
As somebody who just in the last few years decided to start getting into relationships I can say that it's totally about confidence. Even something that doesn't sound sexy can if said with enough intention, now that you are officially going out with her it should easy to 'turn the screw' from telling a joke one second to saying romantic stuff the next. Like trackripper said, don't try too hard, that will be obvious, but just be confident and believe in what you are saying, falseness shows through very easily to your partner even after a short space of time. 👍
 
terminator363
So, stepping it up a notch.

I can't stop talking to my new girlfriend I have spent hours with her in real life and on Facebook. We can't get enough of each other and it's only been a week. I keep visiting her house and it's going better than I could have ever imagined.

I just don't know when I should get more intimate with her. She made some really suggestive comments on my first official day with her, she admitted it too. I'm too shy to get physical with her but she already hugged me and puts her hand on my shoulder (that was actually before we got together). I don't know how fast I should make a move, her main interest is my jokes but I think she might be looking for some more relationship related goodness. And that's what I'm bad at, last time I had a girlfriend I went way too fast and absolutely butchered it. But this girl likes it fast, I'm playing it safe for now, it's just hard from me to pull myself away from sarcasm and jokes which she loves (and initially got her into me) to more sexy stuff. I've experimented and sometimes I'm too silly and she wants to be serious and sometimes it's the other way around.

As for advice: I've known her for about two weeks and am her boyfriend for just under a week. I hope that helps you answer my questions.
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Take small steps, gauge her reaction, take more small steps etc. How she responds to your actions should tell you everything you need to know. Just start slow and work up from there. A kiss, a longer kiss, a touch, a more intimate touch. Don't talk or ask for permission, just do it, her physical response will be your answer. If you get the sense she isn't into it, then slow down, go back a step, but continue on. Don't stop and start apologizing and backtracking, just discontinue what you were doing that you felt she didn't like but continue on with the things she did like.

Do this and this is how the conversation will go with her girlfriends.

"Giggle, giggle, giggle...ok so Term and I were making out on my bed like you know, and he was kissing me, then he slipped me his tongue and he's the greatest kisser...he was holding me in the small of my back and then he started moving his hand down and I thought we were going a little too fast you know, so I sort of gently moved his hand and moved it back up a bit and guess what? I didn't have to keep fighting him from moving his hand down and he didn't say a word, he just respected me and so we kept making out and....blah blah blah. I think next time I'll let him ________...etc. "

In other words, be bold, make your moves, let her dictate how far you go, respect her wishes, keep your mouth shut for the most part other than whispering encouraging sweet nothings in her ear, and let your actions tell her who you are. Never whine or complain about what you can't get, always be encouraging and supportive of her no matter how far she wants or doesn't want to go.

Hope that helps...
 
I'm going to watch Drive with her tomorrow :scared:

This happened because I was discussing the movie with her friend and accidentally got her excited to see it. My only fear is that it's too gory. Help please? :lol:

Is Drive a good date movie?
 
terminator363
I'm going to watch Drive with her tomorrow :scared:

This happened because I was discussing the movie with her friend and accidentally got her excited to see it. My only fear is that it's too gory. Help please? :lol:

Is Drive a good date movie?
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Well haven't been in a relationship in a while but I would think so. My sister and her boyfriend seemed to enjoy watching it together. But they watch a lot of gory stuff so they can watch a lot of things together haha.
 
lintels123
Well haven't been in a relationship in a while but I would think so. My sister and her boyfriend seemed to enjoy watching it together. But they watch a lot of gory stuff so they can watch a lot of things together haha.
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I haven't watched any gory stuff with her but she tells me the internet has already hardened her :lol: :scared:

Could I get some alternative film recommendations?
 
Funny. Always got to watch something funny. You can never go wrong down that route.
 
Superbad.


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In my experience funny movies help set the mood for things to come before the movies finish...=P

Good luck. Let us know how it goes dude. 👍
 
I sort of want her to get turned on as well, she's been wanting to get closer...

We already watched Premium Rush and Tokyo Drift together, we just weren't officially in a relationship then.
 
terminator363
I sort of want her to get turned on as well, she's been wanting to get closer...

We already watched Premium Rush and Tokyo Drift together, we just weren't officially in a relationship then.
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Isn't that like every man's goal when he watches a movie with a girl? To turn her on in some fashion?
I swear, it'd be a lot easier to just watch porn.

Don't let the movie dictate turning her on b/c that's not a guarantee. Make moves & gauge her reaction during the movie.
 
McLaren
Isn't that like every man's goal when he watches a movie with a girl? To turn her on in some fashion?
I swear, it'd be a lot easier to just watch porn.

Don't let the movie dictate turning her on b/c that's not a guarantee. Make moves & gauge her reaction during the movie.
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I'll watch something old with her, she says she loves those films...
 
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terminator363
I'm going to watch Drive with her tomorrow :scared:

This happened because I was discussing the movie with her friend and accidentally got her excited to see it. My only fear is that it's too gory. Help please? :lol:

Is Drive a good date movie?
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I can't believe I'm saying this but Crazy Stupid Love comes to mind. PG rated comedy about Steve Carell trying to recover after his marriage goes south, gets dating advice from supercool Ryan Gosling. Quite funny with a few turns and twists and at one point Ryan Gosling is forced to take his shirt off by a drunken date and that should be enough to turn any date on...the dude is cut...it worked for mine anyway...lol.
 
terminator363
I sort of want her to get turned on as well, she's been wanting to get closer...

We already watched Premium Rush and Tokyo Drift together, we just weren't officially in a relationship then.
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Just watch the movie and put your arm around her. Take it slow, start cuddling. Look in her eyes, kiss her slowly if she lets you (shouldn't be a problem) and then just go from there man. Never fails for me at least.
 
xStretch-
Yeah,

I just think thats wrong having a girl and then trying it with others. Don't waste her time.
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I'd been trying to get with the other for an exceptional amount for time and I just couldn't let go. I don't really have much choice now though. I agree it's wrong and that's why it's been put to rest.
 
Take into consideration that I have never kissed a girl before or been in any sort of relationship before while reading this.

Uno problemo guys, I met this girl a few weeks back and we really hit it of, we started texting in a friendly way. We met up again and had a good laugh together. Since then things have got more serious and we have both confessed our fondness of each other. I acted like the proper bf, not wanting to screw up. However she has got very attached and keeps saying how she needs me. We both know that this could be nothing more than a mutual crush, but i want to know what to do. I think i should go ahead and try to kiss to see what happens after that.
BTW. We live over an hour from each other so its will take more organisation to get to see her.

If there are any loose ends in the story or you need clarification on anything just ask.
Thanks.
 

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