Its quite a relief seeing that some of the younger generation are seeing the signs of what would lead to a terrible future, shows great maturity and you have a level head, Take it from someone who fell hard after learning the longer harder way of 3 years of chasing someone, (much more detailed and longer story for another time)
But I have now found it best to trust your gut, If you get the feeling that something isn't quite right, then it usually isn't, do try to hang around and see if its a just a phase (stress, depression etc), but if a phase seems to be a trend, which you can usually see in a couple of days, then they just aren't interested in you,
I was in a relationship for approximately 3 years, and from around 8 weeks in something just didn't feel right, I figured it was just nerves of being with someone again on a higher level as most of my previous relationships started or ended being long distance, we eventually moved in together and I ended getting to the point where I was feeling so depressed because I could never please this person, I continually felt like I was doing everything wrong, she would continually break up with me, then come running back a day or 2 later, I had also started a new job as a heavy vehicle driver, in which knowing I needed to be well rested between drives, she would continually pinch me, poke me, kick and punch me, but because I was a reletively heavy sleeper I would wake up thinging I was dreaming what just happened to the point where I would lay awake thinking "what am I going to do to myself tonight?
Eventually my gut instinct just went, Something does not add up, if you continue to be with this woman for what ever reason she will eventually kill you, via, stress, depression, over tired and driving etc, So I started staying at friends houses after work and telling her, "I Have to work again tonight, So I won't be home" or "I'm travelling Interstate overnight so I won't be home for a few days"
Then one day I had this really strange feeling after reading a facebook post by her, Can't remember it, but it really rattled my cage, That night I packed everything and left while she was out with a friend or two, and left, moved over 100km from her, changed my number, deleted facebook was able to change jobs (My 2 bosses were good friends and were aware of the situation so they were happy to help, Also loaned me the Semi and 3 workers to move everything quickly)
I found out 2 days later, from her best friend who contacted me through a mutual friend and she said that my former partner still wasn't aware that I had left, and that she had tried to stab her own brother at the place I was meant to meet them, to later go on to tell me that she had been cheating on me from day 1, and a bunch of other stuff,
So in short, I always invest 100% of myself to a relationship, If you don't and do not get the same in return your pretty much wasting each others time, which really isn't fair in the long run,
And if you get a gut feeling something doesn't add up prior to committing yourself, just wait it out before doing so,
Since I learned this lesson, I found my current partner, we have been together for almost 5 years now, we took it so slowly that we only moved in together this year, and life together has been great,
. If you're pathetic and your self esteem is low, you take your testicles, put them in a box and hand them to her and say, "It's ok honey, I now have no testicles, they are yours and you can stomp on them as often as your little heart desires"
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