And that's going to change your entire DNA?
It always disappoints me to see such rigid thinking. No one is playing pretend. Who they are is who they tell me they are. If someone tells me they prefer a certain set of pronouns, I use them. If someone tells me they have a new name, I use it. I do it for two reasons. First is simple decency. Second is that it costs me nothing. It does not cost me my dignity to address a person they way they want to be addressed. If anything, it adds to the dignity and self-worth of the person I'm addressing, and my own as well.
I didn't say I won't call Brett Betty.
I'm saying I won't call Brett/Betty a woman.
You'd be surprised how easy it is to just never refer to a person as he or she.
It depends on what you mean when you say "man". If you mean y chromosome, ok yea you're right. If you mean conform to a series of male stereotypes, I'm not with you.
"Men" come in all kinds of shapes and sizes. That includes bone structure, body mass, fat displacement, head size, even DNA.
That depends on what you mean by "make". If you mean a series of stereotypes associated with a particular set of chromosomes, I'm not with you. If you mean your chromosomes, I'm on board.
I agree with all of that. It's the part where they insist when they start to look hypocritical to me.
Well luckily not a single thing I mentioned was a stereotype of behavior.
I was trying to avoid the car analogy, but my point in a nutshell is that slapping some body panels and undercarriage on a Dodge Neon doesn't make it a Viper.
Even if I replace the engine, transmission, entire exterior and undercarriage, it's still a Neon.
Also, I think it's worth everyone noting that we're using low percentage rarities to try to redefine all of this.
I think a lot of this new era acceptance is great. Girls don't have to play with dolls, boys can wear pink, and people can please themselves as they wish.
-But- None of that is asking all of society to play pretend.
If that's the case (I can't recall what the research on this came up with) then surely we should be helping them, not making their lives as difficult as possible?
Playing into someones delerious fantasy is help?
Is that how we help people with mental problems? Just go along with whatever they say and want?
What about after we play pretend and they realize that it's not real?
What about the suicidal depression that follows that?
Or do we just do what feels good now, put a smile on their face and the suicide is their problem not ours?
So where does someone who is transgender stand with you then? If they were born female but have transitioned to a male including having sexual re-alignment surgery, which pronouns should they use? Which bathroom should they go in to?
A victim.
I see them as a victim of a society that allows them to divulge so far into a fantasy that they risk their own health taking it farther, only to eventually figure it all out.
What ever happened to being comfortable in your own skin, and loving yourself for who you are?
Oh, that requires mental health, isn't a band-aid fix and doesn't generate as much money.
Hormone replacement therapy can though. It changes how your body fat is distributed (I mean...you can literally grow breasts if you're MtF) and, if started before puberty has fully finished, can apparently adjust bone structure to some degree (although research is still being done about the effect of HRT on bones)
Yes, you can risk life and limb to become a modified version that still isn't what you want, nor is what you naturally, actually are.
I can't wait to hear how science is going to make men produce eggs before they're born!
I am just more at peace knowing that as long they are allowed to be who they want, without harming anyone, are happy then I can live with that too. It is still illogical to me, but I already made peace not being able to understand everything.
