What exactly is wrong with gay rights, women having equal rights, diversity and multi-culturalism?
I have been thinking about this, and I have come up with an interesting answer - there is nothing inherently wrong with it, we're just going about it in the wrong way.
We debate at length the status of gender rights, gay rights, civil rights and so on and so forth; in this conversation, we look at it in the context of the Islamic world, calling for immediate reform, but we have lost sight of the path that we took to get there ourselves. How long did it take for the civil rights movement to take hold?
Decades. We still haven't sorted out gender equality and gay rights. We're getting there, but the point is that it takes time for change to take hold. But here we are, calling for the Islamic world to change almost overnight, and then we wonder why they resist. If it took us years to achieve it, it's going to take them years to achieve it, but by trying to bring that change about quickly, it gets interpreted as "forget your values and adopt ours". We expect them to accept that our depictions of the Prophet are freedom of speech, but there has been no real recognition from the West that it is considered blasphemy and upsetting to Muslims, aside from "okay, you're angry, but it's still freedom of speech".
Look at the outrage surrounding Putin's anti-gay propaganda laws in the build-up to the Sochi Olympics. There were threats of a boycott, and politicians telling Russia that they needed to take a more progressive, more enlightened approach. But there was no recognition that Russia is a very conservative country - when Pussy Riot performed the song that got them arrested, the backlash stemmed from the way they performed a song called "God's ****" in a major church (the band even admitted that their lyrics weren't clear, so people took it as an attack on religion, not the attack on Putin that it was intended to be). Homosexuality is barely tolerated (much less accepted) in the cities, and once you get out of the metropolitan areas, there is no tolerance at all. And yet, we had politicians telling Russia that they needed to forget their conservative values and embrace the gay community - but there was no explanation as to why.
I think the same problem applies here. We see these progressive ideas as the positives that they are, but we forget that they take time to embed themselves in a cultural consciousness and come to fruition. Hence, when we push for the adoption of these ideas, we push too hard and it is interpreted as cultural imperialism.