Some of you manual-trans afficianados are badly overstating the case against automatic transmissions, and it's not helping your credibility any.
I've been driving automatic and manual transmission cars of all types for 30 years, and I have never ONCE met one that takes an ACTUAL "1-2 seconds" to kick down. Most that I've driven downshift at least 1 pop, if not 2, as soon as your foot hits the floorboard. And it's not like an automatic transmission will suddenly and arbitrarily shift somewhere delicate and hurl you off the side of the road.
Sometimes they'll downshift a little later than you want. Sometimes they'll upshift a little sooner than you want. But it's not like there is some random-number generator stuck in the bottom of the car that arbitrarily decides when and how to shift. The car actually does react to the driver's input.
Maybe that's the problem I'm having: The only car in which I've had this problem was my stepmom's Saturn Outlook, the engine of which she complains about.
She, however, is retarded. She acknowledges that the car is fast, but not immediately. It's actually a wonderful engine combined with a gearbox which maniachally seeks sixth gear.
It's a 280 hp engine and very quick, but on freeways I actually find myself apologizing/cursing "Come on, downshift, downshift, downshift, downshift. Okay, eventuall-- eek!" It's so much more coherent on cruise control, but that just takes even more control away from me. And of course, if I were to opt for the mode in which you use the +/- functions on the autostick thingy, they'd assume I was doing it to feel like a racer.
Which would be catastrophic combined with the foot-operated e-brake.
But yeah, I think my hatred comes from driving a car that is borderline broken. I would kill for that 1-2 seconds you described as unnatural.
EDIT: You know, I just considered: I'd only be driving that car with either my dad or stepmom, both perfectly stereotypical fat Americans who avoid as much work as possible. Basically, I can actually use cruise control for 100% of my highway driving in that thing. The +/- buttons on the steering wheel help that cause quite a lot. I wonder what the upper/lower bounds for that system is?
EDIT (again): Also, I have no issues with losing control of the car in the typical, panicky sense. I'm worried about slowly grinding to a halt. As Econolines pile into the groceries in back.