Well I'm not sure I feel this way anymore almost 16 years later. The last 5-6 years have seen an explosion of highly visible racism from white people. I definitely did not understand how many racist people are out there until quite recently. I definitely today know white people who are as racist as racist can be, but they wouldn't have shown their true colors (at least not to me) 16 years ago.
I think I can answer this one too. It's not just about playing the victim. It's that visible racism from white people was not tolerated well socially for a long time (in America)... until recently. But racism from some minority groups has been tolerated for a long time, and is socially acceptable. So it's highly visible from the group that feels justified and accepted for saying it. Case in point, John Oliver's latest segment, which is for the most part quite poignant and entertaining:
John Oliver - Hair WARNING: NSFW Language
At the end, he has a few guest speakers on and they go on a bit of a rant. It's all fun and games (mostly), and is meant to be taken lightly and with humorous intent. At least one of them makes a number of racist statements. Can you imagine the skin colors of the final group being switched to white and them talking about black people in that way? Even today, even in light of the outspoken racism that we see among authoritarians, I cannot imagine that last scene being replayed with white people speaking that way about black people. Many racist white people on TV programs (like Tucker Carlson) still resort to euphemisms like "heritage" and "anglo saxon culture".
We tolerate racism from minority groups
so much, and I find it appalling. I found it appalling 16 years ago when I felt compelled to write these... poorly phrased... posts. I still find it appalling today. It's temping to excuse this as a backlash to the rise in outspoken racism from white people in recent years, but it can also
encourage outspoken or even merely adopted racism among white people. You can't signal racism in a positive light, as "community" or familial collective, without also encouraging it.
I found the end of John Oliver's segment to be quite distasteful, and a harmful message. And it is appalling to me that we (most of society of all backgrounds) tolerate this, given that we would otherwise instantly recognize how harmful those statements are. Again, I know this is meant to be taken lightly, and I can appreciate racist humor, yes at the expense of white people. But these were not just jokes, they were meant more deeply than that.